Disrespectful Behavior From Women

[Sino Zane]

When you experience disrespect from women, you either pull back entirely and become distant and cold with them, or you calmly admonish their behavior.

If after you admonish their behavior their disrespect continues, this shows you the mindset that they have toward you. It shows you that they don't really hold you in high-regard. It shows you that they don't really care about what you think. It shows you that you aren't that valuable to them. So obviously, you cut them off. They no longer should receive your time or your warmness, because they are not worthy of it, and it would be a waste to offer these things to her anyway because they won't really appreciate it anyway. As far as they are concerned, they can live with or without you.

Of course they will not explicitly tell you this, so you have to watch their behavior. And when the behavior doesn't improve, you have your answer. Hope this is clear for all of the posters wondering whether or not a certain girl is into them.

 

[Sino Zane]

Great post. Very insightful, and I think alot of guys need to pay attention to this in their relationship.

I am experiencing this a bit right now. Disrespectful, *****y behavior. We live an hour apart, dated for 2 years, but only see each other weekends due to work. Just spent a week together on vacation and she was a bit snappy.

It tells me that she is losing interest, or has other crap going on making her a bit *****y.

In any case, I have pulled back and will give her some time to miss me, feel my absence, and we will see what happens. Disrespectful behavior tells me:
1 they have lost interest and don't really care if you like it or not, or if you pull the pin.

2. They have other stresses and are taking it out on you - still not good.

3. My GF is losing a bit of weight, and is probably turning more heads, and feeling a self-esteem boost - hence the snotty behavior? Whatever. Honey, if you can do "better than me", by all means do it. But while you ARE with me, I expect to be treated decently.

4. She has a sense of frustration because she doesn't see the relationship "progressing to the next level". She has hinted she would like to move in together but my job and son's school are one hour from her job and school. Don't see anything happening for some time.

The other thing is, she would like to live together, but when push comes to shove and we discuss it a bit, it becomes clear that she really has no desire to live anywhere but the city she lives in...............so that means it would be ME selling my house and moving, ME changing jobs, ME taking all the risk......................so, no.....I don't see that happening anytime soon.


The moral of the story is to pay attention, take corrective action - some things will be salvaged, some things can not.

I admire your mindset here. If she's bringing you joy, then fantastic. But if she's starting to really rock the boat so to speak, it's time to open up your eyes.

Btw, do not risk the quality of your life unless you're doing it for a SURE thing. And she is not a sure thing.

 

[logicallefty]

I touched on this in my other thread from yesterday.

My #1 overall complaint from the GF of two years I just dumped was how she never respected the big things I asked of her.

She must have respected me some because she was always buying me little things. She threw a huge birthday party for me. Also, when I hacked her private FB/texts/etc she generally said good things about me to her friends and family, mostly..

But on the other hand, towards the end she started throwing little jabs at me all the time.

And the entire relationship she never respected/did the BIG/IMPORTANT things I would ask of her. I would even say "pay attention. What I am about to tell you is really important to me and will help you be able to get along with me much better if you do it".

Anyone else have this particular kind of disrespect? And how did you deal with it?

 

[guru1000]

At the onset of any relation, I overtly disclose two boundaries:

1. Don't disrespect me;
2. Don't contribute to others disrespecting me.

As disrespectful acts have a wide spectrum within my modus operandi, I intentionally am not specific as to the "rules" of disrespect, as I could not reasonably contrive EVERY scenario. Thereafter, should a disrespectful act occur, I state "You did X. At the onset, I explained to you I tolerate no disrespect." Let her ensuing response be your prescription. If she does not acquiescence fully, dump her.

It's that simple.

 

[asa_don]

When you experience disrespect from women, you either pull back entirely and become distant and cold with them, or you calmly admonish their behavior.

If after you admonish their behavior their disrespect continues, this shows you the mindset that they have toward you. It shows you that they don't really hold you in high-regard. It shows you that they don't really care about what you think. It shows you that you aren't that valuable to them. So obviously, you cut them off. They no longer should receive your time or your warmness, because they are not worthy of it, and it would be a waste to offer these things to her anyway because they won't really appreciate it anyway. As far as they are concerned, they can live with or without you.

Of course they will not explicitly tell you this, so you have to watch their behavior. And when the behavior doesn't improve, you have your answer. Hope this is clear for all of the posters wondering whether or not a certain girl is into them.

lame, when you're being disrespected you dont take their sh!t and leave. pulling back is for afc's that have a beta mind set thinking they can regain the power. if she's disrespecting you, your pulling back isnt going to help, she still thinks of you as inferior already. disrespect means no respect for you, her behavior isnt going to change, thats why you get rid of her before she does to you.

 

[Rave18]

I was at a coaching center and my teacher was explaining something, from a book on her lap. I was distracted by her b00bs, so I borrowed a copy of the book and started reading it [while listening to her explanation]

Next thing I know, she is telling everyone I was staring at her breasts. WTF

disrespectful behaviour ?

 

[logicallefty]

I was at a coaching center and my teacher was explaining something, from a book on her lap. I was distracted by her b00bs, so I borrowed a copy of the book and started reading it [while listening to her explanation]

Next thing I know, she is telling everyone I was staring at her breasts. WTF

disrespectful behaviour ?

Yes. I would pull her aside and tell her "Sorry I was looking at your b00bs. To be honest after I looked at them I realized that they were not worth taking my time out of class to glance at. "

 

[Rave18]

Yes. I would pull her aside and tell her "Sorry I was looking at your b00bs. To be honest after I looked at them I realized that they were not worth taking my time out of class to glance at. "

:crackup: will try my best to do so.

 

[johnywhite17]

Genuine question, how do you admonish disrespect without coming off as over sensitive/ butt hurt?
ex. today I got this text from a girl a few hours before a date telling me she had food poisoning (paraphrased)

That's disrespectful as **** and I'm pissed that she thinks that's acceptable behavior, but it was a first date so I'm not upset. I just replied "k" and thought it was kind of a butt hurt response. I sent it anyway because I don't give flakes a second chance ever unless they have a good excuse and counter so I didn't care how it sounded. But I think it's tough to be the one who cares less when you lecture a girl for hurting your feeling of pride. That sounds critcal of your point but it's not, I just need some clarification.