Charisma: Hi... I had a crazy night last night and just trying to recupurate... Oh I am so old
Anyways, here are my answers.... Of course, I'd behave
- On what is the first thing I look at. HOnestly, the entire package. But I mean there is NO EXPLAINING at least in rational terms chemistry. I look for a smile, and hate to say it but usually above average men... I think we all tend to naturally seek out our equals and I don't mean that ****y. I see men who are butt ugly with gorgeous women..but they either have a lot of $$$ or really have mastered their game. I mean my DJ was below average and I fell so hard to say here.....
There are those women who look for success first or money. I don't do that as I am already succesful. Albeit this year took me for a ride. Basically, I never look at their crotch first. Ick. I look at their being. ANd if they exude a certain something ie confidence, happy go lucky and positive attitude then that is great. Now there is also the more sinister, I can't get a read on this man but he is tall dark and handsome.. so I say. depending on your own style and only you know what that is....use your best assets and go for it. Depends on your personality really. I mean you can improve your skills but don't change who you are and try to become funny and ****y if it aint you.
I mean I have one hot friend, a male who is just well, cynical. Sort of a Dennis Miller type. If he were to try and act all happy go lucky I would cringe. Then I have another male X who is just a go getter type. Over achiever. Happy all the time and Mr. I can. My particular DJ however, was a combination of both but more serene and calm and just cool... Hard to explain but he and were opposites. For sure! At least in our demeanor. I am very charasmatic and he is more quite and shy. I can be a real social butterfly and at times chatty kathy.. cringe.. II am working on that but I am very excitable and have tons of energy. Childlike and he was Mr. Cool....
Sorry if that didn't really help. Not to mention I am 30 something so what I would look for would be different than lets say an 18 year old. Thanks Tiger Royal!!! I am learning. I think by now everyone on here nows my age or close to it. But cut it out calling me old.. There are some really hot chicks my age!!!!!
I suppose, I am at a point where I have made it in my life, had careers and looking to meet the man that can keep my fire lit. But it's all at first I think initial attraction and chemistry and if you have an answer for that and how that works...than let me know... This former DJ was nothing like any man I have ever dated. But he is my opposite in a lot of ways so maybe that had something to do with it. Like the fact that I prefer dark, tall and handsome, well built .. When I am myself very thin, tall but fair skin and light hair.
-Holding hands. This is embarassing but I have rather clamy hands so this is a sore spot for me I have had it since I was a kid. They aren't always that way but it's something that I am a little self conscious about. My last bf would tease me about it. Not in a mean way but I say, if it feels right then do it. I mean any touch at all is better than no touch. Just don't hold on for too long. Occasionaly, drop your hand and then pick up again while walking so she is a little caught off. When You pick up again she'll be happy but you are sort of running the show and may sound sexist but women like that. Understand? Make sense... Clamy hands not to good on this point And for men with clamy hands forget about it. i have had great success and it doesn't matter... Just go with the flow.
-In my former Dj situation he didn't really approach me. He is an attorney and I was recommended to him by someone and we met that way. Technically, I am his client.. His best ever according to him So can't help you there.
-Lastly, I am trying to remember the last point...... I forgot.ohyeah... on when to act like a wuss. well never.. first and foremost if a women you just met is already telling you she hates her parents.. RUN RUN RUNNNNNNN!!!!!! Bad sign. Of course, I love mine but that is just to much to soon, frankly. I would just listen and not say much of anything. WHen it comes to peoples families they can talk **** about them but when YOU or someone else does it usually backfires. Don't do it. But you can talk to her and give some romantic stuff. In my DJ's case, if he had only given a little more when I really needed it.. and I told him... he might not of gotten the ax so soon.. Thank god he didn't but its the truth. I mean sure play the game but you have to do a subtle dance of being a DJ and being a little romanitc. I mean you have to give her something.. and not just a ****** he he he...
I am not sure that helps. I am relaxing and getting over last night Keep me posted. Pm me if you want.
I must be a women cux my posts are so friggen long. I notice that to be a real difference with men and women especially, when conversing in email. I don't know.
