Desire to have sex

[sambwoy]

I feel the desire to have sex causes so many problems. I feel miserable inside most days because I feel I can't nor will ever have an intimate experience, and elders chastise me about being negative towards general life, in social interactions etc.

I got bullied in my youth so much to the point that it made me untrustworthy of women, not seeing the little bits of good there might come out of life, if any at all, and unhappy being a man, because the system of what it takes to attract women is so complicated and confusing. It takes so much to get a girl to like you, even if you like her. If you believe there are such things as 'leagues'.

I know life is way bigger than women, but positivity got me nowhere in life, and even trying hard and not getting something is so crushing.

I'm 25. Has anyone else not experienced intimacy?

 

[user43770]

I know how frustrating it can be, man. Most of us do; that's why we're on this website. I know it's cliche, but the truth is that it's a numbers game. Some women are going to like you, you just have to find them. Now, I'll admit that this is one of the hardest things to do: to go out, get rejected continuously and not let it bother you. It has to be done, though. I guess it depends on how bad you want it.

As far as the desire to have sex: I love it and I hate it.

 

[sambwoy]

Look, I'm not aspiring to bedding the most attractive women like some guys appear to, because that's not reality, but how bad is it when you can't even find a girl who is probably every bit as awkward and isolated as you are. But a lot of girls my age seem to want to bed pretty boys, even in a place where statistically most men do not meet this criteria, more important than so-called important things like education or money- our elders used to tell us these were important, but I guess they were of value in an olde-worlde society that wasn't rife with crappy pop culture. I just feel angry most days, because what we are told should matter kinda doesn't. And thats why to me work and business feels meaningless. So what was the point of school? What is the point of 'selling yourself' in a CV?

 

[user43770]

This isn't a problem that you can analyze and find a solution to. You don't like it? Guess what, neither do I. You can either get out there and give it your best or sit around and sulk about it. It's up to you. And by the way, getting laid isn't going to solve all of your problems. Most likely you will find something else to feel unhappy about. You need to stop over-thinking it -- that sh1t will eat away at you.

 

[Groovy]

What's your question about Health and Fitness?

 

[Who Dares Win]

Well you probably posted in this section because subconsciously knew the solution, the solution is being good looking.

You can have the tightest game this world but if your belly is big and your arms are thin you aint getting any pvssy.
So hit the gym first and come back in six months when you will be renewd, most of the girls are as superficial as us so what a good character cannot and nice couple of big biceps will.

The good news is that the solution exist, its not rocket science, you can gind evidence yourself that average looking guys get girls proportionally to the increase in size of their muscles.

When you will be satisfied enough from having sex regularly, come back here and we will tell you the next step, even if its not gonna be as easy as this one.

And plese stop b1tching, keep the b1tching for when you will try to bench 200lbs and your body wont cooperate readily.

 

[sambwoy]

Well you probably posted in this section because subconsciously knew the solution, the solution is being good looking.

Well, I figured it would do for the health section because of my outlook on life, and I am getting psychiatric help. It just made me angry, aggressive, self-harming.

I'm just sad how I can't hold my head up and seeking approval from women.

 

[sambwoy]

Well you probably posted in this section because subconsciously knew the solution, the solution is being good looking.

You can have the tightest game this world but if your belly is big and your arms are thin you aint getting any pvssy.
So hit the gym first and come back in six months when you will be renewd, most of the girls are as superficial as us

You know, geographically 'pvssy' guys talk about I think is applicable only in certain areas.
Being realistic here where I live actually there is a low number of 'hot' women (I'm guessing thats what many guys are getting at when they say 'women'), and in my experience even the 'not hot' ones have the audacity to evaluate guys based on looks. I used to see that a lot at 18-20. That's partly why I grew bitter. There doesn't seem to be even a young down-to-earth couple that got together for reasons not including image or status. How about that for a change?

 

[Groovy]

So u do u eat well? Do u sleep good? What exercise do u do?

 

[sambwoy]

So u do u eat well? Do u sleep good? What exercise do u do?

Sleep is poor because I get consumed with thoughts. Don't drive, so I get to walk and run a lot. Eating better, but I have pectus excavatum (I feel I'm destined to be rejected), I doubt if I can build over it in the gym, so I have to make up for it in other ways.

 

[NorwegianDJ]

It's only when you start taking responsibility for your own shortcomings that you can grow. Stop blaming things on the environment, the past, and other people. Take responsibility and make an action plan.

 

[Groovy]

Sleep is poor because I get consumed with thoughts. Don't drive, so I get to walk and run a lot. Eating better, but I have pectus excavatum (I feel I'm destined to be rejected), I doubt if I can build over it in the gym, so I have to make up for it in other ways.

When ur sleep is poor u can't get a proper recharge of your body. this will ruin your health. and u get consumed with thoughts! that's also a body disorder, u make too much stress hormones or something. u said u did a lot of exercise, perhaps u need to cut it down. u are weak. u can't walk much or run. u need to preserve these energies, maybe.

do u have a load of stress from work and such? school?

did u get my pm?

PS: u came to the right place to ask these questions... health and fittness!

 

[don't]

man, get a college loan, 6k or so, and go to the Phillippines for a month. Before you go, "line up" a bunch of lovelies online (cherryblossoms.com) You will never again worry about what a bunch of US *****es thinks or does, I promise you that!

 

[sambwoy]

I can identify with the feeling of getting "picked on" by women. A lot of that is projection of your own insecurities and low self esteem but it is true that women can be overwhelmingly cruel.

Put it better than I ever could.

I had a history of that, and it made me angry. I have grown to think negatively in business and in general life. Whether it puts people off, I don't and can't ever know.

Psychiatric help is my lifeline at the moment. Its gotten that bad.

I find life stereotypes just mean-spirited and insulting because most of them aren't true.
Just learning to be somehow happy without the need for womens' approval.