Difficult - How Did I Handle It?

[Muphaser]

Right, I get this msn off a girl off myspace, I didnt know anything about her, so msn was the way to get to know her better: this is the convo (nothing has ben edited but the "me" and "her" tags):

Me: aaay whats up?
Her: nm
Me: having a good easteR?
Her: yh
Me: do you watch mtv base???
Her: no
Me: then youre missing out, TI's new music videos just been aired.... so what music do you listen to?
Her: i like eminem
Her: Ciara
Her: R+B
Her: all kinds
Her: i am not labelled into likeing 1 kind of music, i like all kinds as i am very broad minded and i dont like to be stereotyped
Me: yea, i know what you mean... my friends get labled emo from what they wear, theyre into some hardcore ****
Me: you heard that new christina milian song?
Her: lol, u call it hardcore **** which means u label them too
Her: no i aint
Her: yh, well y call it hardcore **** ?
Me: **** no as in pooey
Me: as in "stuff" and its harcore cos its pretty thrash metalish stuff they into
Her: ok, ur sterotypical
Me: am I?
Me: your judgement is very loosely based
Her: it isnt
Me: isnt it? so you know me?
Her: yes
Her: i know everything sbout u from what ve heard
Her: u dont like their kind of music but u listen to it anyway bcus u want to be accepted by them
Me: i never said i never liked it
Me: I never said i labeld them
Me: I got them listening to immortal technique, they got me into from first to last
Me: I dont understand how thats labeled stereotypical
Her: U r stereotypical
Her: and u stereotype people
Me: do you know what the purpose of stereotyping is? And why it is positive?
Me: Its a way of judging the actions of one based on previous knowledge of encounters with similar people. And because you can never ever met every single person, it allows you to use past knowledge to know how to act around that person
Her: no
Her: sterotyping is negative, it makes people judge u and treat u as a member of a group which u may not even belong to
Me: and there not two ways abou that?
Me: stereotyping is completely negative?
Her: yes
Me: and are you stereotypical
Her: no
Her: not at all
Me: and is it stereotypical of me to say that you will say you are not?
Her: i disagree with the whole system
Me: and if i was stereotypical, I would think that ou were attention seeking?
Me: needing a new direction?
Her: no
Her: i am not attention seeking
Me: but id beleeve that if i was stereotypical, no?
Her: no
Me: what would i think?
Her: dunno
Her: be origional
Me: I dont know how youd knnow that about myself
Me: but if you think it, it must be right
Her: not neccesarily
Me: so enlighten me, why not neccesarily?
Her: bcus if you have any origional bone in ur body then u will have ur own thoughts
Me: the way my body is structured is the only similarity to every1 else
Me: so, you are speaking stereotypically yourself
Me: because, you are saying that stereotypical people are all bad
Her: no
Her: i am saying ta
Her: that
Her: u r stereotypical and u r negative on ur ind of people
Me: cant saying I have a kind of ppl be classed as stereotypical? and, how am i negative to my kind of ppl
Her: u ust r
Her: dont talk to me

I reckon, I got blocked

If you read it... ( I know its pretty fuucking long and boring) How you think i handled it???

Looking back I feel i shouldve said, "Get your head out of your fuucking ass"

And has any1 else came into this kind of situation and how did you handle it?

Positive and Negative points welcomed completely

Thanks for any input, ~Mu

 

[supajsilver2]

I gotta say, from that convo, she doesn't sound like the brightest crayon in the box, if you know what I'm getting at.

 

[Muphaser]

I dont know what any1 else thinks but looking at it, it looks like I was doomed from the start??

 

[six-foot AZN '05]

Yes and no. From what I understand by reading that convo, she gave you a test and you played into her "stereotype" reality. The whole time you guys talked about something "negative" and it just dominoed from there. By the end she was on top of Mt. Everest and you were falling off the face of the earth. You defended yourself pretty well, because at the end her excuses were LAME.

I would have dropped the convo with something like "It was nice talking to you, but I got to go do something other than chat with an insecure girl who only loves to argue, Peace." If she like me a bit she'll start defending herself and you got the upper hand, the staff of power. You could say that she doesn't like your friends before even meeting them or that she's very inconsiderate and probably a horrible girlfriend. If you like her then you could forgive her and move on to something more interesting.

Thats my 2 cents worth, Peace.

 

[Muphaser]

If you like her then you could forgive her and move on to something more interesting.

Ive already nexted her, but I knew there was something to be learnt, and its getting drawn out

cheers them two cents going in my piggy bank bro

 

[Alfie Crew]

For next time a heads up

msn off a girl off myspace

This is not a good combo. Neither is really great.

 

[dannowillbookem]

well that was long winded a pointless.

when she called me stereotypical i wouldve said "yes, i'm pale, hate sports, cut my wrists, listen to saosin (or whatever emo bands are out there) and use four pounds of eye makeup every day. you caught me."

she would either laugh or say 'i know' at which point you would tell her to get a fucckin life with a smile



anyways pretty pointless thread

 

[Muphaser]

anyways pretty pointless thread

word, i realise that now

 

[Subjective]

Um. Classifying is NOT stereotyping....anyway, wow, what a dumb *****. And she's stereotypical if she's saying that anyone who uses stereotypes are bad.

 

[DJ4Real]

"Me: Its a way of judging the actions of one based on previous knowledge of encounters with similar people. And because you can never ever met every single person, it allows you to use past knowledge to know how to act around that person
Her: no
Her: sterotyping is negative, it makes people judge u and treat u as a member of a group which u may not even belong to"

She was definetly testing you, and it started with that piece right there.

The next time a girl starts trying to argue with you for no reason at all, do something similar to what AZN said. You have to develop your own style of closing off conversations though.

When she started getting over aggressive about how bad "stereotypical people are" I would have said something like, "People who like to argue about being about little pointless things like this aren't allowed to talk to me, I've got more important things to do, adios."