Does This Girl Deserve Exclusivity??

[soulforge]

I have been seeing this girl now for 7 months on a weekend basis, and recently I have noticed her feelings developing even further for me.

She has asked me to spend more time with her, and hints of being exclusive to her in a PROPER relationship.

I want to give you some information about this chick, and how things have been between us so far.. I hope you guys can give me some guidance.

Firstly she is 41 years old, and I am 43 years old.

She has a grown son of 27 and another son who is 14.

Looks wise she is only a 6/10 which is not great, but she has a 9/10 body, and in very good shape, with great firm Titties lol.

She gives me all the sex I want, no questions asked!

In the last 7 months, we have not had one single argument.
She is ALWAYS respectful, and never making dumb rude comments.

She always offers to pay her way, if we go out for meals or out drinking etc.. She does not expect me to pay for everything.

She is very intentive in the sense, that I have a few bodybuilding related injuries, so she always gives me massages in the injured area, and asks me how i feel quite often.

She is NOT a bar girl, does not go out to bars and clubs getting drunk with her friends etc.. She dresses well without looking tarty or attention seeking.

She is NOT on lots of social media platforms, and does not spend her day glued to her mobile!

The only few things that are holding me back a little from a full on relationship with her is this..

01. Looks wise I am certain I can do better than her?
02. She does not have a great career, and does not earn much money.

I could easily find a richer and more attractive woman, however considering how woman are THESE DAYS she could turn out to be a complete monster.

I would essentially be trading in a girl who is of good moral values, for a girl who is good looking and could turn out to be a chitty person!

I would like to point out, even though this girl I am seeing is only a 6 in the face, i don't find her ugly or anything like that.. I just know I can do better looks wise.

Plus, she has a VERY nice body, and gives me great sex!

So guys from what I have described, is giving her exclusivity the right thing to do?

So far my assessment is, she is a nice woman, and it does not feel right to hurt her, but I feel like I should still spin plates and keep my options open.

From experience I have seen, how a QUALITY woman can go from treating you like a KING to not giving zero fuks about you over night, when a better prospect comes along, or her feelings CHANGE

 

[mrgoodstuff]

I have been seeing this girl now for 7 months on a weekend basis, and recently I have noticed her feelings developing even further for me.

She has asked me to spend more time with her, and hints of being exclusive to her in a PROPER relationship.

I want to give you some information about this chick, and how things have been between us so far.. I hope you guys can give me some guidance.

Firstly she is 41 years old, and I am 43 years old.

She has a grown son of 27 and another son who is 14.

Looks wise she is only a 6/10 which is not great, but she has a 9/10 body, and in very good shape, with great firm Titties lol.

She gives me all the sex I want, no questions asked!

In the last 7 months, we have not had one single argument.
She is ALWAYS respectful, and never making dumb rude comments.

She always offers to pay her way, if we go out for meals or out drinking etc.. She does not expect me to pay for everything.

She is very intentive in the sense, that I have a few bodybuilding related injuries, so she always gives me massages in the injured area, and asks me how i feel quite often.

She is NOT a bar girl, does not go out to bars and clubs getting drunk with her friends etc.. She dresses well without looking tarty or attention seeking.

She is NOT on lots of social media platforms, and does not spend her day glued to her mobile!

The only few things that are holding me back a little from a full on relationship with her is this..

01. Looks wise I am certain I can do better than her?
02. She does not have a great career, and does not earn much money.

I could easily find a richer and more attractive woman, however considering how woman are THESE DAYS she could turn out to be a complete monster.

I would essentially be trading in a girl who is of good moral values, for a girl who is good looking and could turn out to be a chitty person!

I would like to point out, even though this girl I am seeing is only a 6 in the face, i don't find her ugly or anything like that.. I just know I can do better looks wise.

Plus, she has a VERY nice body, and gives me great sex!

So guys from what I have described, is giving her exclusivity the right thing to do?

So far my assessment is, she is a nice woman, and it does not feel right to hurt her, but I feel like I should still spin plates and keep my options open.

From experience I have seen, how a QUALITY woman can go from treating you like a KING to not giving zero fuks about you over night, when a better prospect comes along, or her feelings CHANGE

How does she make your life feel?

 

[zekko]

I think you're the only one who can answer this question.

 

[spred]

You find way more positives than negative, go for it, it's not like you are marrying her.

