do you take it personally when a girl is not interested?

[PlatoPacks23]

this girl is not into me but after I mentioned to her how it was like rude she was blowing me off (but in person was nice) she was like "dont take it personal".

lol.. isn't all of dating personal? just wondering.

 

[BackInTheGame78]

this girl is not into me but after I mentioned to her how it was like rude she was blowing me off (but in person was nice) she was like "dont take it personal".

lol.. isn't all of dating personal? just wondering.

You need to have a shift in mindset and instead of getting upset about it, you should thank her because she tried to tell you to stop wasting your time with her but you refused to listen.

Fat better than a woman who isn't interested but keeps going on dates but you get nowhere leading to wasted time and money with no results.

Never get mad when a woman tells you she isn't interested in whatever way that is, she just did you a huge favor.

 

[PlatoPacks23]

You need to have a shift in mindset and instead of getting upset about it, you should thank her because she tried to tell you to stop wasting your time with her but you refused to listen.

Fat better than a woman who isn't interested but keeps going on dates but you get nowhere leading to wasted time and money with no results.

Never get mad when a woman tells you she isn't interested in whatever way that is, she just did you a huge favor.

Favor heard, but I still don’t see how someone doesn’t “take it personally”.

like she’s blowing me off on text etc but then when I asked her about it she’s like “don’t take it personal”. Umm.. you could have just told me instead on text like 3 days ago

 

[BackInTheGame78]

Favor heard, but I still don’t see how someone doesn’t “take it personally”.

like she’s blowing me off on text etc but then when I asked her about it she’s like “don’t take it personal”. Umm.. you could have just told me instead on text like 3 days ago

You continue to believe this is how women work when you continue to see it is not how they work.

This tells her you lack experience with women.

 

[PlatoPacks23]

You continue to believe this is how women work when you continue to see it is not how they work.

This tells her you lack experience with women.

well yeah

if she rejected me anyway, it doesn’t really matter if she thinks/knows I lack experience

or lack experience getting rejected

 

[characternote]

everyone 'takes it personally' deep down. Just some have thicker skin than others lol

 

[BackInTheGame78]

Next time just tell her:

"I never thought that you would crab me...
Undermine me, and backstab me...
But I can see clearly now the rain is gone...
The pain is gone, but what you did was still wrong...

There was a few times I needed your support...
But you tried to play me like an indoor sport...
Like racquetball, tennis, pool, whatever...
All I know is you attempted to be clever...

Nevertheless, cleverness can't impress...
'Cause now you've been expose like a person undressed...
And I see through you, 'cause I'm the Guru...
And what you gonna do when I start to step to you?

'Cause when I pay you back, I'll be hurting you...
And this ain't no threat so take it personal"

 

[The Duke]

Learn to interpret their actions correctly and sooner. You won't be so offended. Soon you will realize this is how they communicate. Don't wish they were different or it was easier, figure out what you can do to get better and women are a whole lot more enjoyable.

 

[Redwood]

Not really. Over time I look at this as a breath of fresh air.

 

[Clockwerk50]

Bro, being blunt, it seems like you’re coming off as low-value in the way you’re handling the situation. I’m not sure if this is the same woman from your other posts, or the same situation as the social circle ones, but if you’re calling her out or seeking validation when she’s not interested, that signals desperation and insecurity, which is a turn-off. The only thing it does is it reinforces her lack of attraction.

Even though dating might feel personal, rejection isn’t. It’s more about how she perceives your value, and when you chase for approval or beg for attention, you only lower your own worth in her eyes.

Do you know how to be high-value? Do you know how to carry yourself with confidence, dignity, and self-worth? Do you know how to attract respect and stop seeking validation or reacting emotionally to things?

I think some self-assessment is needed, and that might be the reason why your balls haven’t been drained in a while.

 

[PlatoPacks23]

Bro, being blunt, it seems like you’re coming off as low-value in the way you’re handling the situation. I’m not sure if this is the same woman from your other posts, or the same situation as the social circle ones, but if you’re calling her out or seeking validation when she’s not interested, that signals desperation and insecurity, which is a turn-off. The only thing it does is it reinforces her lack of attraction.

Even though dating might feel personal, rejection isn’t. It’s more about how she perceives your value, and when you chase for approval or beg for attention, you only lower your own worth in her eyes.

Do you know how to be high-value? Do you know how to carry yourself with confidence, dignity, and self-worth? Do you know how to attract respect and stop seeking validation or reacting emotionally to things?

I think some self-assessment is needed, and that might be the reason why your balls haven’t been drained in a while.

im def calling her out, I just dont like being fake about things.

but yeah you're right im def being emotional about situation.. its something I need to work on. im just annoyed what can I say.

probably will just ignore her moving forward.. but even then thats somehow considered "reactive"? so complicated.

 

[BackInTheGame78]

im def calling her out, I just dont like being fake about things.

but yeah you're right im def being emotional about situation.. its something I need to work on. im just annoyed what can I say.

probably will just ignore her moving forward.. but even then thats somehow considered "reactive"? so complicated.

The proper way to handle it is to be completely unaffected by it.

Until you learn how to get there, you still have work to do.

 

[PlatoPacks23]

The proper way to handle it is to be completely unaffected by it.

Until you learn how to get there, you still have work to do.

yeah I mean it just feels unnatural for me

like I get the mindset of it being from a place of abundance or whatever or so busy in life.. but yeah that's not where I currently am so it did piss me off lol.

 

[Mike32ct]

Not taking her side at all, but I will say this…

She was being honest when she said “Don’t take it personally.”

She meant that she wasn’t trying to be rude. She’s just not attracted, so she is giving you low priority in her life.

 

[PlatoPacks23]

Not taking her side at all, but I will say this…

She was being honest when she said “Don’t take it personally.”

She meant that she wasn’t trying to be rude. She’s just not attracted, so she is giving you low priority in her life.

I think it is rude how it was handed, and I think its inherently personal.

but I do understand the point that I need to move past this type of thinking in general to succeed.. I think that's the point some people are making here?

 

[BackInTheGame78]

I think it is rude how it was handed, and I think its inherently personal.

but I do understand the point that I need to move past this type of thinking in general to succeed.. I think that's the point some people are making here?

You need to stop thinking women owe you anything.

They don't.

 

[PlatoPacks23]

You need to stop thinking women owe you anything.

They don't.

they don't "owe me" anything (neither do guys), I just think if you know someone for an extended period of time it's more than just a random person you met at a bar or something.

does this apply to guy friends as well?

 

[BackInTheGame78]

they don't "owe me" anything (neither do guys), I just think if you know someone for an extended period of time it's more than just a random person you met at a bar or something.

does this apply to guy friends as well?

Have you asked guy friends out on a date?

 

[PlatoPacks23]

Have you asked guy friends out on a date?

lol no, I meant a more general idea.

I'm still annoyed, but yes I see what you mean by no woman "owes" me anything. My ego is still bruised though!

 

[BackInTheGame78]

lol no, I meant a more general idea.

I'm still annoyed, but yes I see what you mean by no woman "owes" me anything. My ego is still bruised though!

It's just not that serious man.

If you truly feel the need to "get back at her" then let her see you with someone hotter than she is.