All dating guides explain that a girl's desire for you decreases the more she perceives you want her. How long does this tenet apply to a relationship?
I applied it to the second serious relationship I ever had, which was also the longest relationship I ever had at just over a year. The principles worked well at first. When she tested me I'd give her a take-it-or-leave-it response. Eventually, though, she told me that she didn't believe I really loved her because I kept her at arm's length emotionally even though we'd been together for more than a year.
I continued the Don Juan principles partly because of my experience from the first serious relationship that I'd had a few years before, which really devastated me when that girl ended it. That earlier relationship was with the first girl I'd ever loved. I was naive and too trusting then. That girl she told me she loved me. I believed her and we got engaged after knowing each other for 5 months.
This second time around, I might have carried the method too far or just the wrong way. Do DJ principles only apply to the initial stages of dating? Was I wrong to apply them to a girl I'd been dating for more than a year?
Jim
I applied it to the second serious relationship I ever had, which was also the longest relationship I ever had at just over a year. The principles worked well at first. When she tested me I'd give her a take-it-or-leave-it response. Eventually, though, she told me that she didn't believe I really loved her because I kept her at arm's length emotionally even though we'd been together for more than a year.
I continued the Don Juan principles partly because of my experience from the first serious relationship that I'd had a few years before, which really devastated me when that girl ended it. That earlier relationship was with the first girl I'd ever loved. I was naive and too trusting then. That girl she told me she loved me. I believed her and we got engaged after knowing each other for 5 months.
This second time around, I might have carried the method too far or just the wrong way. Do DJ principles only apply to the initial stages of dating? Was I wrong to apply them to a girl I'd been dating for more than a year?
Jim