 

[Reykhel]

No.

Ugly and two grown kids.

Dump her and start afresh.

Why have cotton when you can have silk.

 

[DreamAgain]

No. OP think logically, you can do better.

Plate and nothing more.

 

[Augustus_McCrae]

I have been seeing this girl now for 7 months on a weekend basis, and recently I have noticed her feelings developing even further for me.

She has asked me to spend more time with her, and hints of being exclusive to her in a PROPER relationship.

I want to give you some information about this chick, and how things have been between us so far.. I hope you guys can give me some guidance.

Firstly she is 41 years old, and I am 43 years old.

She has a grown son of 27 and another son who is 14.

Looks wise she is only a 6/10 which is not great, but she has a 9/10 body, and in very good shape, with great firm Titties lol.

She gives me all the sex I want, no questions asked!

In the last 7 months, we have not had one single argument.
She is ALWAYS respectful, and never making dumb rude comments.

She always offers to pay her way, if we go out for meals or out drinking etc.. She does not expect me to pay for everything.

She is very intentive in the sense, that I have a few bodybuilding related injuries, so she always gives me massages in the injured area, and asks me how i feel quite often.

She is NOT a bar girl, does not go out to bars and clubs getting drunk with her friends etc.. She dresses well without looking tarty or attention seeking.

She is NOT on lots of social media platforms, and does not spend her day glued to her mobile!

The only few things that are holding me back a little from a full on relationship with her is this..

01. Looks wise I am certain I can do better than her?
02. She does not have a great career, and does not earn much money.

I could easily find a richer and more attractive woman, however considering how woman are THESE DAYS she could turn out to be a complete monster.

I would essentially be trading in a girl who is of good moral values, for a girl who is good looking and could turn out to be a chitty person!

I would like to point out, even though this girl I am seeing is only a 6 in the face, i don't find her ugly or anything like that.. I just know I can do better looks wise.

Plus, she has a VERY nice body, and gives me great sex!

So guys from what I have described, is giving her exclusivity the right thing to do?

So far my assessment is, she is a nice woman, and it does not feel right to hurt her, but I feel like I should still spin plates and keep my options open.

From experience I have seen, how a QUALITY woman can go from treating you like a KING to not giving zero fuks about you over night, when a better prospect comes along, or her feelings CHANGE

She had her first child at 14? What’s the back story on that? That’s a huge red flag.

-Augustus-

 

[wifehunter]

single mom?

 

[soulforge]

She had her first child at 14? What’s the back story on that? That’s a huge red flag.

-Augustus-

Sorry man that should have been age 21... Typo!

 

[Von]

Why dépend on US for your happiness?

It's your life, how she make you feel matters.

About the you can do better... Can she do better too?

Happiness comes from within

 

[Spidah]

My man. You must have a scarcity mindset to even ask this question.

 

[ImTheDoubleGreatest!]

You think you can do better, but the question is, WILL you? You know yourself better than anyone else on Earth. Look inside. Do you REALLY think that you’ll continue to make yourself look good, go out, socialize, risk failure and all that stuff all the time? If you believe that you will, then don’t. But if you don’t think you will/want to, then I would say to give it to her. Her face is meh but she still tries to look good. That’s the difference between her and many other women. Most will stop trying to look good after a certain age.

Another thing to consider is how often you’ve ran into a chick like her. If not often, then you should lean a little more to exclusivity. If you do see women like her often (who looks-wise match her if not supersede her), then it’s not that big a deal.

In order to really test her character though, I think you should spend some more time with her and get to know her better. Spending only the weekends with people isn’t enough time to REALLY know them. Try to know her core values more, and if they co-align with yours, then she’s definitely a suitable prospect. Just some things to consider. Most of these guys say no because they don’t believe a woman could be good. Just know that that’s the place they’re coming from. It’s important to keep an objective stance on these types of things. Good luck.

 

[soulforge]

My man. You must have a scarcity mindset to even ask this question.

Scarcity mindset? Dude i already have other options and i currently have other plates.

My question was, should I give this one exclusivity, as she seems like a quality chick.. this would mean dropping my other plates off, and just focus on this on.

 

[soulforge]

You think you can do better, but the question is, WILL you? You know yourself better than anyone else on Earth. Look inside. Do you REALLY think that you’ll continue to make yourself look good, go out, socialize, risk failure and all that stuff all the time? If you believe that you will, then don’t. But if you don’t think you will/want to, then I would say to give it to her. Her face is meh but she still tries to look good. That’s the difference between her and many other women. Most will stop trying to look good after a certain age.

