Delayed Puberty

[sanyo7878]

I want to tell you guys my troubles with women and see if you have any advice/tips.

I believe I have deep rooted psychological issues dealing with women. I didn't hit puberty until I was about 15 (no significant amount of underarm hair until junior/senior year of highschool). I'm now almost 21. 5/10, 136 lbs. I have some facial hair, but can't even grow sideburns that look right.

I live in a college town and am starting graduate school right now. All people in the academic world treat me with alot of respect (i'm a pretty good student). I don't regularly use tobacco but i have bought it several times. It absolutely kills me when i go to the counter at a convenience store and ask for tobacco and the clerk starts laughing and says ""how old are you?". The other problem i have is when I go home to visit my parents every now and again. When they introduce me to people, 95% of the time the people ask me what grade i'm in. Its my best guess that people think my age is about 16.

I have had several almost girlfriends, but it never works out. I get severe one-itis and become a major wuss and would do anything for the girl that i'm seeing. they immediately drop me. Also, I never kiss a girl when the moment is right, I always chicken out. When i do eventually get the nerve to kiss them, its too late and I usually end up just giving a quick peck. and then the girl drops me.


I have no confidence and I literally walk around all day feeling sorry for myself for not being able to get a girlfriend.


Does anyone have any advice for me?

I have seriously considered seeing a professional counselor but I have always chickened out and have never made an appointment.

I have also tried the "give it time, this situation will get better... I'll find a girl" but i've given up on that. I have read alot of stuff on this forum and have learned alot.

 

[Chosen1]

Don't feel bad

hey, man i'm not exactly in the same boat as you but i feel you're pain i hit puberty earlier than you but i didn't grow much i'm just 5'61/2 and people say i look anywere from 21 to 17 but i'm 20

you're taller than alot of women that's good your low self esteem seems to come from the fact that you're little (or you think you are) so you might want to eat more protein and start working out do exercizes that will make you big in the chest and try to eat a little bit more you don't need a girlfriend to make you happy and that seems to me to be what you think

so here is what i want you to work on don't try to get any girls just be a cool guy

1. gain weight/workout oh yeah read about hgh human growth hormone also working out might make you a little taller

2. style

3. read the dj bible if you haven't also they say without embarassment is good it deals with something you might have called love-shyness

4.eliminate the negative/make postive changes in your life

5. bang hot pvssy

hope that helps

 

[T Money]

I am the same way, but here's how I look at it.

When i'm 50, i'll look like i'm 35 and i'll still be getting the young girls then.

I'm 22 and I look like i'm 16 or 17. I have hardly any facial hair, but I don't let it bother me. I'm a good looking guy, and girls like it, that's all that matters.

 

[Charm&Style]

lol whats up with the facial hair issue....i hope you dont think that

facial hair = getting pvssy.

but my mayn choosen1 put it down pretty well. Look back at your past experiences with women and just LAUGH cause those days will never come by again!!! Promise your self that from 2day you well change, from today youll be an alpha status male that walks around passing his charm and his beautiful personality that in return will give you whatever you want.

if you want to live happy you first have to be happy. Build up your self esteem and confidence about yourself and youll view everything differently.

best of luck bro

 

[Chosen1]

hey charm&style this is advice i need to be following i want to take a seduction workshop but only to meet new people and get away from this boring A$$ city its a slow process but i'm changing

 

[dreamxhenry]

I want to tell you guys my troubles with women and see if you have any advice/tips.

I believe I have deep rooted psychological issues dealing with women. I didn't hit puberty until I was about 15 (no significant amount of underarm hair until junior/senior year of highschool). I'm now almost 21. 5/10, 136 lbs. I have some facial hair, but can't even grow sideburns that look right.

I live in a college town and am starting graduate school right now. All people in the academic world treat me with alot of respect (i'm a pretty good student). I don't regularly use tobacco but i have bought it several times. It absolutely kills me when i go to the counter at a convenience store and ask for tobacco and the clerk starts laughing and says ""how old are you?". The other problem i have is when I go home to visit my parents every now and again. When they introduce me to people, 95% of the time the people ask me what grade i'm in. Its my best guess that people think my age is about 16.

