Do girls care how many friends you have?

[Nebula]

What's up guys. I don't really have a problem attracting women... my problem is more once we start dating she's going to find out my social circle really isn't that big. I don't talk to any people from highschool and I'm currently not in college. I'd say there's maybe 4 people I hang out with from work, but besides that and family, that's about it. Eventually she's going to figure this out, especially when she doesn't see many names in my phone. I'm kind of concerned about this. And please don't say "Who cares what she's going to think." I don't know how to handle this.

Thanks fellas.

 

[I-tallionStallion]

Simple...as long as your busy with your few friends a lot thats fine. Girls don't care as long as you aren't needy. Have hobbies, cherish your close friends and you'll have no problems. If she is attracted to you, she'll still like you no matter how many friends you have. Sure popularity is a good thing to have, but by no means a relationship ender unless she's really freakin materialistic.

Plus you can go with the old saying that you only have a few true friends, all the rest are bull $hit. I'm the same way, i have a few true friends, few party friends. But the girls date me regardless.

Meet new people - join clubs, activities, meet people through your other friends, go to gyms and make friends, and what not.

Another thing...no need for her to go in your phone. Don't be so insecure about it. Its completely normal.

Hell say you have me as your friend. thats 5 now buddy.

 

[War Against Betaism]

I don't think quantity really matters, it's if your friends are AFC's or not.

 

[Infamous J]

Nebula, I'm pretty much the same way. I only have a handful of friends, but I'm pretty tight with them and I trust them all. There's definitely nothing wrong with it.
Personally, I like to have friends that aren't shallow and that I know I can count on. The ones I have left are those who have or would go to battle with me. I don't really like wasting time on surface level acquaintances. Not to say there's anything wrong with casual friendships, it's just not really for me.
So long as you're confident and at least have some social skills, you're fine.

 

[Climax]

When a woman comes to a point where the number of your friends comes into her thoughts, this is probably the time where she would be analysing your social position. A guy with a lot of friends is more likely to be the type that would go out more, party more, (ie: go to a lot of places and do a lot of things where he will be interacting with people and make new friends)

On the other hand.. A person that does not have too many friends is normally the quiet type that doesn’t really go out too often.

Now none of the above is a bad thing to be, each to his/her own. If you come across a lady that shares your preferences on certain things then that’s one of the key qualities that you can build on.

If you are the kind of guy that doesn’t enjoy going out a lot and she is the party animal type, then you see where/how it would be hard for it to work?

At the end of the day you wanna meet a chick that you can get along with and gel with beautifully.


On the other hand... If you just wanna get some ass.... Then take all the good qualities about yourself and simply emphasize on them, rather than waste ur time worrying about the qualities that might play against you.

At the same time.. for yourself... you can think of the things about yourself that you might be able to improve.. and work on them.. You grow into whoever you want... Choose the qualities you want, discard/change the ones you don’t... And become the man you always knew you had the potential to be.

 

[iqqi]

I once dated a guy who didn't have one single friend.

It was really weird. He was one of the coolest guys ever, and ppl loved him... but he didn't have any friends.

We were together for a year-ish. Afterwards, I always thought him not having any friends was a red flag.
But nothing was THAT wrong with him.

Now that I think about it, one of the guys I am really interested in now is a real lone wolf. He is always alone. And I always liked that about him... but now I am putting 2 and 2 together... maybe I should be wary!

 

[Climax]

I once dated a guy who didn't have one single friend.

It was really weird. He was one of the coolest guys ever, and ppl loved him... but he didn't have any friends.

We were together for a year-ish. Afterwards, I always thought him not having any friends was a red flag.
But nothing was THAT wrong with him.

Now that I think about it, one of the guys I am really interested in now is a real lone wolf. He is always alone. And I always liked that about him... but now I am putting 2 and 2 together... maybe I should be wary!

Well look... everyone has their own personality... And normally that personality is based on the persons upbringing along with personal life experience. So many different "lone wolves" might be the way they are for various reasons.

Furthermore just because he is this way now, doesn’t mean he wont change for a special someone (ie:you).

That said, I think that you shouldn’t rule anything out unless you really know the true reasons for this guy being the way he is.

You get people that have turned out that way because of a tragedy in their lives which was followed by some sort of depression... and you get the people that just genuinely prefer the quiet peaceful life. There are people that simply enjoy their space and don’t have a need to be "out there" doing something.

Obviously moderation comes into the picture, everyone goes out once in a while... And if a guy that doesn’t enjoy the going out thing too much meets a lady that he develops feelings for, then I'm sure that he would make come compromises for her, as he would expect her to do with him.

Maybe you will be his inspiration for going out more and creating beautiful memories. You'll never know until you test the waters.. So don’t get discouraged by this aspect of him, you never know what can happen/change.

worst case scenario is that he will turn out to be a hermit that doesn’t leave the house.... you still got a good friend that you can talk to as often as you want just like before.. The only thing that will change is the fact of you knowing if this guy is romance/relationship potential/material or if that special someone will be someone else for you.

 

[Maxtro]

I once dated a guy who didn't have one single friend.

It was really weird. He was one of the coolest guys ever, and ppl loved him... but he didn't have any friends.

We were together for a year-ish. Afterwards, I always thought him not having any friends was a red flag.
But nothing was THAT wrong with him.

Now that I think about it, one of the guys I am really interested in now is a real lone wolf. He is always alone. And I always liked that about him... but now I am putting 2 and 2 together... maybe I should be wary!

Interesting that you bring that up iqqi. Currently I don't have any friends. I haven't had one in a couple of years. The last "friend" I had ended up using me as a cover while he cheated on his GF.

I just don't like guys that much. I've had nothing but guy friends all the way up until 23ish and I got sick of it. I would love to have chick friends though. All throughout my life I've wanted to have a group of chick friends and one of them would be my "special friend."

It can be a red flag when a dude has no friends, just ask him why.

 

[The Deacon]

You can be attractive if you're a lone wolf. Look, I've known lone wolves who pull pretty hot girls (8s to 10s) and social butterflies who get jack sh*t. Will it cause complications? Well, if you want a long-term relationship, it'll be tough on you and your girl if she's a social butterfly and you're not. If you're both introverted, it's all good. Really.

 

[Answers]

If she likes you it won't matter.

 

[DJVladdy]

Eh yea James Bond had no friends but he was successful.
Me - I'm not that good with girls, even tho I have ALOT of friends.