Did I do the right thing

[Snowmanonfire]

I dated a woman for 14 months she's 35 to my 45 she was a cute gal with a lot of personality and sex appeal I loved her. She though was a pathetic follower of New Kids on The block spent thousands of dollars and had no money saved. Leaving it to me to book hotels dates etc. I bought her big gifts she bought me cards. When I started to notice her on YouTube and twitter just proclaiming her love for one of these guys over and over which included ink of him on two places on her body. I said to myself she's obsessed she talked about them she had a screen saver on her phone of one of them and her. She's got posters and pics of him and her but never of me and her.

So I called it I told her shes an overgrown teenager that would be doomed to date boys and frankly it's like cheating if you post tweets to him saying how you want to be in his arms etc day in day out. She told me it was fantasy but it disgusted me and my love with her felt betrayed. I asked her to stop and she wouldn't. So tweeting lustful stuff to a guy was more important than me.

Did I over react or was I justified?

I still love her but that kind of BS is just trouble.

I feel miserable but I just couldn't put up with it.

 

[Purefilth]

I dated a woman for 14 months she's 35 to my 45 she was a cute gal with a lot of personality and sex appeal I loved her. She though was a pathetic follower of New Kids on The block spent thousands of dollars and had no money saved. Leaving it to me to book hotels dates etc. I bought her big gifts she bought me cards. When I started to notice her on YouTube and twitter just proclaiming her love for one of these guys over and over which included ink of him on two places on her body. I said to myself she's obsessed she talked about them she had a screen saver on her phone of one of them and her. She's got posters and pics of him and her but never of me and her.

So I called it I told her shes an overgrown teenager that would be doomed to date boys and frankly it's like cheating if you post tweets to him saying how you want to be in his arms etc day in day out. She told me it was fantasy but it disgusted me and my love with her felt betrayed. I asked her to stop and she wouldn't. So tweeting lustful stuff to a guy was more important than me.

Did I over react or was I justified?

I still love her but that kind of BS is just trouble.

I feel miserable but I just couldn't put up with it.

never be putting in more than you get out. You are her AFC supporter. Hold back your affection/gifts/hotels - she isnt worth any of them.

When she starts to behave in a manner that you see fit/ are happy with, then reward her with a present/svx/cuddle.

train her like a puppy....... however - 35 may be too old already.... you cant teach an old dog new tricks.

 

[Fatal Jay]

35 year old woman that like new kids on the block wow?

didn't those guys fall off the radar in the 80s?

 

[Buddha_Mind]

35 year old woman that like new kids on the block wow?

didn't those guys fall off the radar in the 80s?

Yeah they did--and she's been carrying them ever since!

Yeah that's some crazy stuff man, never heard of that before! I don't blame you honestly...sounds almost like some mental illness there...

This woman was dumped for her obsession with puppets..I guess New Kids On The Block isn't as bad but it could be worse!

I wouldn't want to deal with that stuff either man!

 

[3countriesPlan]

Shes got some sort of mental inbalance that could be harmful if it transferred to something else. Right now she is just fixated on new kids on the block 20+ years after they became lame. There might be some memory or experience she is tieing new kids on the block to which is another problem in itself. Maybe she got banged by some guy who looked like one of them in 1996 who knows but the point is its disrespectful to you and no girl would want a guy who went on twitter tweeting "oh that hot girl from fast times at ridgemont high I want you so bad. wish you were here in my arms not just on my screensaver even though its 2012 and you are 50... you are so hot omg omg omg"

 

[backbreaker]

New Kids on The block

:kick:


that's a dealbreaker lol. the **** lol? really? new kids on the block? **** they weren't even all that good when they were actually new kids on the block

I mean that's like a girl telling me she is a huge Vanilla ice fan. I mean you can only listen to ice ice baby and stop that train so many times.

 

[Slickster]

NKOTB!!! :rockon: :rockon: :rockon: :rockon: :rockon: :rockon:

Sounds like you dodged a bullet man.

Better luck with the next one.




P.S. which guy was it?

 

[Harvey_Poon]

Some women will become obsessed with movie stars, tv stars, athletes, and musicians. Some will call them their "husband" and fantasize about them. Usually younger girls will do this. But she has taken this to another level.

She could of picked a better band to be obsessed with.

Her obsession was more than what she was doing for you in the relationship.

You were booking the trips, hotels, buying her big gifts, spending money. She bought you cards. What does that tell you? Her obsession and buying stuff for herself was more important.

Sounds like has OCD (Obsessive Complusive Disorder) because she keeps buying all their stuff like you said. Some people buy one thing, then they have to have another, and another, until they are spending thousands of dollars feeding their compulsion. They want to collect all their stuff and feel like they are missing out if they don't have an item whether they need it or not. Mostly they don't need it but they feel that they do. So they buy it along with more stuff. Sounds crazy but it's true.

You were giving more than she was to you.

She wasn't cheating on you but only carrying out her fantasy about being with that guy.

Not a good relationship to be in.

May your days be filled with much greatness and plenty of poon

Dr. Harvey Poon