DJ...=Rapist?

[j0n024]

I was reading...well actually flipping through a magazine and became interested in the article called "5 signs he's a Rapist." I started to read and looked at some of the key signs and was chuckling at them to myself, I didnt get all of the 5 signs but I got a couple that were exactly what us as DJ's do to women.

1. Act dominant toward you, in a carefree but agressive way.
Now I've been here for a while and know that being dominant helps bring her into your frame and gives you better chances at hooking but seeing this in a women's magizine freaked me out, I wonder if next time I go up to a women and be myself would she think I'm a rapist.

2.Asking to move somewhere else where it is quiet to talk (Club game/Isolating)I
I havent started night game but this is for people that do, next time do you think when you want to iso she might throw out the rape card and you get thrown out of the club?

I dont remember the other one's but its in one of the womens magazines so if you wanna look for it when your out go ahead and find out the other signs, but I think this enforces the way that our society is becoming anti-social and soon when people see other people walk up to strangers (Cold approaching) it would be frowned upon as opposed to now where lots of people just ignore you.

 

[Vice]

I was reading...well actually flipping through a magazine and became interested in the article called "5 signs he's a Rapist." I started to read and looked at some of the key signs and was chuckling at them to myself, I didnt get all of the 5 signs but I got a couple that were exactly what us as DJ's do to women.

1. Act dominant toward you, in a carefree but agressive way.
Now I've been here for a while and know that being dominant helps bring her into your frame and gives you better chances at hooking but seeing this in a women's magizine freaked me out, I wonder if next time I go up to a women and be myself would she think I'm a rapist.

2.Asking to move somewhere else where it is quiet to talk (Club game/Isolating)I
I havent started night game but this is for people that do, next time do you think when you want to iso she might throw out the rape card and you get thrown out of the club?

I dont remember the other one's but its in one of the womens magazines so if you wanna look for it when your out go ahead and find out the other signs, but I think this enforces the way that our society is becoming anti-social and soon when people see other people walk up to strangers (Cold approaching) it would be frowned upon as opposed to now where lots of people just ignore you.

I remember reading this. It was in this month's Cosmo. I found it quite amusing; social conditioning at work!

We are supposed to be dominant. However, there's a difference between being a leader and being domineering.

And the point of isolation is so you can physically escalate with her comfortably, away from prying eyes. You know, so she does not seem easy or slutty. Isolate gently but firmly. This shouldn't be a problem at all if you've demonstrated high enough value and security.

Women's magazines are very interesting, but should never be taken literally.

 

[j0n024]

HAHA I knew it was some magazine dealing with women but didnt know which one...hehe guess I dont pay attention that much.

The point I was trying to make was since women DO read this and DO take some of this stuff a little to far dont you think they might start to be wary and start to have more LMR as opposed to now where it wasnt common knowledge or at least it wasnt called being a "Rapist Tactic."

 

[Desdinova]

I remember reading this. It was in this month's Cosmo.

I think it's funny that many of us are more interested in reading Cosmo than the average woman. When I'm waiting for the doctor, that's the first magazine that I pick up

When women are interested in a man, they aren't going to remember that article they read in Cosmo. They're going to be more interested in how the guy is making them feel, and will be occupied in dreaming up her own fantasies about how the relationship could possibly progress. Identifying a rapist is going to be the last thing on her mind.

BTW, the difference between rape and good sex is how the woman feels about it.

 

[BMX]

So, if these magazines are reinforcing the notions that society should be anti-social and frown upon things such as cold approaching, so be it. As DJ's, we should not be more conformist-henchmen to these ill-advised schools of thought. I will continue my day game cold approaches and keep getting positive results no matter.

I do not believe there is a very-close line dividing DJ and rapist. As I have learned, being overly-aggressive or needy goes hand-in-hand with driving women away. Now there is a fine line between our c+f techniques and arrogance that requires practice in its application. I've witnessed my father cross that line into the red frequently and I know that his arrogance/close-minded frame is not something I wish to display myself.

With the cold approaching, comfort-building along with the other techniques will help paint a better portrait of who you are and also in # closing. My experience in doing so is invaluable in that I've learned what not to do or say to make women worry or doubt you. Finding that so many were receptive to my approaching was good to know and made for easier transitions into comfort. Of course, there are always some that think all men approaching are rapists or out for no good and they just need to be left to their own delusion-filled world if they won't give you even a minute out of their day.

The the OP, your FR's are solid and keep learning from them. With how you carry yourself and what you do, there's no need to worry about them considering you a rapist. We are DJ's no more, no less and not aggressive, caged-nutjobs.

 

[Huffman]

Says loads about your confidence if you actually believe that stuff and care about it.

 

[j0n024]

I dont think I actually said I cared I just brought it up to your guys attention and wanted to get your take on it....I dont think anywhere I said I cared though...lol huff.

I also didnt intentionally want to read it....I was waiting for my cuz in a 7/11 and looked at the magazines. But thanks guys, I wasnt going to stop being the way I am I just wanted to get your take on this article since like the above poster said more guys probably read cosmo and will become MORE afc and not cold approach ANY women and have ANOTHER excuse.

 

[Huffman]

To clarify: that MAY apply to rapists, yet it also applies to successful men. A coincidence. The article quickly renders itself useless.

To all aspiring DJs: your life may be hard enough as it is. Start believing in yourself, instead of some article providing questionable evidence. This article won't change much - however if you really believe what you read, you might poison your thoughts.

My take on it: the article decribes sexual men. It then comes to the conclusion that all men who are not afraid to show their sexuality are potentional rapists. *facepalm*

More accurately, those men want to have sex.
That's the point. Don't you want to have sex?

 

[Brumbully]

those kind of magazines are mostly nonsense

 

[Mr. Z]

Lulz, I Dj at a club, and outside rap. Whenever i do my "pvssy" set the two songs that the girls go crazy for is. "Like a prayer" by madonna and "I think were alone now" by tiffany. hmm, maybe i should switch em up, that way we can be alone while she's giving me a bj.

 

[Heart Break Kid]

Rapists must breathe and eat, and so do you. Does this make you a rapist? Thread closed.