Done with online dating

[tryst type]

Things I've realized and I'm over it

1. The more attractive girls rarely if ever respond to your messages and if they do quickly show that they're just on for attention with no real intention of meeting anyone.

2. The less attractive girls put up just the right pictures to deceive you and play the most games, ie hard to get/always busy but eventually will meet up

3. The girls in #2 turn out to look completely different than their pics and it all makes sense why they're patient about meeting up - to build fake value

4. Online dating has worked twice in my experience where a girl actually looked like her pics, didn't have any emotional baggage. These girls were generally new to the whole thing and quickly there after disabled their accounts.

Anyone care to share anything else? It's time to meet girls in real life 110% of the time. Most of the girls I've met off a site I ask myself when we're together: would I have approached her if I'd just seen her somewhere public? 95% of the time the answer is nope.

 

[Big Nuts]

Online dating levels the playing field for men...unfortunately, you have to be at lease average to above average looking.

I banged 8 chicks without even trying, all 7s-8s. The beauty of online dating is you can spin plates like a mofo with almost no effort.

If a chick digs you and starts the avalanche of sh!t tests, you can happily shrug your shoulders knowing that there are thousands of other women online if this one gets silly.

It really is like shooting fish in a barrel...not sure how men have a hard time with it.....I could literally have 7 dates a week....I don't, because I am busy living. I have another buddy killing it online too.

 

[tryst type]

Online dating levels the playing field for men...unfortunately, you have to be at lease average to above average looking.

I banged 8 chicks without even trying, all 7s-8s. The beauty of online dating is you can spin plates like a mofo with almost no effort.

If a chick digs you and starts the avalanche of sh!t tests, you can happily shrug your shoulders knowing that there are thousands of other women online if this one gets silly.

It really is like shooting fish in a barrel...not sure how men have a hard time with it.....I could literally have 7 dates a week....I don't, because I am busy living. I have another buddy killing it online too.

I'm merely referring to number of women who don't look as good in real life as their pictures and the ones that appear to be attractive seem like they're just on for attention.

 

[yyc12]

All dating has its challenges and is a numbers game. IRL, 19/20 aren't even single and you have to approach enough 1/20 just to get anywhere. OLD, 19/20 profiles are dead and you have to write enough of the 1/20 just to get anywhere. There is no easy route to quality vagina...at least for the typical guy.

 

[Reyaj]

You know for someone that does both real world sarging and now new to the online.... not much difference lol

 

[Sandow]

Things I've realized and I'm over it

1. The more attractive girls rarely if ever respond to your messages and if they do quickly show that they're just on for attention with no real intention of meeting anyone.

2. The less attractive girls put up just the right pictures to deceive you and play the most games, ie hard to get/always busy but eventually will meet up

3. The girls in #2 turn out to look completely different than their pics and it all makes sense why they're patient about meeting up - to build fake value

4. Online dating has worked twice in my experience where a girl actually looked like her pics, didn't have any emotional baggage. These girls were generally new to the whole thing and quickly there after disabled their accounts.

Anyone care to share anything else? It's time to meet girls in real life 110% of the time. Most of the girls I've met off a site I ask myself when we're together: would I have approached her if I'd just seen her somewhere public? 95% of the time the answer is nope.

I've stopped online dating for these reasons. And also, there's just a weird feeling between both people, knowing that this wasn't natural, kind of an awkward, non romantic feeling.

I had a girl who actually put fake pics on her profile! I'm not even kidding, when we met up I couldn't even recognize her, she had to introduce herself cause I had no ideal who she was. When I looked up her profile a week later, she took em down and put up her real pics! WTF is wrong with these girls? What are they actually expecting when they finally meet up? Unreal.

My reason for online dating was because it was convenient and I was lazy. It was a hell of a lot easier meeting multiple girls and it skipped the whole awkward rejected feeling and constantly cold approaching random girls.

