Do you dare?

[Brazilian_Blues_Boy]

Hello there my dearest friends !!
Long time no posting, I come here after a lot of thinking, reading and deciding.

So, I found myself stuck... I couldn't go further in my sarges...
I couldn't transition to sincere, emotional talk.
And worst than that, sometimes the ladies wouldn't take me seriously...

Why?
Because I was suffering from the curse. The curse of the over-confident Don Juan... I was too-very-much-over ****y and Funny.

It's like, my best trait, my sharpest weapon is the reason why I'm not advancing...

So, I finally decided to put in the fridge for a while.
No more ****y and funny... no more being arrogant, no more being a prick, mocking the ladies, being the world's comediant.

Now, I'm going to step to the next level.
The real deal, the ideal personality, which I have been leaving aside...

Charisma !!

Yes, the art and almost the magic of almost magnetically attracting people, win their hearts and their minds, therefore being able to leading.

I used to be too agressive, to intimidating in my alphaness and my ****iness.
Girls were getting "afraid" of me, or they'd never talk to me seriously, fearing that I would mock them later...

This is terrible... specially for me, cause I'm getting deepert into SS and soon will start patterning around...

So, I need to build better rapport and intimacy with the girls, before I go patterning...

I'm posting this as a commitment, to change myself, and to light the way of other dear brothers who may find theirselves in the same situation...

From now on, I'll resort to ****y and funny only in the extreme necessity cases...

And for those who want to learn more about being Charismatic, here the best I could find:

Nine Breaker - Something MORE than Confidence...

Smooth Vejita - Charisma

Giovanni Casanova - Charm and Charisma

Page - The power of Charisma

That's the best info out there !!
Enjoy...
and Evolve !

BBB

 

[Sammo]

Nice post. Yeah there's not much about stuff like this, I think newbies ignore it because they dont want to consider having to moderate there confidence, they think it's to much work. But a real DJ will want to learn this kind of thing because they want to make themselves and implement it into their mind set

 

[Sammo]

You have decide wether it suits your personallity or not, it obviously suits BBB's personallity while i'm not sure about me, im still trying things out. If you are comfortable with being C&F and you are good at it, then just keep at it until you have the troulbe that BBB has encountered. Finding the right personallity is kind of like trying on different clothes and then deciding which one's look/feel the best.