Another thing to consider is how often you’ve ran into a chick like her. If not often, then you should lean a little more to exclusivity. If you do see women like her often (who looks-wise match her if not supersede her), then it’s not that big a deal.

In order to really test her character though, I think you should spend some more time with her and get to know her better. Spending only the weekends with people isn’t enough time to REALLY know them. Try to know her core values more, and if they co-align with yours, then she’s definitely a suitable prospect. Just some things to consider. Most of these guys say no because they don’t believe a woman could be good. Just know that that’s the place they’re coming from. It’s important to keep an objective stance on these types of things. Good luck.

Well my friend i have banged many good looking chicks, and to some degree or another have found them to be toxic characters!

This chick i am with now, is not ugly at all.. I just know i can get better looking girls.. However this girl 7 months in seems to have better character and values than most hoes outhere in this day and age.

And you are right... Weeknds is not enough to get to truly know someone, i intend to spend more time with her, give it more time, before i go full exclusive with her.

There is no rush!

 

[zekko]

Weeknds is not enough to get to truly know someone, i intend to spend more time with her, give it more time, before i go full exclusive with her.

I think that sounds like a very mature, sensible response at this point.

 

[Spaz]

This chick i am with now, is not ugly at all.. I just know i can get better looking girls.. However this girl 7 months in seems to have better character and values than most hoes outhere in this day and age.

And you are right... Weeknds is not enough to get to truly know someone, i intend to spend more time with her, give it more time, before i go full exclusive with her.

There is no rush!

This. ^^

Dwell in the happiness that u hv achieved and allow urself 2 be content with what u have.

Just remember, like a passing cloud, momentary happiness can't give u a content life.

 

[JohnChops]

You think you can do better, but the question is, WILL you? You know yourself better than anyone else on Earth. Look inside. Do you REALLY think that you’ll continue to make yourself look good, go out, socialize, risk failure and all that stuff all the time? If you believe that you will, then don’t. But if you don’t think you will/want to, then I would say to give it to her. Her face is meh but she still tries to look good. That’s the difference between her and many other women. Most will stop trying to look good after a certain age.

Agree with this. This was a selling point for me for getting into any relationship ever. If you let yourself go, get fat, stop going to the gym, stop taking risks, stop improving yourself, and "settle" on yourself because you feel like you "got the girl" then do NOT get into any relationship. If you stop growing, and become complacent, she will dump you and find better. If you continue to grow IN your relationship then she will realize you were good and keep getting better and better, its like increasing the drug dosage, she can't resist. ALso, if you stop taking risks, then you will fvck yourself over when the time comes to break up, as you will be scared again to fail.

In order to really test her character though, I think you should spend some more time with her and get to know her better. Spending only the weekends with people isn’t enough time to REALLY know them. Try to know her core values more, and if they co-align with yours, then she’s definitely a suitable prospect. Just some things to consider. Most of these guys say no because they don’t believe a woman could be good. Just know that that’s the place they’re coming from. It’s important to keep an objective stance on these types of things. Good luck.

These guys have been burned more times than an amateur chef on Hells Kitchen, forcing them to think every single girl is the same. If that were the case, then we can assume every single man is the same? with the same values and beliefs? No. Women DO have the same patterns though, and you have to figure out what they are. Like with everything on this website, people do not have the inside scoop, so they only refer to what has happened to them in the past "oh single mom, kids, 41, she cheated on me, itll happen to this guy too!", but only you know your plate, anything else is just an outsider looking in.

In bold , that was good stuff IATDG, solid advice for SF.

 

[Augustus_McCrae]

Are her kids from the same father?

Was she married? If so, how long was she married and what does she say is the reason they divorced?

Has she told you or implied what her N count is?

Are her parents still married? What is her relationship like with her dad and mom?

-Augustus-

 

[marmel75]

The only one who can answer this question is you. We dont live your life, you live your life. Do what you feel is best for you.

 

[Mr Wright]

So far she's only hinting. Until she's forcing the issue, assume that she's happy with this arrangement and play dumb. I've always found pushing for a relationship is a woman's domain. Until then you can decide what you want to do, where you see it going etc.