Diagnose this: girls attitude.

[itishe]

Lately my LDR girl has been acting odd, reminds me almost of how my sister treats her 3 year boyfriend.

Let me explain:

- Gives some smart ass response to alot of my statements, etc. To which I usually start teasing her and then she usually stops and loosens up. Any reason why she's being a tight ass?

- At the end of internet conversations she'll usually say, "call me or whatever" almost as if she's wanting me to call but trying to act indifferent at the same time. Think she's trying to appear to not be needy?

My sister does this with her boyfriend quite a bit on the phone I've noticed too. She'll always seem to be uptight and always gives some stale smart ass remark back to everything he says... but then again they've lasted 3 years.

 

[KillaCam]

"Call me or whatever" is usually an indication that she couldn't give a rats ass. A definate sign of frustration.

I hate to put down a drastic realism, but a good chunk of LDR's fizzle out because of frustration. Infact, a good chunk of LDR's fizzle out, period.

 

[itishe]

Frustrated at what? That there's no physical contact or I'm ****ing up somehow?

 

[DJ4Life]

i think she wants to be in control of the relationship, how have u been treating her?

or she might have met someone else :nono:

 

[blinkwatt]

Haha,I got a "call me or whatever" at the end of a voicemail once. I was in the process of stealing her from her boyfriend. She was sooo frustrated with me because I was the first guy to not give into her games. She also didn't like the fact that I ignored her more then half of the time.

 

[KillaCam]

Frustrated at what? That there's no physical contact or I'm ****ing up somehow?

Probably a lot of things. No physical contact, and generally not being able to do anything that people in a relationship do. If you're miles apart, then that's taking out pretty much every base needed for a solid relationship. No matter how hard you try, sometimes LDR's just won't work. I hate to say that, I really do.

Unfortunately, you can't expect a relationship to run smoothly when all you have is her voice through a phone line.

 

[( . )( . )]

I think Stephen Hawking said it best in his 96 speech at Oxford: "If your not fvcking her someone else is" ..... GENIUS!!

And I have it on good authority the mods are going to start on the spot bannings to anyone who uses the word "RELATIONSHIP" after the words LONG DISTANCE so just be careful, its the new "oxymoron" rule apparently... you didnt here that from me either.

My sister does this with her boyfriend quite a bit on the phone I've noticed too. She'll always seem to be uptight and always gives some stale smart ass remark back to everything he says... but then again they've lasted 3 years.

Sounds like time well spent.

 

[The Truth]

I hate to put down a drastic realism, but a good chunk of LDR's fizzle out because of frustration. Infact, a good chunk of LDR's fizzle out, period.

I have no statistics to back it up, but this is true. All my friends who have been involved in LDRs have ended up getting with someone else or losing their bf/gf to someone else. Unless you are seeing each other regularly, the prospects are not good!

If your relationship involves talking and no physical contact, then what you have there is a friendship.

 

[KillaCam]

If your relationship involves talking and no physical contact, then what you have there is a friendship.

Absolutely on the button.

 

[itishe]

****'s really hitting the fan now. She's always got a smart asstic attitude on, conversations are no longer fun (we hardly even laugh anymore; could be my fault, but I don't know), etc.

 

[DasaniWater]

Long Distant relations are teh lawl.

 

[KillaCam]

****'s really hitting the fan now. She's always got a smart asstic attitude on, conversations are no longer fun (we hardly even laugh anymore; could be my fault, but I don't know), etc.

Then get out of it.

 

[itishe]

http://www.askmen.com/dating/doclove/23_doc_love.html

I was reading that and I came to the conclusion, maybe my gut is telling me something. Would it be wise to ask her what she thinks about this relationship and LDR stuff in whole or would it be better to think about it for a day and make my decisision.

I really like this girl, but I havn't been closing off my other options, I want to keep it going with her. But why should I stick around with a girl who I think is losing interest. My head isn't clear so I'm not sure if asking her if we should keep it going is a smart idea.

*****

Why I think she's losing interest:

-She used to call atleast once if not twice a day. Now it's once a day or every other day (which is nice because you run out of things to talk about).
-She's usually distracted on the phone (then again she's usually out shopping/hanging out with her roomates when I talk to her)
-We still tease one another, but I notice she doesn't take it as humorously as before.
-She used to leave comments on Myspace like no tomorrow, she still does but not as often.

I tried my best to not look needy/super-interested in the beginning and I think she caught on that she was coming at me pretty strong. Maybe she pulled back to not look like a clinger, I don't know. I should of ****ed her before she went to college, I think that was my biggest mistake.

 

[cheesey]

whoa itishe, im in the same exact situation you are, and that last statement you made, "i should of effed her before she went to college was my exact sentiment when my girl's been acting distant. (we tried but she was too tight, shes a v)

i've come to the realization that ldr's do not work. me and her broke up the other night but then within 15 minutes we get back together, and our relationship seems on fragile ice.

the red flags i've been getting...
- i tell her that i want to visit her in the east (im west), she gets evasive about me coming. then later on i confront her about it and she puts some bs excuses, saying she wouldnt have time for me. lol that reply should have sealed the deal for me to cut it off there
- today she ignored my text and later on she lies about it saying she didnt receive it. she pulled off that lie really well like it was nothing.
- and theres really nothing to talk about anymore. our conversations have shortened dramatically. its like when ure far from each other theres nothing you can relate to anymore.
- she gets distracted on the phone too.

we webcammed today, she cried, for no reason, then she refuses to tell me whats up with her, she just says mental breakdown.

in the end Long Distance does not work, although i was the one that first verbally doubted the relationship with her. even though i still said i was committed, i brought up the where is this ldr going?

my solution to this problem?
- i'm just going to say to myself that im single, and i don't have to be too latchy on this girl, there are plenty o' fish out in the ocean, but i'll try to keep this relationship together, just not care about it too much. ill give her a call here and there to keep it steady, but as i chill on the west, im a single man; i just dont care about it anymore. back of my mind that wanted her was because her family is ridiculous rich. multi millionaires, she has a personal chauffer, dad drives bentley, flies first class, exotic trips, the whole shabam (dad owns a cosmetic company that is sold at walgreens/cvs/etc) theres no need to get hung up on this girl thats losing interest, when there are plenty of other girls that are dying to meet you.
- im just gonna go on a f$ck spree, to keep my sanity. relationships arent for me anyhow, hooking up is much easier emotionally for me at the time being.

my only regret, as you said before, "I Shoulda boned her before she went to college."

 

[trance_addict]

Call me or whatever? Gee, she really seems enthusiastic about it. *sarcasm!*

 

[Bonhomme]

Funny. When we do that some of us call it "DJ behavior."

 

[mrRuckus]

Dump her

 

[wayword]

I think Stephen Hawking said it best in his 96 speech at Oxford: "If your not fvcking her someone else is" ..... GENIUS!!

Wow, he really said that? I knew this cripple had game, cuz he was still able to get laid and married even though he's a fugly weirdo in a wheelchair..

(we tried but she was too tight, shes a v)

Funny, cuz I need some tips on how to solve this same problem too. Anyoneeee??? Please respond here!

 

[Call_Me_Daddy]

I think Stephen Hawking said it best in his 96 speech at Oxford: "If your not fvcking her someone else is" ..... GENIUS!!

HOLY ****!! Where can I get a transcript??!!

:crackup: