...crazy, literally if they feel they are being neglected, don't feel "loved", "committed to", etc etc?
I think the posts here already conclude that by and large, many women are emotionally or mentally unstable but several women I've been with seem to get incredibly frustrated after being with me and literally go off the deep end.
The last one I dated kept pressing me for more commitment, told me she didn't feel secure with me, etc and then flat-out told me that she felt I was in my own little world and that she wasn't a part of it. Then she joined some social networking site (that I didn't know about, way out of character) and randomly began trying to flirt with people, even though some of them were married. She also told me she was really frustrated and that she wanted something solid, even referring to her ideal of a knight in shining armor coming to rescue her. (single mom, ex is a thug loser, lives with her ogre of a mother)
This isn't uncommon for me. I tend to wonder if it is me that is emotionally cold, or they can sense that I truly don't know what I want out of life (I don't), or if I make them feel too vulnerable. Either way, it seems like some serious uneasiness creeps into the women I'm with after time goes on.
I'm sort of an emotional brick since waking up from the false realities I was living under as an AFC. Nothing seems to phase me now, at the expensive of me being less expressive and taking less chances. Maybe I'm too guarded, I don't know.
I tend to think maybe it's the conditioning a man sort of reaches after he's tolerated so much BS from women over the years, it's just all the same after a while and hard to get excited. The less I "feel", the less I invest in anything emotionally, but the better I function. When a woman gets too accustomed to you being available to her, it's like every day there's a new little problem in her world and you have to be mr. fix it. You're never doing enough, but when you do more than you should.. you get taken for granted anyway so there's no winning either way.
I've been told I'm not loving enough, not warm enough, uncaring, unconcerned etc. I'm sure I could do a lot better in this area, but women seem to pick this stuff up and run with it over the cliff.
I haven't met any woman since I was 18 that I felt I could totally fall for.. all of the crap, turmoil, constant tests/games and all of that sort of ruins the fun of just 'being' with a woman in a commitment type scenario. Maybe I just end up with the wrong ones, or should push to try and keep everything in the dating phase indefinately? They seem happier that way, less control over you and one less person to whine to and vent their unhappiness to.
Any of the more experienced guys here experience this? I tend to think she would honestly have just been happier with some AFC that was hanging over her all the time and salivating to put a ring on her finger. It puts into whole question this DJ thing--the more manly I act, the more that certain women have a problem with it. Of course, I'm happier being this way than the spineless person I was before.. but still ultimately wondering if I am my own worst enemy when it comes to relationships. Maybe I'm just meant to be single.
As much as I truly do want someone I can just be with (and for them to not make me feel I need to be changed, or be more of this, or that, etc), the rewards with women always seem to be much less than the investment required. Everything has to be a freaking challenge, a conflict, a game--I'm tired of playing it!
I think the posts here already conclude that by and large, many women are emotionally or mentally unstable but several women I've been with seem to get incredibly frustrated after being with me and literally go off the deep end.
The last one I dated kept pressing me for more commitment, told me she didn't feel secure with me, etc and then flat-out told me that she felt I was in my own little world and that she wasn't a part of it. Then she joined some social networking site (that I didn't know about, way out of character) and randomly began trying to flirt with people, even though some of them were married. She also told me she was really frustrated and that she wanted something solid, even referring to her ideal of a knight in shining armor coming to rescue her. (single mom, ex is a thug loser, lives with her ogre of a mother)
This isn't uncommon for me. I tend to wonder if it is me that is emotionally cold, or they can sense that I truly don't know what I want out of life (I don't), or if I make them feel too vulnerable. Either way, it seems like some serious uneasiness creeps into the women I'm with after time goes on.
I'm sort of an emotional brick since waking up from the false realities I was living under as an AFC. Nothing seems to phase me now, at the expensive of me being less expressive and taking less chances. Maybe I'm too guarded, I don't know.
I tend to think maybe it's the conditioning a man sort of reaches after he's tolerated so much BS from women over the years, it's just all the same after a while and hard to get excited. The less I "feel", the less I invest in anything emotionally, but the better I function. When a woman gets too accustomed to you being available to her, it's like every day there's a new little problem in her world and you have to be mr. fix it. You're never doing enough, but when you do more than you should.. you get taken for granted anyway so there's no winning either way.
I've been told I'm not loving enough, not warm enough, uncaring, unconcerned etc. I'm sure I could do a lot better in this area, but women seem to pick this stuff up and run with it over the cliff.
I haven't met any woman since I was 18 that I felt I could totally fall for.. all of the crap, turmoil, constant tests/games and all of that sort of ruins the fun of just 'being' with a woman in a commitment type scenario. Maybe I just end up with the wrong ones, or should push to try and keep everything in the dating phase indefinately? They seem happier that way, less control over you and one less person to whine to and vent their unhappiness to.
Any of the more experienced guys here experience this? I tend to think she would honestly have just been happier with some AFC that was hanging over her all the time and salivating to put a ring on her finger. It puts into whole question this DJ thing--the more manly I act, the more that certain women have a problem with it. Of course, I'm happier being this way than the spineless person I was before.. but still ultimately wondering if I am my own worst enemy when it comes to relationships. Maybe I'm just meant to be single.
As much as I truly do want someone I can just be with (and for them to not make me feel I need to be changed, or be more of this, or that, etc), the rewards with women always seem to be much less than the investment required. Everything has to be a freaking challenge, a conflict, a game--I'm tired of playing it!
