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[Vigilante]

Hey,

Well, there's this girl I like (obviously). And on Monday, I plan to talk to her. I see her only at lunch, but I've noticed that she usually stops by the bathroom before heading into the lunchroom. So I'm gonna casually hang out in the lobby near the bathroom, and when I hear the door open I'm going to start walking towards the cafeteria and 'conveniently' ( ) catch up with her.

Now, I had this girl in one class last year [was never able to talk to her -- teacher didn't let us leave our seats, and once class let out we went opposite directions], so I was planning to say this:

"Hey, didn't you have (teacher's name) 2nd hour last year?"

To which she'll say yes.

Then, I'll say: "Okay, I thought I recognized you from somewhere." Then, with a smile I'll say, "Wow, I can't believe I forgot a face as beautiful as yours." I'll then make a quick exit ("Well, I'll let you get to wherever you're going" or something like that).

Notice I didn't introduce myself to her. Why?

Because that leads to me approaching her the next day (Tuesday) as I leave the cafeteria. I can say "Hey, we never exchanged names yesterday." I'll say my name, she'll say hers, (which I already know ) and once she does, I can repeat her name then say "That's a beautiful name." Make another exit, and then I was planning on (if things go well enough) asking her out the next day. [There's this place in town called "The Frightdome" that I want to ask her to, which I think would be a great place for a date].

So, do you think this will get me that date I want?

Thanks for reading, guys!

 

[smoothtalker72]

why so quick to make a fast exit? for all you know she knows your name. i've had class with tons of girls that i never spoke to yet they knew my name and if i said hello they'd say hello back.

trust me when i say this, things will NEVER go as planned. the day you decide to wait by the bathroom will be the day she doesnt go. just walk up to her when you see her and say hey. also dont start dropping the word beautiful left and right even with her name, you dont need to shower her with compliments to get her to like you. i tend to pay girls one compliment just to get them smiling then go from there.

just go talk to her, have a little conversation then get her phone number if all goes well. call her later on and ask her out.

the more you plan it out the more likely you are to back out. you're going to make yourself nervous by trying to make everything perfect. you're going to forget what you wanted to say and end up babbling while you try to scramble for something to say. just let it happen. im speaking from experience here when i say that. throw the plan out the window, its counter productive.

 

[619joe]

1.Your plan approach is creepy.Just try to be in the vicinity (still with friends) and then when you see her then make your move dont stand there by yourself.

2.You didnt talk with her for A FULL YEAR?I woulda just BS'ed with her after been like "Hey whats there any HW?".Going opposite directions no real excuse bud so I hope you learned now but its ok mistakes happen

3.YOUR FIRST FEW LINES... very nice.I would infact do a very similar one aswell like those kind of questions are spot on.You are good until you hit "Wow, I can't believe I forgot a face as beautiful as yours.".Thats creepy man dont do it.Instead maybe say like

"I wasnt sure whether to say Hi or not...I had a feeling you were KINDA cool but I figured id put that to the test" (By this point they should be saying how they are totally cool enough) then just transition it to your name introduction.Once she says her name,say "No way,my pet gerbil has that name.HI-FIVE".It seriously depends on how you say that,but if you do its excellent.

4.Dont say "Ill let you go where your going".Say "well ive gotta go meet up with some buddies ill catch up with you later"

5.Save the complimenting for later man ill tell you in a situation like this,youll be going downhill.

Listen though man,you cant just ask her out like that.You need to set some good solid conversation filler in there to make yourself seem like youd be awesome to go with to whatever event your trying to go to.

Dont plan it out.Things never go exactly as planned.I tried to pack in all I could I suggest you use this advice will strongly help you

 

[619joe]

Haha smooth talker I didnt even see your message while typing mine though we had almost exact same message

 

[FirstInstinct]

The question at the end of your post:

"So, do you think this will get me that date I want?"

With the way you're approaching this right now, no.

First things first: the fact that you have taken the time to put together such an elaborate scheme to accomplish something as simple as approaching ONE girl out of some 3 billion, says that you're putting her on a pedestal. Not only this, but you're dropping the word "beautiful" left and right. Toss that **** out the window. Putting girls on a pedestal is one of the major pitfalls of the AFC/nice guy, and lemme tell you, it is a complete game destroyer. Putting a girl on a pedestal spawns desperation and clingyness and these two things are some of the most destructive things imaginable when trying to grab a girl. Trust me.

And about the plan you've set out for yourself, things will often NEVER go as planned. When you try to memorize lines to deliver at such and such moment at such and such location, if you find that you meet your girl at the wrong place, at the wrong time, or ****, forget what to say in the middle of conversation, you're gonna lock up, break eye contact, fidget, or do whatever impulse your unconscious mind has in store as your brain tries to cook up an emergency exit plan. Our brain likes to keep us in the comfort zone, the zone of security, to avoid all the harsh realities, pains, and discomforts of the real world. When something doesn't go as we expect, we panic, for we have left our comfort zone, our ideal world - which, unfortunately, exists ONLY IN THE MIND. If, however, you go out there expecting nothing, then likewise there is nothing to lose, nothing to forget, nothing to panic over. Let yourself adapt. Just **** everything you know, and stop trying to control everything. Because the fact is you control very little in life. In order to control events around you, you need only control yourself. Much of your game is about frame control - control the frame and things will mold themselves to your will. So just ****ing go up to her on Monday and talk, don't think, don't EVER second guess yourself before you approach her, this will **** YOU UP majorly. Second guessing lets all those insecurities seep in, your confidence will drop, and the conversation will instantly turn awkward. CONFIDENCE IS KEY. Use the 3-second rule. Next time you see her, go and talk to her within 3 seconds. PUSH YOURSELF TO DO THIS. YOU WILL REGRET IT IF YOU DON'T. I don't care if you don't know what to say, look around, there's plenty to talk about. Hell, I've gotten away with tons of laughs by saying the stupidest **** (though I don't suggest you do this) because I managed to control my frame and came across as confident, playful, and outgoing.

Go read the DJ bible, go read a ****load of Pook and Mr./Senor Fingers' posts. These three sources are all you need to start sculpting your life into what you want it to be. It's a rough road. Have faith, push on, no matter what.

 

[phatboi408]

Talk to her within seconds. Its creepy not to talk to someone when you have made eye contact, espically when you two are standing there for a lil bit.