In my head I thought this was going to be a slam dunk, but it was quite the opposite. You got really messed up girls on there. None of them, and I mean none, looked remotely close to their pics. Well, at least now I know.

 

[tryst type]

I've stopped online dating for these reasons. And also, there's just a weird feeling between both people, knowing that this wasn't natural, kind of an awkward, non romantic feeling.

I had a girl who actually put fake pics on her profile! I'm not even kidding, when we met up I couldn't even recognize her, she had to introduce herself cause I had no ideal who she was. When I looked up her profile a week later, she took em down and put up her real pics! WTF is wrong with these girls? What are they actually expecting when they finally meet up? Unreal.

My reason for online dating was because it was convenient and I was lazy. It was a hell of a lot easier meeting multiple girls and it skipped the whole awkward rejected feeling and constantly cold approaching random girls.

In my head I thought this was going to be a slam dunk, but it was quite the opposite. You got really messed up girls on there. None of them, and I mean none, looked remotely close to their pics. Well, at least now I know.

Exactly! I had a similar thing happen where girl was using pics of her friend! She had decency to confess night before getting together

 

[pdx1138]

4. Online dating has worked twice in my experience where a girl actually looked like her pics, didn't have any emotional baggage. These girls were generally new to the whole thing and quickly there after disabled their accounts.

Those are the rare gems.

They use it briefly, meet someone, then close or disable their account for the duration of the relationship.


Then there are the 95% who've been on for years and will continue to be there for years...

 

[nismo-4]

A man's online dating profile is only as strong as his WORST picture.

 

[like2jam]

Well, so far all of the women I've met recently have looked as good or better than in their pics.

My main frustration though is with the sheer number of women who don't respond due to my age ( being over 40 is a death nail online ). If I were to lie and say I was 35, I guarantee that I would be getting way more interest. I had it that way for a while, but then I got more honest, not sure why. I may have to lie again if I continue to try to get women this way.

I've met two boring duds, a cool girl who wasn't super hot but I wanted to nail, who turned into a game player. And another woman who is a recent divorcee who is a bit clingy already but I know I can easily make it with her.

All in all though, I'm fairly discouraged about the pool. Again, it's mostly my age. If I were 30, things would be a different story.

 

[Fruitbat]

Nothing like real life sarging in the slightest. I probably about 50/50 on a normal night out whether I will hook up, make out or at least get a number.

Online I get virtually zero, other than v ugly or fat chicks I have no interest in, or circular conversations with attention *****s.

Online is ALL about looks, you can't demonstrate value in your profile (I refuse to put a load of stuff on my profile about my car, my income, as many guys do in a veiled way)

I really think a large number of the guys on there are in relationships already. I have had a look at other guys profiles and there are loads of good looking, ripped dudes who would have no problem whatsoever in walking into a bar and picking up women.

I have had several very bad dates, I have also had girls chat, and then come back to me 4 weeks after, despite I can see they are active, to which I NEVER allow them a date, because it's clear she was being games by one of the dudes in a vest with a chisselled jaw and now thinks, OK, maybe I'll give this average looking Joe a shot. She knows that's what happened, I know that's what happened, and worst of all, she knows I know what's happened!

I literally hate the shallowness of most of the women on these sites, I know for a fact if I could sarge them up in real life I'd probably bang quite a lot of them, but you can't get it accross online.

Onlie good if you have looks, stay the hell away if you are average looking.

I feel it's kind of pathetic in a way, people flood their profiles of pictures of them with their friends looking oh-so-happy, sat with their car, etc. I am not made for online because I just have a few shots of my face and one full length shot. I cannot be bothered trying to put up an act. Women are stupid though I guess.

 

[evan12]

Online dating is bad , but gave me many dates , but for sure dont expect some thing serious , just take it fun and be cool .

 

[EastvsWest]

In the last few months I have met women everywhere...and to tell you the truth it's all been a pain in the ass. I am an average dude and I go to a lot of social events, bars, and do online.

