Decoding your Social Environment (DSE)

[Flying Dutchman]

Hey All

Due to my recent experience with a BPD - Cluster B witch I picked up on reading more about psychology etc.

I am now focussing on two unpleasant masked personality types;
Narcist and Psychopath. These can not be your dating partner or future partner but also people at work our 'friends'

I tend to struggle with the later category; demasking who my real friends really are; who are they?

So some help by decoding this practical situation is wished:

'Was in a bar in smoking room than moved from smoking section to normal part where no places where left unless we joined a table where 2 women where sitting. I joined with him that table.
Later a friend and his GF joined in. Than mutual conversations amongst all people at the table errupted. Than the friend where i was all night with decided to spray (=share openly) over the table a fact i did that day which seemed clumpsy in his eyes. Thereby diminishing my table image. This resulted in some minutes later that the chick i hit who i even managed to put my number in her phone.
Decided to spray a personal compliment about her hair what i gave her to anyone at the table; result people laughed. I did not respond and maintained frame. Than when convos at table continued i decided the chick to ask why it was necessary for her to do that. She replied very sarcastic with a big smile sorry i hurted your emotions. And clearly was with body language totally turned away from me. Also when she stood up to go to the toilet she not politely asked me to go aside but pushed me away. Some clear signs that I had to leave the scene, which I did abruptly without giving any reasoning etc.

All comments are welcome. In helping me decoding my social environment

Very nice lecture about how to spot distorted individuals to watch on youtube;

Sam Vaknin: The Cold Empathy of the Psychopathic Mind

 

[Starwolf]

your "friend" tried to gain more value at your expense... fvckedup but thats what a lot of guys do.

you can't let this get to you tho, learn to become more witty and throw something back when you see people doing this.

as for the girl she lost interest when you didn't say anything. and tried to disassociate from you by making fun of you. again you said nothing

and complained about it later. That ultimately disgusted her.

I would say stop taking things so seriously, laugh it off, if your friend told something clumsy, come up with a story, something that was even clumsier. keep and maintain focus of the group on yourself.

Or if you don't feel it and just want to exit with some pride these would be some good crash and burn walk away scenes :crackup:

to your friend who made the clumsy remark about you.
example:
Friend: "So saw OP talking to some girls earlier and he told them ("insert cheesy pick up line"). How lame is that right LoL"
OP: "Well when i said it to your mom last night she loved it" ( always turn it around related to his mother, careful tho you can get your ass kicked )

As for the girl.

GirL: "you know what he told me just then. That my hair was such and such"
OP: "Lol Well yeah, I thought you were a special needs girl"

Then get up and walk away like you just done taking a piss