Have a great night. I hope you scored!!!! Big time.
Anyways, here are my answers.... Of course, I'd behave - On what is the first thing I look at. HOnestly, the entire package. But I mean there is NO EXPLAINING at least in rational terms chemistry. I look for a smile, and hate to say it but usually above average men... I think we all tend to naturally seek out our equals and I don't mean that ****y. I see men who are butt ugly with gorgeous women..but they either have a lot of $$$ or really have mastered their game. I mean my DJ was below average and I fell so hard to say here.....
There are those women who look for success first or money. I don't do that as I am already succesful. Albeit this year took me for a ride. Basically, I never look at their crotch first. Ick. I look at their being. ANd if they exude a certain something ie confidence, happy go lucky and positive attitude then that is great. Now there is also the more sinister, I can't get a read on this man but he is tall dark and handsome.. so I say. depending on your own style and only you know what that is....use your best assets and go for it. Depends on your personality really. I mean you can improve your skills but don't change who you are and try to become funny and ****y if it aint you.
I mean I have one hot friend, a male who is just well, cynical. Sort of a Dennis Miller type. If he were to try and act all happy go lucky I would cringe. Then I have another male X who is just a go getter type. Over achiever. Happy all the time and Mr. I can. My particular DJ however, was a combination of both but more serene and calm and just cool... Hard to explain but he and were opposites. For sure! At least in our demeanor. I am very charasmatic and he is more quite and shy. I can be a real social butterfly and at times chatty kathy.. cringe.. II am working on that but I am very excitable and have tons of energy. Childlike and he was Mr. Cool....
Sorry if that didn't really help. Not to mention I am 30 something so what I would look for would be different than lets say an 18 year old. Thanks Tiger Royal!!! I am learning. I think by now everyone on here nows my age or close to it. But cut it out calling me old.. There are some really hot chicks my age!!!!!
I suppose, I am at a point where I have made it in my life, had careers and looking to meet the man that can keep my fire lit. But it's all at first I think initial attraction and chemistry and if you have an answer for that and how that works...than let me know... This former DJ was nothing like any man I have ever dated. But he is my opposite in a lot of ways so maybe that had something to do with it. Like the fact that I prefer dark, tall and handsome, well built .. When I am myself very thin, tall but fair skin and light hair.
-Holding hands. This is embarassing but I have rather clamy hands so this is a sore spot for me
I have had it since I was a kid. They aren't always that way but it's something that I am a little self conscious about. My last bf would tease me about it. Not in a mean way but I say, if it feels right then do it. I mean any touch at all is better than no touch. Just don't hold on for too long. Occasionaly, drop your hand and then pick up again while walking so she is a little caught off. When You pick up again she'll be happy but you are sort of running the show and may sound sexist but women like that. Understand? Make sense... Clamy hands not to good on this point And for men with clamy hands forget about it. i have had great success and it doesn't matter... Just go with the flow. -In my former Dj situation he didn't really approach me. He is an attorney and I was recommended to him by someone and we met that way. Technically, I am his client.. His best ever according to him
So can't help you there.-Lastly, I am trying to remember the last point...... I forgot.ohyeah... on when to act like a wuss. well never.. first and foremost if a women you just met is already telling you she hates her parents.. RUN RUN RUNNNNNNN!!!!!! Bad sign. Of course, I love mine but that is just to much to soon, frankly. I would just listen and not say much of anything. WHen it comes to peoples families they can talk **** about them but when YOU or someone else does it usually backfires. Don't do it. But you can talk to her and give some romantic stuff. In my DJ's case, if he had only given a little more when I really needed it.. and I told him... he might not of gotten the ax so soon.. Thank god he didn't but its the truth. I mean sure play the game but you have to do a subtle dance of being a DJ and being a little romanitc. I mean you have to give her something.. and not just a ****** he he he...
I am not sure that helps. I am relaxing and getting over last night
Keep me posted. Pm me if you want.I must be a women cux my posts are so friggen long. I notice that to be a real difference with men and women especially, when conversing in email. I don't know.
Have a great night. I hope you scored!!!! Big time.
