don't get it

[jack03]

I try to handle better with women but i don't get it. It's hard to me to understand why i have to do so much to get a girl and she nothing for it. i try to get the dj skills but it's so difficult. i tried to talk to women but mostly they aren't interested. I am not a fat guy or so. i am normal i would say.... i just dont have a clue what i should do
If i get rejected i try to look over it and go on. but it hurts i cant change that. sorry im a wussy in your eyes i want to change that but everytime i think i try to show the women that i am not one the girls dont recognize me as a dj
i just dont know what to do.

Sorry for my bad english i'm from germany....

 

[mrbreeze]

Saaay Hey Jack,
Your like most of us, don't feel so all alone. Just try and be friendly and as funny as your own personallity will allow. Say "Hi" or "Hello" to as many people as you can muster. It gets easier after a while, I promise! doesn't matter if they look like ya grandma....Just be friendly, and get used to sayin' Howdy...lol. Pretty soon you will notice your makin' pretty girls laugh. Ya done made the first step...Findin' this site...You are on your way....Woooooooo Hoooooooooooo

 

[jack03]

i tried it ... nothing changed

 

[silverdog]

I know how that feels at times, the best thing you can do is keep going strong, don't let it let you down, it's not a race, the good thing is your actualy doing some thing.

 

[jack03]

hmmmm perhaps the girls like to fool me around... perhaps thats it what they want to do...
i should give up.... that all makes no sense to me with the girls....

 

[carbani]

When a salesman tries to sell you a car, and you see that It's a dirty, wrusty wreck - whatever he does, he won't convice you that he's got many customers for it.
If he repaints it, cleans it - customers will appear and he won't have to convice you to his offer. It won't be a reck, it will be a classic car.

Examine yourself - what clothes do you wear, how is your apperrance, and how are you. If you don't have life and you look like punk - ask yourself a question: what could I do to make my life better? What could I do to make myself look better?

Do it! Find a better job (or find any), buy yourself a new clothes, learn etiquette, find a hobby. Get yourself a new haircut, learn how to dance. In no time you'll notice that although you're still not perfect and you have your flaws, other people no longer pity you. They admire and respect you. You have confidence. You notice that you no longer care that much about girls, and when one of them rejects you - It's nothing for you.

The essence of being DJ is not the game, it's about focusing on yourself and discovering that you no longer need the game. Of course learning of it's rules won't hurt you, but that's another story.

Now - take your pencil out and write 8 things that you want to change in yourself. Next - pick a date. A new year's eve perhaps? Make a commitment that you'll do everything to change those things. Prepare your plan. What and when will you do. Will you go to a hair stylist on monday? Will you begin bungee jumping? Will you find a book about poem writing? It's up to you. On that day, the day you selected, you will look behind and smile. You'll be another, better person.

Regards,
Carbani

"Twenty years from now you will be more disappointed by the things that you didn't do than by the ones you did do. So throw off the bowlines. Sail away from the safe harbor. Catch the trade winds in your sails. Explore. Dream. Discover." -- Mark Twain

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I'm a good mood today, so I decided that I can send you some nice materials about positive thinking and so on, pm me (you'll find a PM button below this post)
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