Do you think getting to know someone long-distance can work out?

bario

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I know that long-distance relationships are generally considered difficult and it's often recommended to find someone local.

However, some of my relatives recently mentioned a girl they know who they think would be a great match for me. They’ve spoken highly of her and believe she’s someone I could potentially settle down with. The only catch is that she lives in a different state.

They even got her number for me and hinted to her about me.

Given the distance, do you think it's too challenging to pursue? Would it be worth starting with texting to see how things go?
 

bario

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Look, they can happen, my situation is proof of that... but it's highly unlikely.

Would you ever be monogamous with someone you cannot actually have sex with regularly?
Would they be monogamous with you?
If either of you started behaving differently, like staying out late at night, taking a long time between texts with only short responses - could either of you put your insecurities away and trust that the other person isn't with someone else sexually?

Long distance is hard, and is no grounds for a relationship.
What if someone is willing to move to be together eventually?
 

Scaramouche

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Hi Bario,
Muscles is right,"... they can happen, my situation is proof of that... but it's highly unlikely." I suppose if you are absolutely desperate,you don't have much to lose,do you?....So go ahead,but still keep hunting regardless.
 

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I would not recommend long distance relationships in general.
 

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It’s possible. It’s difficult. Requires you to travel to keep the fire going. I wouldn’t recommend it for people who have other options.
 

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Among other issues, insecurities get magnified with LDR, which is part of why the difficulty increases
 

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It will take two very secure people that know how to communicate well. I did it for 10yrs. My motto in life is try everything at least once. Its why I have experienced so much and have some solid knowledge.
 
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