do you take it personally when a girl is not interested?

[PlatoPacks23]

It's just not that serious man.

If you truly feel the need to "get back at her" then let her see you with someone hotter than she is.

yeah I know, I think I just over-invested (and have not many options tbh)

 

[BackInTheGame78]

yeah I know, I think I just over-invested (and have not many options tbh)

That's what you can work on. Dating is a numbers game so your goal should be to increase your numbers and not to let any single encounter bother you if things work out or don't.

Use each interaction as feedback and work on improving and figuring out what works for you in date and what doesn't.

Eventually if you keep doing this you will have a list of things that you continue to do and a list of things you stop doing since you'll notice patterns of what works and what doesn't.

And focus on having at least 2 dates a week. You can't improve if you aren't out there regularly. That should be your focus, to work on getting 2 dates a week.

 

[PlatoPacks23]

That's what you can work on. Dating is a numbers game so your goal should be to increase your numbers and not to let any single encounter bother you if things work out or don't.

Use each interaction as feedback and work on improving and figuring out what works for you in date and what doesn't.

Eventually if you keep doing this you will have a list of things that you continue to do and a list of things you stop doing since you'll notice patterns of what works and what doesn't.

And focus on having at least 2 dates a week. You can't improve if you aren't out there regularly. That should be your focus, to work on getting 2 dates a week.

thank you. good to focus on action

 

[Isildur1]

Well I’d say statistically speaking only 1-3 percent of the female population would find me attractive so I’d have a roughly 97-98 percent rejection rate from daygame , so no - it’s completely normal . Yes it hurts not to be appreciated and to be shunned like that but that’s part of the process - I mean it is what it is I can’t force everyone to like me- you yourself don’t even like everybody why should every woman like you

 

[jhonny9546]

Looking around reddit, the most common comment you find is that "when he has options I don't feel attracted anymore". but instead we know very well here that it's the opposite. they contradict themselves, because when they know that you're dating, or that there are women who show interest in you, they are then even more interested. social proof and preselection

https://www.reddit.com/r/dating_advice/comments/fxuo52

 

[darksprezzatura]

How would Brad Pitt act if some random girl didn’t like him?

 

[Solomon]

When I was younger (20s and early 30s) It used to be a massive blow to my fragile ego when a woman would ghost or flake on me
Funny enough I didn't have a problem with women rejecting me at bars or clubs as I knew it was a numbers game
But a woman that I would put forth effort into i.e., trying to set up a date, texting etc
I would get butthurt if they rejected me.

I realize 2 things

1. Women don't give a shyt about your feelings nor do they care, especially if they hardly know you. So lashing out is just going to make you look like a psycho or butthurt(thus in her mind, confirming you're a weirdo even if that may not be the case) a lot of women who reject you won't even remember you a year from now. You trying to put a woman in place (especially if we talking OLD or some bimbo you met at the club) is a waste of time and energy.

2. I learned that I had to stop taking these things personally and realize it's a numbers game, one of the best pieces of advice I ever got about women was from my best friend at the time in college "Girls are like busses ever 15 minutes another one is coming" This has been very true in my life, Even if a girl rejected me, ghosts me, flakes etc. There was always another woman (granted it wasn't literally 15 minutes but usually within a week or so when I was younger). Heck there have been a few times where the next woman was hotter and made things even far easier. That made me wonder why I was doing the most in the first place for a mid or subpar chick

I know that I have an anxious attachment style stemming from my childhood as I've gotten older, I now Thank a woman for flaking or even ghosting as I rather focus on women who prioritize me plus I save time and money not dealing with a woman who is lukewarm at best. Learn to value yourself and time!

 

[MatureDJ]

Of course I take it personally - she is rejecting the person that is me. She might like part of me, but at the end of the day, she does not want to recombine with my DNA - this is about as Black Pill as it gets.

 

[Solomon]

Of course I take it personally - she is rejecting the person that is me. She might like part of me, but at the end of the day, she does not want to recombine with my DNA - this is about as Black Pill as it gets.

It's over for DNACELLS