DJs don't talk to girls???

[One on One]

OK, the title of this thread is obviously just an attention-grabber, but I've been having a hard time figuring out how much to chat to girls. Two principle points that are advocated by DJs are the following:

1. Don't be her emotional tampon
2. Remain a mystery and challenge to her

Because of these two principles, I have really been wary of entering into deep conversations with girls. It makes me come off as aloof. I am trying so hard to avoid LJBF territory. It would be helpful if someone could shed some light on what is OK to talk about, how long you can talk, etc.

 

[TheInfamousCBear]

Originally posted by dave134
OK, the title of this thread is obviously just an attention-grabber, but I've been having a hard time figuring out how much to chat to girls. Two principle points that are advocated by DJs are the following:

1. Don't be her emotional tampon
2. Remain a mystery and challenge to her

Because of these two principles, I have really been wary of entering into deep conversations with girls. It makes me come off as aloof. I am trying so hard to avoid LJBF territory. It would be helpful if someone could shed some light on what is OK to talk about, how long you can talk, etc.

Here's what Ive seen...When I was AFC, I would be friends with girls and talk to them all the time, and they would end up liking dudes who they didnt talk to as much...It wasnt how much they were talking to them like I thought, it was they way they carried themselves, their image, and the quality of the little convo's they had...Ive seen dudes talk to girls like crazy, and then they end up fukking someone else...

When you talk to them, use Kino and other stuff on them, and try to get into relationship territory in a reasonable amount of time...

 

[MysteryWoman]

Guys never initiate talking to me, I am always the one that has to start a conversation. It would be a real mystery for a guy to initiate a conversation once in awhile (as this is so rare)

 

[Bonhomme]

DJs don't talk? Not necessarily

There are few better things you can do than develop rapport with a woman. But not in an ass-kissy way. If you can engage in the right kind of talk, all the better to talk more.

But don't be falsely agreeable, and don't be an emotional tampon. Stick to your guns.

 

[mahon83050]

Originally posted by MysteryWoman
Guys never initiate talking to me, I am always the one that has to start a conversation. It would be a real mystery for a guy to initiate a conversation once in awhile (as this is so rare)

That is probably because I have heard English guys are shy as hell.

 

[matius]

That's crazy anyway...

LOL, girls do NOT initiate shyte. Atleast from what I've seen, there are always exceptions.

 

[spanky]

I believe the principle of remaining a mystery sounds good on paper but can only last for so long. Being a challenge is the most important thing, IMO.

If you talk with a woman enough, you will have to expose some things about yourself. They will notice that you aren't giving them any thing after a while.

Dave, I would adhere to #1 like a fly on fly paper if I am not in a LTR with the woman.

With #2, I would worry about adhering to for a while but very gradually sacrificing the former over time while holding onto the latter like a grudge but not over doing it.

The trick is to continuously get her to talk and if it seems as if you are asking too many questions, expose a bit about yourself while staying more superficial with it. I like deep convos because I just like them and I believe that they leave a good lasting impression with a woman if they are good topics but I make sure they are the ones that are exposing mostly all of the deeper thoughts while I just direct which thoughts will be revealed.

I was out with a lady friend of mine last week who I haven't hung out with in years. I was talking with a woman at a bar while she sat at a table. From her angle she could see me fully but could barely see the lady. Well, after I left the bar with my friend and the woman's number, my friend said that I talked too much.

She said that she saw my mouth moving a lot during the conversation with the woman. I told her that she should have seen the woman's mouth. She talked a lot more than I did. I then told her that I knew Where the woman was born, where she was raised, how long she lived in the city, who she lived with, what her life was like growing up, what school she went to, blah zay woo, but she only knew my name age and where I was from. All the other crap that came out of my mouth was superficial BS that encouraged the woman to talk more.