I meet a lot of chicks as bars but they either have a boyfriend (lie or not who cares), girls you get the number but they flake, or chicks you don't want to bang. Yes occasionally there will be that rare instance where you get a slut but...really who really wants a slut. I am over it. In the last 3 months I have gotten 6-7 numbers all flaked, and met 3 really cool chicks with boyfriends. Along with a number of chubbies not intrested in.

Online dating? Yes it's frustrating as hell as women really do have the advantage. But you know what? First off you know these chicks 90% of the time are single and actually looking to date. And if you stay away POF and do OKcupid or Match you have a lot higher quality of chicks. The key really is to only message chicks that have viewed your profile. Any others they won't respond or are probably inactive. The last few months I have met around 5 chicks. So far 1 was super hot, 2 were very cute, and 2 were kinda downers(chubby) And of those the super hot one not sure what happened but we had fun for a few dates. The 2 chubbies I never contacted again, and of the cute ones 1 was looking for a sugadaddy, and the other one is still up in the air currently.

It all really sucks. And you know what my chick friend *****es about it all constantly also. All of the games is what is ****. I wish I could just say....hey I like you we had a fun first date...lets go out again very soon. But if I did that? I am somehow needy. **** I just like you! I ain't needy and you get to know me you will know that!

It all comes down to...WHO GIVES A **** where you meet a chick if she is cool and you like each other. It could be in the line at burger king for all I care.

 

[BeDJ]

When I did online dating, create good openers and copy and paste responses. After the 4th exchange, tell them that you think they're pretty cool with a good head on their shoulders and leave your number.
If they text you, they will most likely want to meet up. These are the chicks worth pursuing.

 

[Dust 2 Dust]

5. The woman who posts pics that are 10 years old.

6. The Yankee b1tch who wants to date a southern gentleman. News flash, southern men hate northern women.

7. The "I'm tired of dating jerks" profile. She gets pumped and dumped by guys out of her league and there will be no inflection on her part.

8. Attractive mentally sane women don't need online dating. Women don't go online until after they've poisoned the local well.

 

[myopoh]

In my experience, I've gotten about 10 lays out of about 150 shots. Not worth it in my experience.

 

[Lexington]

Online dating is all about playing the numbers game to the extreme. If you live in the middle of Bumfvck, you're going to have very little success with it simply because of low numbers of women. If you live in a big city though (New York, LA, Chicago etc.) there is a much larger selection. You throw a bunch of sh*t at the wall and see what sticks.
In New York, I've managed to get a pretty steady supply of pvssy from OkC and POF. Basically, I just mass message a bunch of girls and pursue the ones that show interest. In general, I can get better looking women in bars and clubs but I've gotten with some hotties I met online as well.
Online dating is a poor substitute for real life gaming, but it can be a good supplement.

 

[Wolfgang D]

All dating has its challenges and is a numbers game. IRL, 19/20 aren't even single and you have to approach enough 1/20 just to get anywhere. OLD, 19/20 profiles are dead and you have to write enough of the 1/20 just to get anywhere. There is no easy route to quality vagina...at least for the typical guy.

Online dating is all about playing the numbers game to the extreme. If you live in the middle of Bumfvck, you're going to have very little success with it simply because of low numbers of women. If you live in a big city though (New York, LA, Chicago etc.) there is a much larger selection.

This is true.

Of course you won't have luck with most of those you write to. Can't believe that people complain about it. Would those girls sit around just waiting for you, ignoring all the other guys who write to them? The attractive ones will have options. Just like in real life. You just have to try again.

Writing to twenty women takes maybe an hour, because even though you copy and paste most of the PM, you want to add something at the beginning that shows you have read her PM - if you don't, you deserve to never get a reply. Twenty women, while you would be spending that hour on one woman at the pub. And you can't know if that woman will sleep with you either, or if she is even single.

