I recently started seeing this girl who is been in a relationship for the past couple of years. He was her first and she is scared to finish with him hmmm. Okay now for the question i know later i will either be speaking to her on the phone or on msn should i ask about the two of them or leave it until she mentions something and if she does mention something should i avoid the subject or confront it and be nice about it i dont know any suggestions people?
Do you ask about the other man in her life?
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Junior Sanz
Don Juan
let me tell ya something.... DO NOT ASK!!!
i posted previously i got a DUMP TRUCK LOAD of "PAST" dumped on me in the beginning of my current relationship and it literally ATE ME ALIVE!
i didnt want to trust her, i started hating her, couldnt beleive she did what she did etc!!!
all these nasty thoughts were going through my head....
never once did she ever do what she did in the past to me personally but i was SCARED she would!
get where im going with this??
LEAVE THE PAST WHERE IT IS!
~JOON
i posted previously i got a DUMP TRUCK LOAD of "PAST" dumped on me in the beginning of my current relationship and it literally ATE ME ALIVE!
i didnt want to trust her, i started hating her, couldnt beleive she did what she did etc!!!
all these nasty thoughts were going through my head....
never once did she ever do what she did in the past to me personally but i was SCARED she would!
get where im going with this??
LEAVE THE PAST WHERE IT IS!
~JOON
HeartlessBtch
Don Juan
You shouldn't ask unless she decides to talk to you about the situation. yet, i can't help but notice a see a few red flags in all of this:
1. I'm concerned because you are showing interest in someone who is already taken. So here's my question... Are you going to feel 100% secure if this girl decides to break things off with her current bf and you two develop something more? I've heard that men feel very insecure after they start a relationship with someone who has left their sigificant other for them. hey, after all what makes you think they won't do it to you ( not to say that all women are the same, in some cases the girl is actually in a really bad or abusive relationship )
2. She's afraid of breaking up with him...do you know the reasons why? is he abusive or or she not ready to let go of that LTR?
Spartan
Don Juan
She is with another guy. Can't personally see the point in going there. Up to you though mate. If she ends it, then make a move on her and if that happens don't ask her about it, she will bring it up in convesation if she watns to talk to you about it.
the point = one-itis
If you have feelings for her drop her either she comes running to ya or which is more likely you'll be able to move on with your life.
Oh and either way be like 99% focused on finding other chicks/another chick and 1% focused on still thinking about her
Yeah it's just the fact that she has been in this LTR she has concerns of leaving him definatly no abuse there...i also have a busy life and being single i do meet atleast two a week theres definatly no oneitis here whatever happens she will always be a friend with potential, and the key to more gf's...
Francisco d'Anconia
Master Don Juan
What do you hope to gain by asking anyway?
I'm Joe Dirt
Master Don Juan
I don't know about that. I think a person's past is a good indicator of what their character is like and how they are likely to act in the future.
Yes, I understand that people grow up and stuff and things change, but usually the fundamental character of a person doesn't barring some major life altering event. Basically if a person acted slutty in their mid to late teens, those slutty tendencies will always remain even if they are controlled better. You know what I mean?
Asking a girl about her relationship though might put you in the friend zone. I usually consider it a good thing when a girl doesn't mention her boyfriend at all or if she does tell me she has one she doesnt tell me any stories or anything. When she feels she can talk about her boyfriends and the dramas in her relationships at will and unsolicited, I think its safe to assume you're in the "just friends" category by then.
penkitten
Master Don Juan
are they broken up or still together?
Francisco d'Anconia
Master Don Juan
What about, who was bigger??? I don't get the fascination of comparing oneself to another.Originally posted by ~ªêQµïTª$~
I think curiosity is the word that explains it
Laterz...
Junior Sanz
Don Juan
im joe dirt,
no i definitely hear you boss!
when it comes to being sl*tty, i dont think thats tolerable at all....
in my case, my GF was going through a bad stage in her life (loss of her mother~~>drugs~~>wrong guys)
i cant put all this blame on her past due to these types of past experiences...
i dont know i gave her the benefit of the doubt in this case...
but sluttiness is not exception! peace out!
no i definitely hear you boss!
when it comes to being sl*tty, i dont think thats tolerable at all....
in my case, my GF was going through a bad stage in her life (loss of her mother~~>drugs~~>wrong guys)
i cant put all this blame on her past due to these types of past experiences...
i dont know i gave her the benefit of the doubt in this case...
but sluttiness is not exception! peace out!
frivolousz21
Master Don Juan
why are u bothering with a girl in this situation!
damnit man, go meet a women who is single..and has left her past behind!
damnit man, go meet a women who is single..and has left her past behind!