DJ Skills Attracting the Type of Women You Don't Like?

[davelmn2003]

It seems to me that being a DJ can bring you luck with a lot more women, but I'm wondering whether DJ skills bring in the kind of women that are more easy (fickle) and less of a LTR material--women who are playful (and players) rather than good girls...I mean if I girl is attracted to superficial stuff like C&F or kino by someone they hardly know...I'm not sure whether I like those kinds of girls...?

Also, just as there are worthy men out there who are AFCs, are there no HB's out there who think like AFC's and who perhaps might like AFC's? Just a thought...

 

[TesuqueRed]

hrrrmmm, much confusion in you, yes? (badly paraphrasing Yoda here...)

"Bring you luck..." is how it appears if you see this stuff as techniques and tricks and patterns.

Bringing in LTR material or the more fickle/shallow types??--sounds like you're still working on getting a focus on what this is about.

Shift perspective. Women will often say that they want people (men) who are real and what the guy does will either turn them on or turn them off. Women will look with a great deal of focus on everything you say, everything you do, everything you wear, -- and, most importantly, how you do / say / wear it.

Great deal of focus--??? Ha! They have weaponized, laser-quality hyper-focus going on!

Why? To see if you're "real".

WTF does "real" mean?

The details have to be attended to--you do have to be clean, nicely/fashionably dressed, employed (mostly)---but details as such aren't important, it's what attention to these details tell them about you and how they decide if you're a good match or not.

If details are solely focused on, then it's merely a matter of saying the right line, wearing the right cologne, driving the right car, living in the right area of town.

Focus on the details in the right way and you show confidence, intelligence, style, ability, ease---and these are what counts.

That is what "real" means.

And to them it signals whether you're worthy or not.

Doing the stuff here aren't techniques or games or stunts--it is learning to see how your behavior and internal awareness is manifested and perceived by those around you.

It's not tricks or techniques, it goes deeper than that. We may recommend at high volume that you do certain things in a specific way, but that is to get you behaving a certain way, which often leads to understanding what you already had in you (ok, this is getting to touchy-feely-zen-wannabe-ish, I'll stop...)

Anyway, it does attract a great many more women---people, don't forget, you make more friends eventually---but often it is you qualifying them!

Sure--you get shallow ones. You can handle them, too.

And you get quality too, and--from my experience (I shyt you not!) the quality ones always insist that you prove your worth as we describe here.

Remember: you are not obligated to accept every female that comes sniffing around you!

 

[KiInCollege]

The DJ skills here work universally on about any normal girl. Playettes or the nice girls...they are not immune. I've been with both types, and while the playettes are fun to spit game to, you really are appreciating your DJ skills when the sweet girl you really want is yours.

 

[Gangster Of Love]

As TesuqueRed mentioned, being a DJ is more than just using specific skills. In fact, the outer game, that will help you attract many of those girls you mentioned, is only a small fraction of what DJ'ing is all about. The focus is in a total direction. Improve yourself, and you will 'attract' the kind of people you want into your life. If you worry just about the techniques, and pick ups, etc., you will miss the whole point, because you are the one who won't be real, so you will keep attracting the kinds of women you don't want for something long term.

 

[htemorp]

Being a DJ to me, means you're aggressive, taking charges, picking women out of a crowd. You're picking them, you don't sit on your ass being an AFC and waiting for women to throw themselves at you, because for whatever reason you think you're da shiet. Being a DJ means that you have more choices, more options meeting different women and figure out exactly who is right for you. Instead of marrying the first girl you met in highschool/college, because she approached you and said hi and didn't turn down your nervous advance on her, "uhhh, do you think you want to come eat some food with me?"