Diarrhea of the Mouth

[Hemingway]

I don't have a problem with conversation... I'm a good conversationalist. I have the opposite problem:

I seem to hook up with women who like to talk. And talk. And talk.

Now, I know ALL WOMEN LIKE TO TALK to excess. Yes, a few men, too, but mostly women relate by talking and men relate by doing. So I encourage her to talk to her friends. Spend time with her friends. Get her friends on the same calling plan. On speed dial. Just don't talk to me about all your ****!

For example, phone call from my guy friend:

Guy: Hey, how's it going?
Me: W'sup?
Guy: Wanna play ball?
Me: Yeah, ok. Around eight?
Guy: Yeah. See you then.
Me: K.

Phone call from my gf:

Gal: Hi sweetie oh I gotta tell you what just happened hope you have a minute cause this is really great.
Me: Ok
Gal: Well, you know that thing I was telling you about that my friend Gail did on Thursday? Or was it Wednesday? And you know how blah blah blah blah blah blah blah blah ...
Me: Kill me now.


What do you guys do about this?

I'm about to tell my gf that we need to limit the phone calls to twice per day and 10 minutes each.

 

[Desdinova]

If you avoid getting into a LTR with a woman who is boring, then you should be fine.

The interesting women are the ones you should be considering LTRs with.

 

[al77]

Originally posted by Desdinova
If you avoid getting into a LTR with a woman who is boring, then you should be fine.
The interesting women are the ones you should be considering LTRs with.

Very true.

Still if you consder LTR and like her, then
a) dont pick up the phone.. that often.
b) after 10-15 min say somehting like "I am sorry I have to got to the meeting now\take a bite\a pee etc"
c) Call her sometimes... she will be surprised and wont be nagging you about you being busy and not talking to her.

 

[Hemingway]

Good advice '77. I actually avoid calling her, when perhaps calling more often would be helpful.

And she is not boring. She is one of that breed of women who are scintillating! and excited! and have so much to say! I seem to gravitate to this type of girl. Everybody loves her; she is an extrovert; and she loves to talk. Know what I mean?

I just hate to tell her to cool it, to censor herself. She'll hate me for it. So, because I keep finding myself in this situation, I'll indeed try to (a) not pick up the phone every time, (b) say "I have to pee" after 10 minutes, and (c) call her more often, not less often.

 

[al77]

Originally posted by Hemingway
I'll indeed try to (a) not pick up the phone every time, (b) say "I have to pee" after 10 minutes, and (c) call her more often, not less often.

And probably
d) if she calls that often that you consider picking up the phone less often, then.... pick it up and in that 10 min tell her you are going to see her...at her place\your place, i.e to have sex.
So she calls - you say "I gotta go but I am going to see you at XXXX"... go meet her "Hey you called me! Great!" and enjoy the time...
What I can say? A very good gf!
If you look at this problem at some right angels.. it is more of an advantage.

 

[Mister Big]

Originally posted by Hemingway
Everybody loves her; she is an extrovert; and she loves to talk. Know what I mean?

I just hate to tell her to cool it, to censor herself. She'll hate me for it. So, because I keep finding myself in this situation, I'll indeed try to (a) not pick up the phone every time, (b) say "I have to pee" after 10 minutes, and (c) call her more often, not less often.

I know the type well, and I am a big talker myself. With a woman who likes to talk ad naseum, this can be a very bad combination if you don't curb her tendency by establising boundaries and limiting the phone/conversation length. I believe the more you talk at length with women you don't really know or trust yet, the more tendency you might have to argue and conflict with them. In the beginning of a relationship, it takes time to get comfortable with each other. You need to be firm with her on your dislike of talking too much especially on the phone. I don't want to spend a lot of time on the phone with a woman that I want to see. The less she knows about you the more she'll think about you. Less is more in this case.

Face to face is better if you want to really interact and provides opportunities to do physical activities or things that don't require an opinion. With some chatty women, I never answer the phone. When I return their call, I set a timer on my blackberry to 10-15 minutes and stick to it. This sounds lame but it does work. Plus your cell phone bills will thank you. Let them know that you are busy, in charge, and can't stay on too long. Women love a busy and take charge man.

Many "cerebral" chicks need to be told when to quiet down. Don't be mean about it, and give her some options. Some women like when you get aggressive with them physically to quiet them down. Sometimes I put me finger to my lips, hush a "shhhhh" and then kiss them hard. This works like a charm. She might be border-line ADD (many brilliant people are) and need a little help from you to focus on one thing at a time (sex is always a good option). That's why she might go off on tangents and talk a lot.

When you are in the mood to rap, go with it. If you are not, tell her so and give her another option like coming over to her or your place and "spending time" with her. We all know what that means.