I know what you were thinking when you read the title, and no I'm not on about when you lost your virginity, cheeky monkeys (however that might play a part with a few of you)...
When I say 'first time', I'm referring to that moment when you really felt like you'd taken control, the first stepping stone into turning your life around. It could be your first successful cold approach, or even your first unsuccessful one. It could simply be the moment you escalated with a woman you've known for some time but never had the guts to do so before... What inspired you to act in that moment? Did something happen in your life to directly affect your actions? Or had frustration simply built up to an unbearable level?
We've all read articles and watched these self-proclaimed PUAs describe how to approach etc etc, but I suspect everyone has their own reasons for FINALLY taking action, that moment when you kick yourselves and just go for it. So describe the situation, what happened, what inspired you... I'm hoping that those who have yet to take action will read these posts and perhaps see similarities in their lives and ours, leading them to take action as well. Wishful thinking? Ahh, we'll see...
So anyway, here's mine:
I spent much of my younger years alone. Throughout high school and college I was part of the geeky crowd. I never got bullied or anything, but I was never even close to being popular. I was always shy because of this, and talking to girls remained an impossibility for me. I accepted this- It's just who I am, I told myself.
When I got into University, I came out of my shell a bit more, but women still eluded me. So that's when I took to the internet- I watched terrible videos and read terrible articles. Go on VideoJug if you want an example of this... I searched and searched and started seeing things that I liked- articles by David DeAngelo, Gambler etc. I hated some of it- Mystery is and will remain an idiot in my opinion, despite his success. I found SoSuave as well. I've never posted much on here myself, but instead I chose to thoroughly sift through post after post- I found the DJ Bible, I found Pook, Senor Fingers, and various other characters who have helped me change my life.
This was all lovely... But I still didn't take action. I just sat on the computer and read, thinking "hey this is good stuff, this will help me... in the future." Then something happened... One night my Grandad fell over and had to be hospitalised, just as a precaution. To cut a sensitive subject short, complications arose, more diagnoses were made, and a few weeks later he died. Now I'm not saying I had the old "life is too short" epiphany, but damn is it unpredictable...
So that was my inspiration. For the next several weeks I was in a terrible place, but I knew that I could no longer sit at my computer all day trying to learn how to turn my life around. I needed to do that myself. So when I started feeling myself again, I was out and about with a few friends. We were in a cafe when I saw a woman come in- I had to talk to her. My friends, bless them, tried to talk me out of it... "Dude, you have no chance... This place is crowded, you'll look like an idiot!" I thought they were probably right, but if I didn't do this now, I never will. So I went over to the woman. About a minute or so later, I came back, red faced, no number and laughed at by my friends. They were right, I looked like an idiot. I didn't care though. I finally did something that I was too scared to do before. After that, talking to women wasn't so difficult anymore. Getting rejected wasn't such a big deal either... I'm still learning of course, but I no longer have to spend all day glued to my computer, wondering if life will ever get better.
When I say 'first time', I'm referring to that moment when you really felt like you'd taken control, the first stepping stone into turning your life around. It could be your first successful cold approach, or even your first unsuccessful one. It could simply be the moment you escalated with a woman you've known for some time but never had the guts to do so before... What inspired you to act in that moment? Did something happen in your life to directly affect your actions? Or had frustration simply built up to an unbearable level?
We've all read articles and watched these self-proclaimed PUAs describe how to approach etc etc, but I suspect everyone has their own reasons for FINALLY taking action, that moment when you kick yourselves and just go for it. So describe the situation, what happened, what inspired you... I'm hoping that those who have yet to take action will read these posts and perhaps see similarities in their lives and ours, leading them to take action as well. Wishful thinking? Ahh, we'll see...
So anyway, here's mine:
I spent much of my younger years alone. Throughout high school and college I was part of the geeky crowd. I never got bullied or anything, but I was never even close to being popular. I was always shy because of this, and talking to girls remained an impossibility for me. I accepted this- It's just who I am, I told myself.
When I got into University, I came out of my shell a bit more, but women still eluded me. So that's when I took to the internet- I watched terrible videos and read terrible articles. Go on VideoJug if you want an example of this... I searched and searched and started seeing things that I liked- articles by David DeAngelo, Gambler etc. I hated some of it- Mystery is and will remain an idiot in my opinion, despite his success. I found SoSuave as well. I've never posted much on here myself, but instead I chose to thoroughly sift through post after post- I found the DJ Bible, I found Pook, Senor Fingers, and various other characters who have helped me change my life.
This was all lovely... But I still didn't take action. I just sat on the computer and read, thinking "hey this is good stuff, this will help me... in the future." Then something happened... One night my Grandad fell over and had to be hospitalised, just as a precaution. To cut a sensitive subject short, complications arose, more diagnoses were made, and a few weeks later he died. Now I'm not saying I had the old "life is too short" epiphany, but damn is it unpredictable...
So that was my inspiration. For the next several weeks I was in a terrible place, but I knew that I could no longer sit at my computer all day trying to learn how to turn my life around. I needed to do that myself. So when I started feeling myself again, I was out and about with a few friends. We were in a cafe when I saw a woman come in- I had to talk to her. My friends, bless them, tried to talk me out of it... "Dude, you have no chance... This place is crowded, you'll look like an idiot!" I thought they were probably right, but if I didn't do this now, I never will. So I went over to the woman. About a minute or so later, I came back, red faced, no number and laughed at by my friends. They were right, I looked like an idiot. I didn't care though. I finally did something that I was too scared to do before. After that, talking to women wasn't so difficult anymore. Getting rejected wasn't such a big deal either... I'm still learning of course, but I no longer have to spend all day glued to my computer, wondering if life will ever get better.