Like Lexington says, living in a big city helps a lot. Having an attractive picture of yourself also helps. Surprise: just like guys write to the attractive women on the site, so do the women write to the attractive men.

Online dating works, but for some it doesn't. For most it works only after you have spent a lot of time and effort. Just like real-life dating. The endless complaints about dating need to be smacked down. This world was not set up to make things easy for you. You get some free apples on tree branches, but other than that you have to do some hard work.

 

[Colossus]

Online dating levels the playing field for men...unfortunately, you have to be at lease average to above average looking.

I banged 8 chicks without even trying, all 7s-8s. The beauty of online dating is you can spin plates like a mofo with almost no effort.

If a chick digs you and starts the avalanche of sh!t tests, you can happily shrug your shoulders knowing that there are thousands of other women online if this one gets silly.

It really is like shooting fish in a barrel...not sure how men have a hard time with it.....I could literally have 7 dates a week....I don't, because I am busy living. I have another buddy killing it online too.

I totally agree.

I think if you are above average looking (i.e. a male 7-8) and a clever writer, you can CLEAN HOUSE with online dating.

In my 4 or so years of doing it off and on, I probably:

Dated at least 100 different women
Laid at least 20-25
LTR'ed 3

I will also concur that it is a time hog and a pretty foolproof way for very average women to inflate their perceived value. I have tons of experience with it, have written guides, and helped some good friends maximize it's utility. There is good and bad. Statistically, I think the vast majority of women on there are decidedly average in terms of their SMV and westernized mindsets. There ARE gems, however, but like actual geology gems are quite rare!! You may find one or two or you may never find any.

All approaching and dating is a numbers game. Sarging is actually harder, I think, and you have to work more for it. But I did what worked for me. I think in the end it doesn't matter where you meet the girl you like, just that you did. Who cares. Haters gonna hate, and haters aren't out there going on dates and hitting the streets.
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Having said all that though, I also agree with you, Tryst. I'm over it. Done. Been there, done that. I cancelled my profile several months ago probably for the last time. I wanna move on to the next chapter.

 

[corrector]

Well, so far all of the women I've met recently have looked as good or better than in their pics.

My main frustration though is with the sheer number of women who don't respond due to my age ( being over 40 is a death nail online ). If I were to lie and say I was 35, I guarantee that I would be getting way more interest. I had it that way for a while, but then I got more honest, not sure why. I may have to lie again if I continue to try to get women this way.

Well, like Fruitbat I have the consolation that online dating sucked when I seriously tried it when I was 30 years old, and even on the Christian sites I've only been attracting "special case" type of girls while being politely rejected or ignored by normal girls.

So, if I'm over 40 years old and am honest then it probably won't be any worst than the response I have gotten when I was 30 years old, or what I'd probably get today.

I've met two boring duds, a cool girl who wasn't super hot but I wanted to nail, who turned into a game player. And another woman who is a recent divorcee who is a bit clingy already but I know I can easily make it with her.

All in all though, I'm fairly discouraged about the pool. Again, it's mostly my age. If I were 30, things would be a different story.

Did you try online dating when you were 30? I can tell you that, like Fruitbat said, unless you really have a good pic online, and know how to connect with women on there that age doesn't matter as the experience will still suck.

If the experience wasn't so fvcking bad with me then I'd be having profiles on there since I was 30 years old and still trying. I quit a number of times because the responses were either too brutal, or the people I connected with were all "special cases" with tonnes of issues.

From what I can tell of whatever pool I did have at 36 years old it sucked, whoever I connected to at 30 years sucked, just once in a blue moon I may make a connection with someone. With stats like that even if I went on at 50 years old it probably wouldn't be better or worst than what I've been getting.

So, yeah, lie about your profile age, it's not like it will go anywhere anyway. Most women don't bother asking for your driver's license to prove your age anyway and if they do, you probably don't want to date them.