Disappointment and Frustration

[Umbra]

Over the past few years, I've been very "successful" with women from most men's perspectives. I don't even care to go into details. There's a very serious problem, however. Most of the women I date invariably "fall in love" with me over a short period of time. That might not seem like a bad trend until you consider that I have absolutely zero feelings in return.

I truly feel that I haven't met a woman worth my time and devotion. I've wasted so much time on unworthy women in the past that I feel like I can't afford to do it any more. You invest so much time, money, and emotion into a relationship when you want it to work. And then you watch it all blow away when the relationship dissolves.

I'm far more selective now. It's as if I didn't know what I wanted at all when I first started dating. And then, with each woman I courted, the silhouette of my ideal woman became more clearly defined. Now, after all of these experiences, I can weed out the unworthy women very quickly.

But this is getting really frustrating, because all of them are getting weeded out. My standards aren't impossible, not by a long shot. They are very reasonable, in my opinion. I can even post a list of qualities I made when I sat down to think about my standards one day, if any of you would like to evaluate them.

I can't be the only one bored with women? I know most of you are aspiring DJs, getting your first taste of success. However, some of you are more experienced, like me. Are any of you in the same boat? I feel like women are like robots now. They are programmed to find and attach themselves to strong males. They are willing to do anything to have that security. But it seems they have nothing more to offer than their aging bodies. They seldom have hobbies or broader interests in the world around them.

I feel like vomiting. I don't even bother talking to women any more. I just spend my time on my hobbies now, but I don't think anyone wants to be without a soulmate forever. *sigh* What the hell, guys?

 

[WatchMeWalk]

I know what you mean. I've had it up to my eyebrows with the Cosmo reading, cellphone/handbag generation. Have you tried pulling in more high brow places like museums, yoga classes, etc.?

 

[MrMetropolis]

Soulmate??? I don't believe there is such a thing. I have wasted plenty of time and money with unworthy women and been an AFC doing it. I got to that point as well, Just started to get so involved with my hobbies that for a women to get my attention she has to literally demand it. Why should I waste my time with you if I have better things to do. Show me your worth, I don't care if your a hotbody or not.

Mr.Metro

 

[Francisco d'Anconia]

I was in the same situation last year. I knew exactly what I wanted and could not find it anywhere in my state. I could only do one thing, play the game like a woman.

Women will go out and date just to have a good time. That's how so many guys get trapped in the friend zone. But nobody ever said that women couldn't fall victim to the same fate, right?

So I accepted women's invitations to lunch, dinner, whatever. A couple interested me enough to sleep with them a couple of times but I never led them to believe that we were any type of relationship. We were just friends.

That went on for several months until my current gf found me online. Luckily she had gone through the same ordeals and knew what she wanted just as I. We met and knew after our first date that we were meant for each other. We're celebrating our first year anniversary later this year.

Life is sweet!