Wonderbread166
Senior Don Juan
For many months, I read all the technques and inspirational posts here on SoSuave. And it did help me considerably; I've changed my entire life around over the course of the past year and a half or so. But that's not what I want to talk about with you right now. Although I was becoming smarter, bigger, stronger, faster, wiser, ballsier, and better-respected, the changes in my romantic life were somewhat minimal. At first I ignored this because I wanted to keep my mind on improving myself (And I was right to do so). But it took me a very long time indeed to realize what I was doing wrong.
You see, the thing that really sticks out in the Bible to me is that to get women, it is key that we feign disinterest in our targets like we're playing a game of chess, where each move must be carefully and intricately thought out. But the problem with this is that many guys, including myself at one time, get so caught up in this that they aren't taking action any more than they did in the first place. In other words, we blow it for ourselves.
I like poker. I'm a good poker player. And for a while there, I thought high school was just like poker. I'd always be watching signs people gave me so I could get "reads" on what people thought of me. Somehow, I hoped to attain some kind of social power that way.
This is called Indirect Game. Also known as Tricking People Into Thinking You're a Player When You're Not Game.
But c'mon, fellas. This is HIGH SCHOOL! We should be looking to have FUN! Want to make some new friends? Say "Let's hang out this weekend." Want to get with that hottie you've had your eye on? Talk to her, man, get her number! This ain't rocket science; in the words of another man, some of the people on this forum treat getting women like it requires an academic degree.
I say stop worrying about what is going on in other people's minds. I say worry about what you want first. Realize that there's really no worthy competition, anyway. You need to get your ass out there and make some memories, because before you know it, your time in High School will be up.
The ideas here are based on what is called direct game. The philosophy behind my personal direct gamethis is that the three most important traits for success are DIRECTNESS, PERSISTENCE, and CONFIDENCE.
DIRECTNESS
Do not try to hide or mask your intentions. You are much better off EXPRESSING them. Why? Because there is nothing to be embarassed about for wanting to have FUN and get SEX! This is a COMMON GOAL for many people in high school, both girls and guys (of course, the latter is not always so simple with girls, but the former IS true). So presenting yourself as a fun-loving guy will take you places.
PERSISTENCE
ATTENTION FORUM TROLLS: IT IS NOT HARD TO GET LAID IN HIGH SCHOOL. IT JUST TAKES A BIT OF PERSISTENCE. Don't be afraid to be persistent. There's a difference between neediness and persistence. If you project a CONFIDENT, FUN-LOVING attitude, you are not going to come off as needy. In fact, you'll get ten times the results doing that than what you would just sitting there, trying to look cool. This applies both to making friends and picking up girls.
CONFIDENCE
We've all heard PLENTY on this. Keep in mind that this doesn't mean you have to be an a/sshole, and it certainly doesn't mean to be an arrogant prick. But a healthy self-esteem and a well-developed pair of balls can take you places. As I said before, CONFIDENCE is the difference between NEEDINESS and PERSISTENCE. Have faith in yourself and your abilities.
And now, a little Q and A.
Q:But, Wonder, aren't good looks important, too?
A:Good looks are fine, but the guy who is direct, persistent, and confident can overcome the guy who looks like Brad Pitt but does not have these traits.
Q:But, Bread, what about all those GIMMICKS and TECHNIQUES I have learned over the past FOUR YEARS?
A:Throw them all out the window. The creative mind can make things far cleverer in an instant if you get in the habit of TAKING ACTION.
Q:But, Wonderbread, what about kino and C+F?
A:With confidence, these things will come naturally.
Q:Why is your name Wonderbread?
A:I don't know. Ask my parents.
Just kidding.
For a much more technical thesis on direct game by someone both more experienced and more eloquent than myself, I suggest you do a search on Woodhaven's post on direct game.
The most direct path is often both the easiest and the most efficient in all walks of life. I'd wish you the best of luck, but we all know there's no such thing as luck.
You see, the thing that really sticks out in the Bible to me is that to get women, it is key that we feign disinterest in our targets like we're playing a game of chess, where each move must be carefully and intricately thought out. But the problem with this is that many guys, including myself at one time, get so caught up in this that they aren't taking action any more than they did in the first place. In other words, we blow it for ourselves.
I like poker. I'm a good poker player. And for a while there, I thought high school was just like poker. I'd always be watching signs people gave me so I could get "reads" on what people thought of me. Somehow, I hoped to attain some kind of social power that way.
This is called Indirect Game. Also known as Tricking People Into Thinking You're a Player When You're Not Game.
But c'mon, fellas. This is HIGH SCHOOL! We should be looking to have FUN! Want to make some new friends? Say "Let's hang out this weekend." Want to get with that hottie you've had your eye on? Talk to her, man, get her number! This ain't rocket science; in the words of another man, some of the people on this forum treat getting women like it requires an academic degree.
I say stop worrying about what is going on in other people's minds. I say worry about what you want first. Realize that there's really no worthy competition, anyway. You need to get your ass out there and make some memories, because before you know it, your time in High School will be up.
The ideas here are based on what is called direct game. The philosophy behind my personal direct gamethis is that the three most important traits for success are DIRECTNESS, PERSISTENCE, and CONFIDENCE.
DIRECTNESS
Do not try to hide or mask your intentions. You are much better off EXPRESSING them. Why? Because there is nothing to be embarassed about for wanting to have FUN and get SEX! This is a COMMON GOAL for many people in high school, both girls and guys (of course, the latter is not always so simple with girls, but the former IS true). So presenting yourself as a fun-loving guy will take you places.
PERSISTENCE
ATTENTION FORUM TROLLS: IT IS NOT HARD TO GET LAID IN HIGH SCHOOL. IT JUST TAKES A BIT OF PERSISTENCE. Don't be afraid to be persistent. There's a difference between neediness and persistence. If you project a CONFIDENT, FUN-LOVING attitude, you are not going to come off as needy. In fact, you'll get ten times the results doing that than what you would just sitting there, trying to look cool. This applies both to making friends and picking up girls.
CONFIDENCE
We've all heard PLENTY on this. Keep in mind that this doesn't mean you have to be an a/sshole, and it certainly doesn't mean to be an arrogant prick. But a healthy self-esteem and a well-developed pair of balls can take you places. As I said before, CONFIDENCE is the difference between NEEDINESS and PERSISTENCE. Have faith in yourself and your abilities.
And now, a little Q and A.
Q:But, Wonder, aren't good looks important, too?
A:Good looks are fine, but the guy who is direct, persistent, and confident can overcome the guy who looks like Brad Pitt but does not have these traits.
Q:But, Bread, what about all those GIMMICKS and TECHNIQUES I have learned over the past FOUR YEARS?
A:Throw them all out the window. The creative mind can make things far cleverer in an instant if you get in the habit of TAKING ACTION.
Q:But, Wonderbread, what about kino and C+F?
A:With confidence, these things will come naturally.
Q:Why is your name Wonderbread?
A:I don't know. Ask my parents.
Just kidding.
For a much more technical thesis on direct game by someone both more experienced and more eloquent than myself, I suggest you do a search on Woodhaven's post on direct game.
The most direct path is often both the easiest and the most efficient in all walks of life. I'd wish you the best of luck, but we all know there's no such thing as luck.
