Don't play the victim

[mahon83050]

I know alot of guys including myself start to feel sorry for themselves for their lack of success with women. It is tempting to wallow in self-pity, but it does not do you any good. I have some emotional problems that have fukked with my self-esteem for years and have definitely interfered with my sucess with women.

Others are born not so handsome, or with a handicaped, juvenile diabetes or a learning disability. Getting depressed over it and screaming....Why god? or God you owe me? does not help the situation one bit. Moral of the story, stay positive, do not fall into the pity trap. Most of all, remember EVERYONE has issues, even Brad Pitt I am sure.

 

[Francisco d'Anconia]

What makes the difference between men and boys are the ways that they handle their issues.

 

[KiInCollege]

Originally posted by Francisco d'Anconia
What makes the difference between men and boys are the ways that they handle their issues.

Exactly, however I'll go a little deeper.

People that blame their problems on their environment are externalizers. Their failures in school, on the job, and with women are attributed to some kind of "bad luck" that they don't "deserve." From my description, you can conclude that this type of person does the worst in their endeavors because of their lack of responsibility and reliance on "fate."

Then there are internalizers. These people strive for achievement and recognition. When a hurdle is in their path and they trip over it, they know that if they train harder they can make it over that hurdle. They know it is up to them to improve themselves to prepare for what life throws their way. They write their own destiny. Internals make great entrepreneurs and are successful in life.

 

[die4me]

Sometimes you feel like you need to fall into a self-pity mode, crying over all your failures, but just keep busy and have fun. Life is too short to waste time.

 

[jakethasnake]

Great post, Mahon! I like this new attitude of yours!

 

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