Difference between 'nice' and charming?

[Comatozed]

Anyone post some examples?

I read a lot of stuff like don't compliment too much and stuff but I'm starting to think I might be missing a trick.

Flattery and compliments can get people to like you, and what harm can it be to tell a girl she looks pretty, just so long as you don't go over the top.

There's a reason the people tell chicks what they want to hear do so well, ie womanizers.

So how to do it?

 

[astrn]

Man! One advice! Don't lost yourself in details. This is just one needle in a whole hayloft...

Act as you like. Believe me you'll start attract dozen of women as you behave like yourself...

Not every woman is the same! Some of them like compliments, some of them like macho men, some of them just want to get laid... Don't just change your behaviour for just ONE particular woman. Say what you want to say. If she doesn't get that well its her problem. Next her and try with other one...

In time you'll understand what kind of woman you'll like and "magnetize"...

From my point of view it's the part of the game as you improve yourself. Also you'll learn what you can draw to you or drawn as a "magnet".... I learnt what can I draw to myself with trial and error. Yes I made alot of mistakes and learnt from them...

"Love is the harmony, desire is the key, love is the melody, now sing it with me..."
Lyrics from one of my favourite song...

Play the game, there will be only one winner... If you sing in the right tone you got it. If not then NEXT!

Just be a man...

 

[MOTU]

OP, you might enjoy reading Robert Greene's "The Art of Seduction". This topic is covered pretty well.

 

[Stugots26]

Model yourself after James Bond. Think about his view of the world.

James Bond is charming. His charm is knowingly flirtatious. Meaning that he knows women are sexual beings and he knows how the night will end (with her in his bed) regardless of whatever feigned disinterest or difficulty a woman is projecting earlier in the evening. He's outcome independent because he might die tomorrow AND because he knows how the night always ends for him (with her in his bed). So he's not thirsty, he's playful, he doesn't believe a woman's words and even mocks them with a smile.

Because in the grand scheme of things, when his life, the UK, and the world hang in the balance, whether he gets into one woman's panties doesn't really matter. He can't worry about it, and given that he always does get into a woman's panties, he's simply not going to.

 

[apprenticedj]

Not to toot my own horn here but I get called charming often and it's, personally, my favorite compliment to receive, even better than physical compliments.

To be nice is simply to be pleasant and agreeable.

To be charming is to make people (men and women) like you, to draw them in and put them at ease, to make them want to be around you so they can be charmed further.

When it comes to compliments I've learned that it's all about whose giving them. If a woman is attracted to you she WANTS to hear compliments from you. If she's not she doesn't want to hear ANYTHING from you, take your compliments and hit the bricks pal!

Delivery is also key. I don't give many compliments early in a conversation, I reserve them for a little later. Once rapport has been established and attraction is confirmed (it's easy to tell) I'll start putting out some compliments, physical and personality compliments. After some escalation and physical touch the compliments become increasingly sexual.

Of course, it all depends on the vibe you're detecting. Each interaction must be looked at independent from any others.

 

[El Payaso]

To be charming means to make people like you. To make people do things. Just like the word snake charmer.

A typical nice guy does things out of insecurity while a charming guy does things out of self confidence.

Guess which one women are naturally drawn to?

 

[Eternal_water]

To be charming means to make people like you. To make people do thongs. Just like the word snake charmer.

A typical nice guy does things out of insecurity while a charming guy does things out of self confidence.

Guess which one women are naturally drawn to?

:rockon:

 

[El Payaso]

:rockon:

Bloody autocorrect. Lol.

 

[Stugots26]

:rockon: at the fact that your phone is autocorrecting TO "thongs"

 

[Comatozed]

Not to toot my own horn here but I get called charming often and it's, personally, my favorite compliment to receive, even better than physical compliments.

To be nice is simply to be pleasant and agreeable.

To be charming is to make people (men and women) like you, to draw them in and put them at ease, to make them want to be around you so they can be charmed further.

When it comes to compliments I've learned that it's all about whose giving them. If a woman is attracted to you she WANTS to hear compliments from you. If she's not she doesn't want to hear ANYTHING from you, take your compliments and hit the bricks pal!

Delivery is also key. I don't give many compliments early in a conversation, I reserve them for a little later. Once rapport has been established and attraction is confirmed (it's easy to tell) I'll start putting out some compliments, physical and personality compliments. After some escalation and physical touch the compliments become increasingly sexual.

Of course, it all depends on the vibe you're detecting. Each interaction must be looked at independent from any others.

Great answer.

I think also you have to do it in a confident 'i know you're liking this manner', i flaked on a plate recently so the next time i was being a bit ****y but complimenting her and she could sense I was doing it to get back in her good books but loved it anyway.

It seems from this htread i've learnt it all depends on the frame you set. Set the aloof idgaf early on, get them hooked when they see your not an agreeable pansy, then lay it on thick.