do you delete texts so other girls dont see?

[HappyHarryHardon]

just wondering.. i was thinking cause i am with someone at the moment. imagine if she saw all the other text messages from the other girls i been seeing, i know its rare but some girls are nosey. would you keep it or delete? it WOULD benefit me wouldnt it? make them jealous.

 

[TheMale]

the thing is that you're hiding nothing from your life ... you are true !
so if she's with you then she knows who you are or what you've done ...
if she's not cool with that she don't have a place in your life !

 

[dementia]

one nice girl i was dating i did hide them or delete one from a girl she knew. Otherwise no, if they see it it opens up alot of funny stuff to say "shes a girl i met while stuck in an elevator, she was someone i did a nude scene in a small flim piece with, thats a girl who hits on me at the hairdresser but has creepy eye contact..." its opens a bunch of tension loops if not just being funny.

 

[Szyzzlin]

Girls are very competitive. If she sees that you're in high demand... she'll want you more. keep the texts there

 

[IamJosan]

Don't let her snoop through your phone! How can you be with a girl that you can't trust and is snoopin' around your stuff? Where are your standards man?

 

[Audiophile]

Gonna agree with Josan on this one. Why the heck is a girl looking at your texts in the first place?

 

[SandHawk]

First of all: Why are you so worried about a girl seeing those texts? All the girls I am seeing know that I am seeing other girls and that I have mostly female friends. I am not hiding my texts from them because I don't like it when a girl is hiding things from me.

BUT, I am also not letting her near my phone or my laptop. It's that simple; I have an Android smartphone with a pattern lock on it. Not because of her, but because I don't think people should use or go through my phone. The moment you're afraid that a girl sees your texts and flips out, you've already pedastalized her and you're afraid of losing her. Just don't let her near your private communication channels and don't be so afraid.

Also, when I'm with a girl and I get a text, and they spring up "Hey, a text, shouldn't you read it?", I just respond that I have more important things to do right now. This will also give them a bit more value and gives them a sense that their presence is important to you. It's a simple gesture, and in all honesty, it doesn't break the flow of escalation.

 

[irocknike23]

yes and i got such a bad habbit now it got to a point where i delete txts that i need saved because i select DELETE ALL now without even thinking about it

 

[Masculinity]

Put a passcode on your phone, so that you know you ahve a new text message without having to worry about her being nosey. It is as simple as that!

 

[runner83]

You shouldn't be worried about girls seeing them, since she shouldn't be getting anywhere near your phone.

Personally though, I tend to periodically (say every 2 weeks) delete all messages on my phone to keep it clean, and remind myself that they are only words on a screen and mean nothing in real life, and to encourage myself to keep looking forward rather than backwards.

 

[powpow]

If you are not decidedly exclusive, what do you have to hide? Dont be like showing her all of your texts like "check this girl out, she also wants to have my babies", but seriously, be a man about it and dont delete your texts. Thats lame.

It is more of manifestation of an attitude than a cost vs benefit thing to me.

 

[Laracuente]

I delete just to clear up some space but i always have a passcode at least and I've never had a girl even try to look through my phone

 

[sirBill]

Respect is really important to me here, and it's a two-way street.

I believe in implied trust a lot. If I'm hanging out with a girl and she's on Facebook and some guy messages her, I'm not creeping over her shoulder trying to read the convo, or asking her about him. I don't care who she talks to because I'm secure where I'm at.

The same goes with girls. If I get a text, first of all I won't read it in front of her, I don't respond to that stuff when I'm with girls, if I expect her to keep her phone put away than I reciprocate the favor.

If the girl is all up in your business than she really isn't relationship material anyway. The best girls I've been with are the ones where you don't even need to hide your phone around them, you can confidently leave it out in the open unlocked and not worry about her going through the past 6 months of text messages.

For the record everyone should have a lock-code on their phone of some nature. I have access to all my bank accounts, my trading account, all my personal communication, my e-mail, and a ton of other stuff right on the phone. You bet my phone locks after a few minutes of idling, I don't want a thief taking over my life.