I have had several almost girlfriends, but it never works out. I get severe one-itis and become a major wuss and would do anything for the girl that i'm seeing. they immediately drop me. Also, I never kiss a girl when the moment is right, I always chicken out. When i do eventually get the nerve to kiss them, its too late and I usually end up just giving a quick peck. and then the girl drops me.


I have no confidence and I literally walk around all day feeling sorry for myself for not being able to get a girlfriend.


Does anyone have any advice for me?

I have seriously considered seeing a professional counselor but I have always chickened out and have never made an appointment.

I have also tried the "give it time, this situation will get better... I'll find a girl" but i've given up on that. I have read alot of stuff on this forum and have learned alot.

ok if your serious then PM i'll give your my phone number,and then I'll let you talk to my therapist doctor,he is a funny as well and heck he approaches girls and gets laid so hurry up PM me if your really serious!

 

[Whatevs]

Sanyo, talk to your doctor man. seriously. I bet s/he'll send you do a endocrinologist -- i think thats what theyre called

You may start getting injections of testosterone.

My body wasnt producing testosterone so I didnt really hit puberty untill like 6 months ago (im almost 17).. 6 months ago is when i started getting injections monthly. I've got all the effects of puberty now and theyve taken me off the injections to see if I can produce testosterone myself.

No one asks how old I am at work anymore. When I fiorst started when I turned 16, i'd be asked a few times a day. M

My voice is deeper and crap, friends have actually told me so without knowing the treatment ive been getting.

So anyways, definitley talk to your doctor dude, ask her/him about seeing an endocrinologist.

Give me the update

 

[Juan_Man]

It's going to take time. When I graduated high school, I could barely grow a mustache. By the time I turned 20, I noticed that my facial hair growing abilities had grown significantly. I still can't grow a full beard becaause certain areas don't connect, but my face does get pretty hairy and scruffy if I don't shave for two weeks. It takes time for us late bloomers. As for weight gain, try eating a lot and make an effort to hit the gym at least 3 times a week. You'll get bigger in no time.

 

[Paradigm Artisan]

I believe I have deep rooted psychological issues dealing with women.

Well there you go! You need to stop believing these things. What you believe about yourself, people will see in you. You hang these excuses up like a welcome mat and say, 'woe is me. If only I was more musculer (Or Whatever)' You need to adopt a new belief system. No, this belief set won't gain you any more muscle but it will gain you a greater self esteem that therefore you won't need so much muscle in the long run.

You need to drop the excuse of why you are this way or why you are that way. I have a 95lb friend, yes 95lbs and he gets more pootang then you. Why? Because he dosen't care!! Your only as strong as your belief set. You just have to believe that you can change, and you can. <-- Cheesy Tony Robbins, but true. Trust me, when I was an AFC I was worse off then you. (Not that I'm some prodigy or anything now.)

Do this. We can adopt a new three stage belief set if you want to.

1. Create ten affirmations with the theme "You have left your past behind and you are willing to become a successful, attractive guy." Don't hold back! No one will know. Study your affirmations for 3 weeks.

Step 2. Create ten affirmations about how "You are learning how to interact, respond, and attract women." Study these affirmations for 3 more weeks.

Step 3. Create ten affirmations about how "You are completely confident, self controlled, and relaxed around the women you desire." Study these affirmations for 3 more weeks.

You will eventually see glimpses of these affirmations coming to life. Why? Some kind of subconscious mumbo jumbo crap. Once this starts to happen then you will actually start to believe them. And the more belief you put behind them, the more they will become true. Simply as that.

And to Whatevs;

Sanyo, talk to your doctor man. seriously. I bet s/he'll send you do a endocrinologist -- i think thats what theyre called

You may start getting injections of testosterone.

