Do guys ask for sex!?

[Stormblade]

New and truly puzzling phenomenom

I've talked to quite a few girls recently and they all tell me how guys have asked them to have sex with them, during parties while drunk, guys they've seen and whatnot

Well they didnt have sex with any of these guys

Im shocked...I always thought you just kinda went through trial and error and saw if the girl stopped you along the way

Well maybe im right if these guys asking dont get laid
Do any of you guys ask?

Is it not DJ...I wouldnt think it is

Is this all just girl reports on AFC behavior

I wonder how many guys are doing this

 

[Imaginary Player]

You should be able to pick up on the signals as to whether or not to try without asking. If she is really feeling it just say "I'm going to get a condom", and see how she reacts. Only ask in desperation, or if you aren't getting signals after a while

 

[So pimp its scary]

never ask... just keep on moving forward unless she says no...

 

[princelydeeds]

The only time I ask for sex is when Im at my wits end, Im frustrated the chick is playing and her Anti slut Defense is on high. Asking for sex is my way of saying im pissed off and Im ready to go home usually after being teased for an extended period of time. I never ask for sex from any woman, with whom Im not kissing or being physical.

 

[Kineti[C]harm]

Don't say "Can we have sex" say "I'm gonna fvck you now like never before" or "WE're gonna have sex now" or whatever if you HAVE To say something.

 

[Stormblade]

Yeah i've never asked
Usually did the I'll get a condom deal
I was just wondering how pervasive it was
and if it was considered normal

 

[squirrels]

At that point, it should be painfully obvious that you both want it. Don't ask...just take. And if she says no, take a step or two back and try again later.

 

[So pimp its scary]

Originally posted by squirrels
And if she says no, take a step or two back and try again later.

I would be cautious of that... Because if a girl says no, and you want no risk of being called a rapist for the rest of your days, it's 'safe' only if its another day after she says no.

ie:

Officer : Your being charged with rape.
You : But it was consentual.
Officer : Did she say no about sex at any time?
You : um... yes, but that was hours before we had sex, then she changed her mind.
Officer : You have the right to remain silent....

 

[DJZ]

I never ask. It usually goes something like:

hugging
kissing
moving towards bed
still kissing
sitting on bed
kissing
(next step will be a checkpoint, she might resist and that is when you know you aren't likely to get any) laying down on bed kissing, with feet still on floor (been blocked on this step once)
laying all the way on bed kiss
(if you got past checkpoint 1, then the next step is checkpoint 2)moving my knee inbetween her legs. (been blocked on this step twice)
moving totally between their legs (clothes still on)

At this point you are most likely homefree.

I know this sounds really basic and you are probably saying "well duh!" But the point is, that there are usually 2 or 3 major points in "making out," where a girl will stop you. From my experience those are A. laying down, and B. the leg move.

I've only been C blocked one time when I got past those two checkpoints and it was when I had a girl all the way down to her thong.

 

[InLawsHateMe]

I haven't asked for sex since I was in my early teens..... then again, I don't recall asking for it a lot. I think it was more like 'Gimmie some of that a$$..' so it's not really asking.... so no, you should never have to ask for it... you can demand it, but don't ask.

 

[CyranoDeBergerac]

If you have to ask, you're doing something very, very wrong.

In fact, you answer yourself in your own post. None of the guys who asked for it got it. Women need to belive they aren't a slut. By asking them for it directly, you're begging for the B1tch shield.

If you've got her hot and bothered and you're teasing her, there's no way she's going to refuse short of deep religious conviction, and yeah, that's gonna happen...

The only thing you need to say, if anything at all is 'I want you.' You can add 'now.' as an addendum to stress intensity or urgency, but even this is considered fore-play.

-CyranoDeBergerac

 

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I generally just go for it. if she says no, I back off and reassess the situation.