Do you ever get so wrapped up in making HER happy that you lose YOURSELF?

[squirrels]

Let me explain what I mean...usually when I meet women, I can get the number, maybe get her on a first/second date, sometimes even "hit it" by then.

The problem is that by the third or fourth date, I start becoming concerned with making HER happy. Certain thoughts start entering into my head, like...

"I'd like to go shoot pool tonight, but we already DID that once. Is she going to be bored with the 'same old stuff'"?

"I'm horny, but she's not showing any signs of horniness herself...should I continue to project my sexual side? Or should I just lay off until she seems more 'in the mood'"?

It's like I start second-guessing myself. Everything's a question instead of a statement..."Do you want to go parasailing?" instead of, "Hey, let's go parasailing!" I start looking at the GIRL for guidance, because I feel like doing my own thing would be selfish and show disregard for HER feelings.

For example, I was at the beach with this girl I've been seeing on and off...we went to this restaurant to eat but there was like an hour and a half wait...personally I think the food's great and I would've sat there for an hour and a half and waited...but I looked at her and she seemed sketchy about the idea, so I caved and we went somewhere else.

Little stuff like that.

And it seems like it's creeping earlier and earlier...even back into the first encounter...which absolutely KILLS your charisma, because if you're looking for HER approval right off the bat, you're not in a dominant, masculine position.

Not only does this lose me chicks, but it also makes ME sick of being around women. After a while, I don't even WANT to be with these women because I feel like I "can't be myself" when I am, because I have to look out for THEIR feelings.

I'm not really sure how to deal with this. I never really did when I "broke out" into my womanizing days...I just kind of pushed it back, and now it's coming back to haunt me.

How do you guys deal with it when you start getting that feeling?

 

[Lost In Translation]

great post squirrels

yes i have had that happen to me

i had the whole " all i really want is sex " versus " guess i gotta take her somewhere and entertain her first " dilema going on

interesting thing was the women never seemed to care

all they wanted was to be with me

and they only time they started to care was when i stopped coming across strong/alpha. I STARTED ASKING THEM IF THERE WAS ANYWHERE THEY WANTED TO GO

i had started to allow the worldly thinking that i must do all these things to make them happy

they were already happy !

I AM THE PRIZE and they were with me


Lost In Translation

**AUSTRALIAN STREET PIMP**

Quote: squirrels
“ You NEVER pay as a supplicative or bargaining measure, though. The reward that she gets for her affection is YOUR affection. The reward she gets for her sex is YOUR sex. The second you start buying her stuff to keep her around, keep her entertained in your presence, etc...you're compensating for not having what it takes to seduce the woman, and that's totally unacceptable. “

 

[Sasha]

I know where you're coming from mate!

Did that a lot before. Allways wanting to please them instead of thinking what I want. And **** allways went wrong.

I don't ask girl out on a date anymore. Its more like, you wanna hang WITH ME? I'll be in a pool hall. And if she want's to hang around ME she'll come. And as soon as I get that feeling of, "she's been here before and I see she is getting bored. she want's to do something else" I _IGNORE _that feeling! There is no other way.

Think like this. When you think a girl is getting bored or something like that, get this in your mind,: "as long as girl see you having fun, and if she likes you, she don't give a sh_t what you 2 do"

Relax, and do what YOU want!

I know the only reason you want to do what you THINK she would like to is becouse you like the girl and you want to please her. But to much _pleasing_ and she'll find herself another bad boy. So, show her that you don't care! Do what you want to do! And personally, I would have stayed a hour and a half for that table!

 

[Lost In Translation]

ok how do i deal with it ?


i reckon it's easier to do it before you go out / pick the chick up

you just gotta get your mind straight about what the score is


we live in a world where all around us there is advertising / propoganda tellings us to be AFC

don't beat yourself up if you pick up some of this negitive ( to your game ) crap. it's all around us.

you just gotta think some positive self affirmations


difficult mind game to master because society doesn't address a man as being able to satisfy a woman just be being himself

and a women able to be satisfied by just being with a man

society controlled by feminism says you need MONEY and SHOPPING SPREE and FANCY DINNER and yada yada yada

REJECT THOSE LIES !

take a time out if you need it get your head right then get back in the game JUST LIKE FOOTBALL OR ANY SPORT

lose focus ? re-focus and attack !


