Does Instagram dating work?

[Sebastian0001]

If so, how do you approach it?

I have randomly followed attractive women and sometimes they follow me back. I usually then try to start a conversation. Any tips or advice on what works and what doesn't? I also try to avoid women with huge numbers of followers because they clearly just want attention. But, there are many others who don't seem to be on their seeking attention and picture likes and ego boosting.

I think the main thing is how do you get the woman from connecting with you on Instagram to being comfortable enough to hang out with you? Do you start maybe with a phone call or a FaceTime?

 

[2Rocky]

If you can find a common thread, and have IRL friends in common you stand a better chance. The need for a genuine connection (friendship or romantic) is much more necessary because of the medium.
She is going to feel a lot more comfort if she knows:
Your real name
IRL friends of yours
approximately where you live
that you do what you say you do

Basically you have a better chance with a girl who goes to your school and you have friends and acquaintances in common, than the girl across town that doesn't go to your school or know any of the same people.

 

[Epimanes]

My current woman doesn't like social media.... frankly .. I'm glad... often it's bloody waste of time. If you find/Date a woman from Instagram or whatever... good chance she's got a boat load of other guys waiting on the sideline for their chance... always talking to them... absorbed into a virtual world that only steals reality from them.... not for me.... good luck have fun with that.

 

[Georgepithyou]

This is how you do it

 

[Sebastian0001]

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sounds creepy, she might have given u a fake #, clearly she was not comfortable giving u the number and u asked for it too fast without establishing any repoir and were being weirdly overly aggressive and not listening to her say no. I'd be shocked if she actually met up with u.

 

[Georgepithyou]

sounds creepy, she might have given u a fake #, clearly she was not comfortable giving u the number and u asked for it too fast without establishing any repoir and were being weirdly overly aggressive and not listening to her say no. I'd be shocked if she actually met up with u.

I'm actually dating this girl yes its been two weeks now, being direct works. The way your talking you sound like you're are redditor.

Do you want to be her gay friend or do u want to meet up with her? No amount of rapport is going to make her attracted to you

 

[Georgepithyou]

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I agree about beind direct, but let's be honest, it rarely works, 99% will not read your message. Good for you man, the girl I'm currently a girl met on IG too, but I know that it usually doesn't work.

If she follows you back, you have a 50% chance of her replying
If she likes ur pics after following back, you're good to go
Even better if she messages first or replies to one of your stories.

As long as you have a good profile it's easy on instagram, easier than OLD

 

[dianawood]

I met my wife on Instagram. It works!

 

[Epimanes]

I understand but a girl that doesn't use social media it's like one in a million. Good luck and have fun finding her.

Already did... glad my gf is no attention *****.. lol

 

[Sebastian0001]

I met my wife on Instagram. It works!

Awesome, how did it start in the very beginning? What did you message her? How did you ask for the number?

 

[Sebastian0001]

I'm actually dating this girl yes its been two weeks now, being direct works. The way your talking you sound like you're are redditor.

Do you want to be her gay friend or do u want to meet up with her? No amount of rapport is going to make her attracted to you

well that's good. Did you have common friends with her? After she gave you her number, what did you do? Call her and chat and set up a meetup? I would say that the vast majority of time telling a pretty girl on Instagram "Give you me your number" will be ignored. I think there has to be at least some initial back and forth banter and flirtation and a way for her to confirm ur not some crazy stalker (which can be done if u have friends in common) or have so many pictures and videos with other women and social proof that its not even a question in her mind.

 

[Sebastian0001]

I guess it works with girls with very few followers, I mean if you follow a girl who has 10k and more, I don't think shes gonna follow back, she has probably a lot of notifications, she doesnt pay attention. Im trying to figure out, thanks for the advice!

yeah, in my experience, if they have 10k followers, its going to be almost impossible to get a reply unless u can somehow really stand out like having the blue verified instagram check or a lot of common friends or something

 

[Sebastian0001]

If she follows you back, you have a 50% chance of her replying
If she likes ur pics after following back, you're good to go
Even better if she messages first or replies to one of your stories.

As long as you have a good profile it's easy on instagram, easier than OLD

I think this is pretty accurate. However, some women will do all of that but still be kind of hesitant to meet up. Some might just kind of like the attention of connecting on instagram and liking each others pictures and some messages back and forth but everytime u ask to meet, they might not respond bc of hesitance. I have had several of women that did all of the above that u listed but when it comes to hanging out, they don't' respond but they still continue liking my posts.

How to handle these cases?

 

[jaymbrs]

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If it was that easy to get her info, no doubt she's doing the same for many other men. No hate intended.