My gut told me it might go down like this tonight. Had some drinks scheduled with a girl I last spoke to online over a year ago (originally had her in the too hard basket, then she contacted me a week ago). As it turns out, I wasn't attracted to her at all in person - they say attraction isn't a choice...they're not joking.
But, I forced myself to give it an earnest go for a few minutes to see if I could warm into it...not a chance. We were about to order drinks and it became pretty obvious that I needed to choose between faking it for the next hour and ditching her. I ditched her.
"Sam, love, I'm just not feeling this, sorry. I'm going to leave it there. Night." - and I left.
About as polite as I could be while still making a clean, decisive break. Blowback was minimal, just the one shocked text message telling me that I was incredibly rude. Which is par for the course, I've done this four, maybe five times over the last two years, and that's just how it goes.
Anyway, I don't recall that we've ever really talked about ditching girls here. Might be worth comparing notes.
But, I forced myself to give it an earnest go for a few minutes to see if I could warm into it...not a chance. We were about to order drinks and it became pretty obvious that I needed to choose between faking it for the next hour and ditching her. I ditched her.
"Sam, love, I'm just not feeling this, sorry. I'm going to leave it there. Night." - and I left.
About as polite as I could be while still making a clean, decisive break. Blowback was minimal, just the one shocked text message telling me that I was incredibly rude. Which is par for the course, I've done this four, maybe five times over the last two years, and that's just how it goes.
Anyway, I don't recall that we've ever really talked about ditching girls here. Might be worth comparing notes.