909pua said:
i did a 30 min round at the mall and hit up about 10 girls and 1 girl at wal mart, i didn't get any numbers BUT my confidence now went up as a result in approaching women. Now its easier for me to approach them. My line is "hey you look good, give me your number so i can get to know you more" all of them said "nope". I had one of them that kinda showed interests saying she was married but then at the end before I left asked me what my name was.
:shakes head:
So many things you're doing wrong with this kind of approach.
Rule #1: Never make it look, feel, or seem like you're hitting on them.
Rule #2: If they're not comfortable talking to you BEFORE you approach, you're fighting and uphill battle.
The exception to Rule #1 is the direct approach, which is fine for Daygame IMO since people are short on time and have things to do. Otherwise going in with a compliment, observational, or functional opener is fine. When you do this, only after qualifying her in a positive light do you use an opinion opener. From there you spin it into a generic conversation all the while displaying attractive qualities. If either of you are on your way somewhere then you close by saying something like:
"You know what, you seem like an interesting person. We should keep in touch. What's a good way of staying in contact?"
Take her contact details, whatever they might be, fluff talk for a moment or two and then part ways. There are other ways and types of closing, but that's a simple way to get you started.
Now all that being said, the most powerful daygame progression is to take her on an instant-date. Just tell her you could use a coffee, ice cream, or whatever and motion the 'lets go" and see if she's up for it. (you're leading now!) Talk for a while and see where things go. If you don't pull then get her contact details described above.
Do not do what you're doing right now, which essentially amounts to "Hey baby, want some d*ck?"
Now for the direct approach. What you're doing is not direct, well it is, but it's not a full pickup. You're jumping straight to the close and you'll almost never get a woman to offer up solid (as in she won't flake) contact details in this manner. When you go direct, the best form IMO is the sincere direct:
(1) Excuse me, I know this is completely random, but... (2) you are absolutely stunning... (3) I had to come over and meet you or I'd be kicking myself all afternoon (4) I'm ____. (shake hands)
1. This makes you non-confrontational and seem genuine, pleasant, and creates preliminary comfort.
2. Change tonality and speak slowly, not lecherous, but with a hint of sexiness.
3. Switch back to sincere tonality, almost like you're impressed by her.
4. Change tonality again like you just met someone at work during a meeting. Basically be really plain and neutral and then shake her hand and exchange names.
Personally I mainly stick with the sincere direct since it's simple, to the point, and when I'm out I'm usually trying to get stuff done so I can get home. I don't want to take my time and fluff with each chick I find attractive. I'd never get anything done if I did!