My body wasnt producing testosterone so I didnt really hit puberty untill like 6 months ago (im almost 17).. 6 months ago is when i started getting injections monthly. I've got all the effects of puberty now and theyve taken me off the injections to see if I can produce testosterone myself.

Yeah, your right, he DOES NEED TESTOSTERONE and badly. For testosterone effects confidence levels. But instead of a shot, he could get really determined to drop the excuses to why girls don't like him or why he screws up, and leave it all behind him, lift a very heavy object, and adopt a more empowering attitude. Things like this all raise testosterone levels naturally. Most likely he needs to engage in things like this and not see the doctor.

You got to get it together dude. No more will you talk about how you WERE with women. You will see things differently now. And you need to start now. You know you want to let go of the past and start creating a new future. And the only way you can is if you act NOW.

I have also tried the "give it time, this situation will get better... I'll find a girl" but i've given up on that. I have read alot of stuff on this forum and have learned alot.

Great! No more trying to give it fvcking time! What's with the passivness? You are not a women. You are a man.(I think) You seem like you are starting to act like it. You need to grab ahold of your life and throw out the victim mentallity. For if your not creating your life, someone else is.

Your list of things to do.

1. Find and purchase a weight set or gym membership. (For testosterone and confidence)

2. Find a sheet of paper and start working on your affirmations.

3. Find the most godd@mn inspiring post here to keep you motivated and save it to your computer so you can access it daily.

4. Find a hobby or passion. Be ACTIVE in something.

and 5. Everytime you hear, "Because im not this or that and that's why a girl won't like me" on the inside, curse out that belief and replace it with a better one.

Really, some guys just don't have that testosterone because of those things above. Keep reading the post here, save the good ones. Go out and make the effort and don't settle for the sh!t you have been. In time all things change. But you better be the one changing them.

Godd@mn, you need to start with the basics dude.

Take it for what it's worth. Hope I helped.

 

[sanyo7878]

Thanks Guys

First off, I want to thank everyone that responded to my post. I really appreciate the advice you guys give.

A little bit more about my past: I have seen an endocrinologist (he was even a PHD Doctor at a university medical center). I think this guy was mostly concerned with my height. I was very short (less than 5 feet) when I first started seeing him. He diagnosed me with an inactive thyroid gland so I took thyroid hormone for about a year. Nothing much happened, no puberty or growth. I then went on testosterone shots for a 6 months. I then proceeded very gradually through puberty. The doctor then said I was done seeing him and took me off the thyroid hormone and said to live life normally and that I was fine.

Dumb question: What is the dj bible? (are you guys talking about the articles on the main sosuave page?)

One more question: who all has read "without embarrasmet"... and is it worth buying?

Paradigm Artisan: Thanks again for your post. I really appreiate the time/thought you put into it.

 

[Chosen1]

First off, I want to thank everyone that responded to my post. I really appreciate the advice you guys give.

A little bit more about my past: I have seen an endocrinologist (he was even a PHD Doctor at a university medical center). I think this guy was mostly concerned with my height. I was very short (less than 5 feet) when I first started seeing him. He diagnosed me with an inactive thyroid gland so I took thyroid hormone for about a year. Nothing much happened, no puberty or growth. I then went on testosterone shots for a 6 months. I then proceeded very gradually through puberty. The doctor then said I was done seeing him and took me off the thyroid hormone and said to live life normally and that I was fine.

Dumb question: What is the dj bible? (are you guys talking about the articles on the main sosuave page?)

One more question: who all has read "without embarrasmet"... and is it worth buying?

Paradigm Artisan: Thanks again for your post. I really appreiate the time/thought you put into it.

to answer your questions in order

1. no if you scroll to the bottom of anypage you will see the dj bible link click on it

2. i have read a little of without embarassment because i have a condition called love-shyness where i'm kind of scared to be romantic with women i didn't like it to be honest with you but i didn't read the whole thing and got a refund but i'm planning on buying it again the real book version because i have problems reading ebooks

well i think that answer your questions