do you strive to come across as attractive to everyody?

[jbbrain]

I know what all of you guys are saying:

"Once you have the mindset, you'll be attractive to everyone, all the time"

As most of you know now, I have a gf, and usually when I meet some new girls who are (IMO) not attractive (looks wise) I really don't give a shyt about turning on the attractiveness button. I know most of them fall for me for my looks, but there are certain things I do (or dont do) with them that I do with chicks I like because I know it turns them on:

-I'm not sexually aggressive with them. I have a girl, and they're not HOT.
I have no qualms about talking about mindless things with them. Those girls probably throw me right in the friendzone with the amount of nonsense we talk about.
-I'm just NICER to them. I don't bust on them THAT MUCH because I don't have a goal I want to reach that includes them. I tease them a little, but thats just my sarcastic personality.


Are you the LADIES MAN around ALL ladies?

 

[MacdaddyJr]

Me, personally, I don't think you need to be a ladies man all the time. I don't want every girl to like me just the ones I like. I let my true self go with a few of them and I don't act perfect and put on my game face. I'm just there to have a conversation and that's it. I'm also sure that a girl will not like me more than a friend with some things we talk about but what I do is experiment with them. I say things I wouldn't normally say and see if it works and if it does I'll use it on another girl. I mean, why not? The more you talk to women the better you understand them.

Except my problem now is that I don't see women as women, I see them as a game most of the time that I want to win. It's sick, I know.

This site is like game genie for me. lol

 

[516]

A true DJ is a DJ all the time, not just around girls that he likes. DJ is an entire process and personality and attitude and everything, its not just the mode that you go into when you pick up girlies. So yes, I strive to come across as attractive to all people. I think it is very important.

 

[becker]

I agree, I don't think it is or should be something you just turn on and off. If it is, that means that you're probably having to try to be rather than "just being".

It's tough enough finding opportunity to practice being relaxed enough to allow the whole charismatic side of you to just happen to prevent it from happening.