SQUIRRELS THE MOVIE : ( soundtrack available through Sony Music )

squirrels gets flustered. he is feeling pressure to please his date.

where is this pressure coming from ? there is no one around.

he curses feminism and the power of the media under his breath.

he looks across at his date and a smile crosses his date's face

i am just going to use the rest room says the suave Mr squirrels

he stands up and straightens his tux, calmly straightening his silenced pistol to the side of his chest

thinking to himself as he crosses the floor to the mens restroom

*James Bond eat your heart out*

he enters the mens restroom and quickly scans his surroundings

no terrorists in stall one. stall two clear. we have a green light he thinks to himself

he looks in the mirror and then he begins his talk

what were you thinking out there ? you sir are a Don Juan

whats the go with this please a woman garbage ?

no more watching FRIENDS for you

you are turning into a wimp

she wants a man. a real man who will lead.

she is putty in your fingers

mould her

she wants you !

mr squirrels calmly opens the door and crosses the the room back to his table and the woman waiting on his return as a farmer waits upon the rising of the sun

squirrels is her sun and he knows it

but squirrels is still thinking about farming metaphors when the waiter brings over some fresh napkins

doesn't a famer need water too ? he wonders

i will take her back to my place and irrigate

CHECK PLEASE


Lost In Translation

**AUSTRALIAN STREET PIMP**

 

[squirrels]

Was gonna send you this as a reply to your PM, LIT, but your box is full, so what the hell.


True enough, man. It's hard, though. Cuz sometimes I feel like a selfish d!ck doing stuff on dates that she may/may not enjoy.

Or even knowing when to call/not call. You know, you hate to lose ***** over something simple as waiting too long to call.

But of course, pvssy is worthless, so I shouldn't be too worried about it. It always seems like all the girls I'm really into, I feel really "off it" when I talk to them, but all the Internet chicks I talk to but would never bone, I bust on them HARD all day and they STILL wanna talk dirty and fly in to see me. I can even sit there and talk to women about how I've macked on other women or used them and it seems to make them even MORE down.

It works exactly the OPPOSITE of how it should...it's frikkin bizarre I tell you. The more you care about how they feel, the worse they feel about being with YOU.

 

[penkitten]

squirrels
dont feel guilty for doing things that interest you on dates
some dates are for both of you to enjoy
some are for her to enjoy
and some are for you to enjoy
thats why its called dating
too see if you can stand each other when only one person is really enjoying the date

 

[DJDamage]

Originally posted by Lost In Translation

whats the go with this please a woman garbage ?

no more watching FRIENDS for you

you are turning into a wimp

she wants a man. a real man who will lead.

she is putty in your fingers

mould her

she wants you !

Good stuff by LIT.

Always remember the reason she fell for you in the first place is because you were "YOU" and not someone else who tried to please her. By pleasing yourself, you end up pleasing her. You are the leader and she is there for the ride. If she didn't like you to begin with she wouldn't be with you up until now. The reason you feel uncomfertable when you try to seek her approval is because you are not being YOURSELF.

All relationships are powerstruggle. Even if everything seems like she is 100% in love with you, deep down she will be plotting a counter attack slowly and methodically. Why? because it is in her nature to see if the man she sees before her eyes is not a boy in disguise.

If you ever have a problem like this, don't think of it as: what would a good boyfriend do in this situation? (Thinking like this could be counterproductive in the longrun because she can sense that there are certain situations in which you are allowing your defences down. You never want her to see your weakness because it can be easily exploited.)

You are much better off thinking: WHAT WOULD HER DADDY DO? remember deep down they are all little girls or wish to feel like one. Would her Dad let her take him by the hand and lead her wherever she pleases??? NO!! would throwing tantrum around or behaving badly will make her dad Concede to her demands?? NO!! if he does then he would have a problem child on his hands, just like in a real relationship.