Do girls just label you a simp or a **** boy

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I watched this video and I totally related to what he was talking about. It could be that we go after similar girls, but this is just my experience. If I don't have sex within 2 dates, I get ghosted lol. I have never been friend zoned because I get ghosted usually, and I have never been successful with any single moms. I hear yall complain about single moms and Iem like I can't even get one out on a first date haha. Every girl I have dated, I have had sex with within the first 2 dates except my Turkish ex. Now I asked my friend what's the greatest number of dates he's gone on before sex and he said it averages between 5-10 dates before sex. He is also shocked that I can get sex within 2 dates and get a girl to consistently blow me while I am shocked that he can maintain a girl's attention for that long.
 

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The linked video is a good video.

I don't think I am labeled by most women I interact with as a fucck boy. I am also not a simp.

If you do give off a fucck boy vibe, then having sex on the first date is congruent. I don't think there's ever been an era in which I gave off a big time fucck boy vibe. I prefer extended relationships. I've pretty much always gotten sex by the 3rd date, regardless of whether I approach her in real life or start the interaction via technology.

I think it is easier to get first date sex if the first date is the 2nd total interaction. If the first interaction was a 5-15 min chat in a grocery store or somewhere outdoors, I am in a better place when the first date happens as compared to interacting at first behind some sort of electronic screen.

In the last 15 years or so, the rules around first date sex have changed. To some extent, first date sex can help prevent flaking, so long as your sex game is on point. Sex can get a woman to be more invested, which is crucial when she has so many options and the threshold for getting a second date is much higher due to way more options.

Before dating websites and dating apps got really big, sex on the first date was usually a one night stand. That's still common enough now.

There is always a risk that if you don't go for sex on a first date that you don't see her again. It's a tough risk. There was one swipe app arranged first date I went on that was going well. I had kissed, multi-venued, etc. I drove her back to her apartment complex (she had used a ride share app to get to the date). In my car, the kissing was hot and I had my hand up her dress. Although I could have gotten the first date sex, I didn't do it because it was after midnight and I had some amount of alcohol in my system. I knew the sex wasn't going to be as high quality at 1 am when tired and buzzed. I took a risk that she wouldn't come back. She did come back and we did have sex on a later date.
 

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In the past couple years, almost all women have accused me lately of having player vibes, either implied or directly saying it.

I've never been friendzoned or strung along either, it's always a soft rejection/ghost if they don't want anything more. I have also found that if I don't have sex by date 2, it almost never works out.
 

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I am simp looking like a fackboy. Confusing for all parties. The female equivalent of a fackboy is a Sloot, and my simping ways too often made me commit to a Sloot.

I've learned the hard way. I would rather be a undercover fackboy looking like a simp.

Women expect certain behaviors from me. In the beginning it's easy to put on a act, but with time I tend to start " being myself" , and that's when things go south real fast. I think on SS we call that " losing frame".

So the category of women I choose from are generally sloots, they'll put out 1st night. Sometimes I withhold from sex on the 1st night, and they always wait and meet me again (curiosity they call it afterwards). The "good girls" never captivated me much, so I only got myself to blame. Poor life choices.
 

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I honestly couldn't care less what they think I am.
Just so long as they stay away.
 

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I don’t think I get labeled as either; just mysterious. People can’t quite figure me out. They tell me this.
 

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Nope. I'm the dude they don't think exists anymore and are happy to know they are wrong when they meet me.
 
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What did the girl want for the date? Was she just looking for a ONS?
I just told her I've been wanting to try out this Japanese Hibachi place, how about that? Idk but she's still talking to me and she goes to my gym lol.
 
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