Do women appreciate an intuitive and observant man?

[STR8UP]

So, what do you think?

We all know how women seem to be more observant and perceptive than men. You're talking to your friend in a club and a woman who you THOUGHT wasn't paying attention or couldn't hear you all of the sudden interjects herself into your convo...or how your girlfriend turns to you and says, "did you see that?" You say "what". She says, "I can't believe you didn't see the horrible shoes that woman was wearing!" Like I could give a rats ass about some strangers shoes!

I was dancing with a girl I had just met at a club awhile back. Her midriff was covered but as I was dancing I felt her navel piercing. She seemed impressed when I commented on it. Later I commented on seeing her scamming the dwarf that works outside the club for some free drinks (this was before we met). She seemed equally impressed by this.

Basically, do you think it is a TURN ON or TURN OFF when a man projects to a woman that he picks up on subtle cues and pays attention to details?

 

[marqZAL]

"did you see that?" You say "what". She says, "I can't believe you didn't see the horrible shoes that woman was wearing!"Like I could give a rats ass about some strangers shoes!

I think if you were to say "hey baby look at her shoes...unless they were stilts of sorts, then you would seem, or perhaps be gay...if you were really gave a rats ass if her shoes matched, if they were prada then you just might be GAY...So i dont know if it would be a positive thing for you to say that toa women....I think being intuitive is good if its something that is completely and utterly obvious, or the details are about her...

Bottom line, being "observant and perceptive"about what she does is good, about what other girls do in front of yall is bad, unless its something outrageous....like you dont say "wow look she has big tits for such a small girl"....now thats observant and perceptive, but not good....saying wow she has her forehead peirced is neutral teritory. Thats just the way I see it!!!

 

[Deep Dish]

Later I commented on seeing her scamming the dwarf that works outside the club

HAHAHA! I know exactly where you are talking about.

Basically, do you think it is a TURN ON or TURN OFF when a man projects to a woman that he picks up on subtle cues and pays attention to details?

Long answer:

Women pay attention to their appearance, men throw on whatever. Women spend two hours in the bathroom, men spend two minutes. Women spend their lifetime in malls, men only the day before Christmas and birthdays. Women remember directions by landmarks, men by measurements.

At York University in Canada, male and female students were left alone in a room to await a study. Actually, waiting in the room was part of the study, for when they sat down with the experimenter in another room the students were asked to recall what was in the room. A typical female response [...] "On the right-hand side of the desk, right here, was a briefcase with your initials at the top. There was a tube with mitts and a 'I am 40' button on it. In the middle there were envelopes, York University envelopes. There was a thing of Clearisil and a Bazooka joke comic." This was only part of her response [...] "We could let her go on much longer." Contrast that impressive memory performance with that of a typical male student: "I remember Pound Puppies. It was like, right here. I don't have a very good memory, I don't." That is it. The women remembered the room while the men tended not to remember. Since the subjects were not told that they would be quizzed on what was in the room, the memory may have something to do with recalling incidental things, or perhaps it is just general memory ability. In any case, the women far outpaced the men. (1).

Naturally, if they pay über amounts of attention to the smallest details, and annoyed/frustrated by the general lack of detail by men, if they run across a man who is (more of) an equal to them, the answer is...

Short answer:

Yes!

 

[matius]

Deep Dish- I don't know why you posted like that but it sure was a riot.

 

[becker]

Just the other day I was at lunch with some women, and I noticed that one of them got a haircut (it was a very minor haircut, probably like 1 or 2 inches shorter at most). I commented it, and she was very impressed that I was the only one who has noticed. Then, they went on to say that men should not notice stuff like the caloric content of foods and stuff like that, because it's too woman-like. This other girl who was married and is about 5' 8" or so said that she had to marry a guy who was bigger and taller than her (and her husband is 6' 2" and 240lbs). Anyways, different strokes for different folks. I think in general you score points for noticing little things but not making a big deal about noticing them, just acknowledging them is enough. Don't go all flaming hairdresser on them and start talking like a homosexual and you'll be ok.

 

[STR8UP]

Originally posted by Deep Dish
HAHAHA! I know exactly where you are talking about.

Just don't tell anyone. I don't like to admit it when I go slumming! LOL.

I just realized they have TWO little people working there, LOL!

Naturally, if they pay über amounts of attention to the smallest details, and annoyed/frustrated by the general lack of detail by men, if they run across a man who is (more of) an equal to them, the answer is...

Short answer:

Yes!

I agree. If you don't go overboard it gives you points. If you make a big deal of it it's like anything else. it's gonna look like you're TRYING to score points, and that's not good.

 

[Shiftkey]

I don't think women are any more perceptive than men. I think they just notice different things than us.

"Did you see that?" She says "what". You say, "I can't believe you didn't see the '53 Corvette that just drove past us!"

That said, I think it impresses women to notice small things that they care about such as a hair cut or piece of jewelry. Actually, that's what many of my approaches work off of. I notice something small such as the lettering on her shirt or anything unique and ask her a question about it. Instant rapport and instant conversation

 

[Ronin]

Yes, the appriceate it to a certain degree. If you overdo it then you will look like you are paying too much attention to them and giving too many "compliments" of sorts.

Different women like different things. Some will be astonished by your attention to detail and observation skills. Others probably couldn't care less. All women are different but overal I would say YES!

 

[STR8UP]

Originally posted by Shiftkey
"Did you see that?" She says "what". You say, "I can't believe you didn't see the '53 Corvette that just drove past us!"

Yea, a guy isn't likely to notice something unless it has the potential to run over them, lol.

I used to be terrible at picking up on little things and remembering details until I had a girlfriend who got pissed at me for not noticing the things she did. She basically made me think I was missing half of my life by not being more aware! So I have since made it a point to try and pick up on things more.

Last night I ran into the navel ring girl again. She was once again impressed when I remembered her age.

No wonder women tend to be flighty...their brains are cluttered with so much useless shlt!