Do you change your game for insecure girls?

[Rooney]

Ok so first off a bit of backstory. Theres this girl that I know likes me, the thing is ive only seen her a few times. We havn't talked much in person but we have talked a lot on msn. I knew she was insecure so I changed my game and tried complemeting her and sucking up a bit, but being ****y + funny the whole time. Aparantly that worked and even know i barely know her (p2p), she really likes me.

I'm not sure where to take it from here. I havnt been in the position before. I know she likes me, she thinks I like her, we haven't seen each other much, what now? Because I'm different in person I'm afraid she will be dissapointed because she has built me up so much, and yet doesnt know what I'm really like.

Any advice guys? I would also like to know how you go about changing your game for really insecure chicks, cos I dont think that neg hits would work lol.


P.S. I know I need a backup chick so I don't end up AFC.

 

[GaryUranga]

I'll quote this from a recent msn convo with a girl:

jessica. ;; hum: i can be serious sometimes. cute others and ****ing ugly others.. ahahaa.. and im mostly just ugly!!!!
JC - Becks en la: really? I didnt notice you were fugly
jessica. ;; hum: lol. wel i think i am.
JC - Becks en la: then its probably true
jessica. ;; hum: what. that im ugly?
JC - Becks en la: if you think so, but you know what its ok, I'll still talk to you
jessica. ;; hum: thanks hunn.
jessica. ;; hum: i talk to alot of guys i guess. some very cute. but i dont know i dont find my self actractive . when i like a guy they never like me or i **** up with them somehow
JC - Becks en la: youre talking about me, arent you?
jessica. ;; hum: lol..
your wishing ehh!!
JC - Becks en la: nope, I just know
JC - Becks en la: anyways i gotta go so, cya later
jessica. ;; hum: okay..
jessica. ;; hum: hey if yeah got a cell text me sometime. my number is usually always in my msn name so you can get itf orm there!!
jessica. ;; hum: it from*
JC - Becks en la: kk maybe I will
jessica. ;; hum: alright
seeyeahhh<3

 

[kizza]

I don't think you guys posting bits from your msn convos is what this guy had in mind. I think this paragraph sums up the problem.

I'm not sure where to take it from here. I havnt been in the position before. I know she likes me, she thinks I like her, we haven't seen each other much, what now?

HERE -> Because I'm different in person I'm afraid she will be dissapointed because she has built me up so much, and yet doesnt know what I'm really like.

So although I have VERY little experience myself, I will let you know this position is practically exactly the same as me - a few weeks ago. I met this girl, got her msn (from a school we go to every saturday). We talked on msn for a month + a bit of texting. I was using the whole C+F thing even though in real life this wasn't me (it was me at home, but not with friends).

In fact just earlier today was the first time we really spoke. So was I afraid that she would be disappointed? No.
What did I do? Before we met, i was relaxed and comfortable (not nervous). So when I met her I just started being C+F.

I'm not sure if I can explain this right, but I just thought of 1 C+F thing to start it off, then I was fine - you just need to break the ice. Throughout today I was a bit C+F, but I liked to have more interesting conversations too and actualy tried to get to know the girl.

As for compliments... I tend not to give many in general. But if you find the right moment, slip one in.

Hopefully I answered some of your question.

 

[bigw]

I agree with kizza, just open up, break the ice. Give compliments in VERY small doses, if you give too many, you'll seem superficial and they won't mean as much in the future.

C & F is key to any convo, so keep that up ey?

Good luck

 

[NFC]

I was talking to an insecure girl the other day. She is kind of punk-rock... but incredibly cute, huge tits, nice ass... and I'm kinda more stylish/preppy dressing.. but anyway. We were talking, and I don't know but I slipped out something like "Well I figured sense you were a cool girl id.." blah balh. And she was like "I'm not cool, i'm a dork." I was like "don't be so hard on yourself, you're not a dork". now she is all up on my **** right now. in all honesty.. she should feel a bit special, sense I very rarely ever compliment anyone... lol

 

[The Shocker]

Insecure chicks are usually just fishing for compliments. In my experience, reassuring them is not the way to go. It's something one of their gfs or AFC chumps would say.

If a girl tells me she's not hot, I'll say something like "I didn't want to say anything, but now that you mention it..."