Ok guys (and gals)-
I wasn't sure where this post should go, but I had to post it. I trust the moderators to slide it wherever it is appropriate. I've been subscribing to the newsletter for a few months and have read most of the articles on the sosuave website. Over the course of the months I've made self-improvement and enjoying life my mission, which has led to a great night recently. Self improvement has taken on a new meaning in my life and it has paid off personally as well as with women. Not so odd, that is the goal of most who read these threads, but here's what I did in this situation, maybe it will help some of you out there or simply validate what the website is teaching (in case you weren't sure that this stuff works already).
-I approached this good looking-woman (a blind date) by making sure I knew I looked good. I dressed well, like a man who respects himself and has confidence.
-I approached her with a handshake, a smile, and a greeting (keep in mind I used to be a sniveling wimp with women, but we create our reality with our thoughts, and I was thinking I was the sh1t, so I became someone who was.) Fear never entered the picture even though she was better looking than women I'd normally approach.
-We made small talk while I waiting for the friends who set us up to get off work and then all of us partied for a while. I had it on good word that this girl was horny (deep down, aren't they all?), so I was fairly confident that the night would go in my favor. Funny what happens when you take the pressure out of a situation. It brings about freedom.
-When we had both had a little to drink and the night was coming to a close, I sat down and asked her what type of impression she got from me throughout the day (I don't know if this is a cardinal sin, but this being my first time applying these teaching I wanted a female opinion on what she thought was good and bad). What she said surprised me-
1. I went out of my way for her (a bit of a drive to meet the friends and her).
2. I took charge of the situation, telling her not to worry when something was uncertain about our plans or the situation. Being a man and being decisive impressed her. Telling her 'I will make it happen' really impressed her.
3. My dress, manners and speech all bespoke someone who had self respect and knew they were a great catch but was not arrogant about it. She said it seemed like a 'quiet confidence.'
4. The fact that I never once pressured her for anything. I went in there wanting there to be something, of course, but never expecting. We talked about that and she said it left her free to make her own decision. The fact that I had not flaunted my 'prowess in the sheets' made her want to experience it herself.
I knew what I had to offer and being fine with any decision she made gave me the power not over the situation, but over myself as is said so often in these posts. Needless to say, this all led to a great night. So now that the Don Juan rules and a small amount of winging it have worked for me, I am not nearly as afraid of the next woman I want to talk to. And having confidence gained from life experience I'm only too eager to try again ... and again ... and again. I'm sure there are thousands of success stories out there, but I had to share mine ith ya'all.
So to all the other young Juans in training - perhaps you too should talk to a woman (perhaps after you've gotten what you wanted because I see the potential for killing the mood with questions like these) and find out what made it work for you. Keep in mind all women are different but perhaps you can see the common tie in what is said at SoSuave and the world you live in.
Thanks for reading-
Moyogi
I wasn't sure where this post should go, but I had to post it. I trust the moderators to slide it wherever it is appropriate. I've been subscribing to the newsletter for a few months and have read most of the articles on the sosuave website. Over the course of the months I've made self-improvement and enjoying life my mission, which has led to a great night recently. Self improvement has taken on a new meaning in my life and it has paid off personally as well as with women. Not so odd, that is the goal of most who read these threads, but here's what I did in this situation, maybe it will help some of you out there or simply validate what the website is teaching (in case you weren't sure that this stuff works already).
-I approached this good looking-woman (a blind date) by making sure I knew I looked good. I dressed well, like a man who respects himself and has confidence.
-I approached her with a handshake, a smile, and a greeting (keep in mind I used to be a sniveling wimp with women, but we create our reality with our thoughts, and I was thinking I was the sh1t, so I became someone who was.) Fear never entered the picture even though she was better looking than women I'd normally approach.
-We made small talk while I waiting for the friends who set us up to get off work and then all of us partied for a while. I had it on good word that this girl was horny (deep down, aren't they all?), so I was fairly confident that the night would go in my favor. Funny what happens when you take the pressure out of a situation. It brings about freedom.
-When we had both had a little to drink and the night was coming to a close, I sat down and asked her what type of impression she got from me throughout the day (I don't know if this is a cardinal sin, but this being my first time applying these teaching I wanted a female opinion on what she thought was good and bad). What she said surprised me-
1. I went out of my way for her (a bit of a drive to meet the friends and her).
2. I took charge of the situation, telling her not to worry when something was uncertain about our plans or the situation. Being a man and being decisive impressed her. Telling her 'I will make it happen' really impressed her.
3. My dress, manners and speech all bespoke someone who had self respect and knew they were a great catch but was not arrogant about it. She said it seemed like a 'quiet confidence.'
4. The fact that I never once pressured her for anything. I went in there wanting there to be something, of course, but never expecting. We talked about that and she said it left her free to make her own decision. The fact that I had not flaunted my 'prowess in the sheets' made her want to experience it herself.
I knew what I had to offer and being fine with any decision she made gave me the power not over the situation, but over myself as is said so often in these posts. Needless to say, this all led to a great night. So now that the Don Juan rules and a small amount of winging it have worked for me, I am not nearly as afraid of the next woman I want to talk to. And having confidence gained from life experience I'm only too eager to try again ... and again ... and again. I'm sure there are thousands of success stories out there, but I had to share mine ith ya'all.
So to all the other young Juans in training - perhaps you too should talk to a woman (perhaps after you've gotten what you wanted because I see the potential for killing the mood with questions like these) and find out what made it work for you. Keep in mind all women are different but perhaps you can see the common tie in what is said at SoSuave and the world you live in.
Thanks for reading-
Moyogi