Does improving yourself as a man get you better friends and a higher quality social life?

[Good Gao]

I know the craze on here is ALL about p-ssy and ALL about trying to stick it in as many different women as possible. It seems like on So Suave, social life = p-ssy. Now take into account that a lot of these PUA types will tell the world "there is more to life than p-ssy" but fail to see that there is much more to social life than just getting your d-ck wet.

There is this saying that you are the "average of 5 people" you hang around as well as "watch the company you keep".

Now I also say "man" instead of guy or boy because I am talking about life as you get older, life outside of a high school or college setting when you are no longer around tons of people your own age.

Lets say you had a guy that went from poor kid in high school and college to making it big financially in his 20s by getting a nice paying job or starting a successful business, along the way he became better looking and had tighter game.

Now we know the guy will be doing better with women and sleeping with higher quality women too than he would be if he was broke.

But does it give him better friends, more friends, and a more quality social life meaning a community of cool guys to be around or is it lonely at the top?

Is being that guy ultimately just having money to buy random material things alongside some women in your life or does it come with other social benefits as well?

 

[SmooveMooves]

Social benefits go to social people and eople who put themselves out there taking advantage of presented opportunities. You don't have to be doing well financially for that, but it helps. Your social network depends on your upbringing and what kind of work you do. You're not going be running with the latest and greatest of Hollywood as a blue collar worker. Different social spheres have different people, so yes there will be a new community. Whether these people are actually better is a stretch. These people may be interested in similar things, being apart of the same social sphere, however, they could easily still be bad people.

To me it sounds like you want that fast paced life that celebs in California live but if the direction of your life simply isn't going that way you are S.O.L.

 

[Serenity]

But does it give him better friends, more friends, and a more quality social life meaning a community of cool guys to be around or is it lonely at the top?

Depends how he gained his wealth. Was it through being a likeable guy or through exploiting everyone around him? I would imagine it being pretty hard to get far in the business world without friends, it's a lot easier when other people provide good opportunities because they like you.

Is being that guy ultimately just having money to buy random material things alongside some women in your life or does it come with other social benefits as well?

Again, depends why the guy is doing what he does. Is it just for himself or does he want to provide something good to society? Any good business cares about providing something of value to others, a better product or service means more money.

If the guy has a business providing something people really like it would be really easy to make friends. Any sane person usually stay away from people who just take or give nothing, good friendships are mutually beneficial.

 

[Good Gao]

@SmooveMooves

The upbringing part is the worst because you can't change it but it is so painful to see some guy doing better socially because he grew up in a rich neighborhood, had rich parents, and had the rich lifestyle throughout his life. You bring up career but what about those of us working in professional white collar jobs that pay well? Banker, doctor, lawyer, etc. I find that these jobs are full of HR types where the sort of lifestyle you speak of is highly highly frowned upon.

It is almost as if you have to be a bartender at a nightclub or some sort of a club promoter in order to make it.

@Grewd

I find that work and social life hardly mix that well, there is a reason they say don't sh-t where you eat. Being good with people in the work world might actually get you promotions and help you in business but it does not translate into helping you get quality p-ssy. That's what this thread is about, leveraging social life in the sense that it puts you in touch with high quality women.

@LJC

Wrong.

You're not going to get high quality friends when you're broke, not at your best, and not at your full potential.

It is not about making more money, the thread asked if making more money and being at your best eventually attracts high quality people to your life.

 

[FairShake]

As I always say I meet the nicest people disc golfing...

 

[marmel75]

Stop worrying about finding people to hang out with. You should be working on yourself so other people want to hang out with YOU.

As Heavy D used to sing...

"Dont clock anybody let them all clock you,
Don't be down with anybody let them all be down with you..."

 

[Good Gao]

You can do and think as you wish, but you're really limiting yourself with this line of thinking that high quality people refuse to associate with anyone who doesn't have money. It's not true.

I have made many friends over the years through mutual interests with people who were much better off than I was at those times; people with businesses, connections, etc. Those friendships lead to job opportunities I would never have gotten out on the street. That lead to better money, better education/experience, new people, new and better connections, even better opportunities, much better jobs, etc.

Had an old friend years ago, blue collar guy, didn't have much money at all, but he was funny and a pretty good golfer. He used to show up solo at public courses waiting for an open slot. When places like that get busy, they tend to pair you up with others to keep the course moving. He would often be paired up with 3 other guys, lawyers, doctors, business/investor types. They didn't care he was broke. They enjoyed playing the game with him. Lead to a lot of free, professional advice, invitations to events, even services, and many other opportunities.

If you want to sit here and continue believing that high quality people wont come into your life until you make the big money, or achieve some other rhetorical milestone, then you're right. They wont.

I'm making great money and I'm playing golf Wednesday morning with a guy worth a few million. All done through networking and connections over the years with people doing better than myself. I'm not wrong. I did it. So can you. So can anyone.

but how does any of that offer him status that gets him hot girls?

 

[derby1]

i have improved myself as a man in the last 6 months

*i have drastically reduced the amount i swear which is now the norm out of everyones mouth,
*cool calm collective,
*Important I DO NOT CRACK ANY JOKES, if i do its the light humoured put down of another male
*reduced alcohol as turns you into a idiot in lots of ways
*workout banged on some muscle and reduced body fat
* important CHANGE! any BS from a woman(even friends) its BROUGHT UP, she starts using her phone constantly whilst were
having drink and ive got the courtesy to give her my time ask how the kids are etc shes picked up on her ****ty behaviour

everyone at the table will sit there gobsmacked all the BETAs will be sitting hissing at you whilst you sit there like william the conqueuror chicking them ya chicken bones
this woman is now prepared to have 9 babies for you...angry butthurt so what shes ready to ***

i was told a while back women have radars for this, and that you give off an aura other women scent i thought what a load of cosh

ITS TRUE god knows how but its true i have lots of sex now with lots of women time of my life