Dealing with mixed signals

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This isn't something I often deal with as I tend to next very very quickly when I come across them , but I am aware a lot of girls do use them to try and see just how much a guy is going to chase her

As a rule of thumb if she's giving mixed signals it generally ISN'T a good idea to try and pursue her unless your very experienced and in control of your emotions because mixed signals is predominantly a female strategy

There are certain environments where mixed signals can become even more confusing for a guy and these are

1) workplace

2) the gym

these are the two most common places where you will find men asking questions like " I'm not sure if she likes me " , "shall I ask her out" , "she's giving me mixed signals" yada yada yada

Women use these types of environments to test their powers of attraction they will drop the most subtlest of hints and ques to try and draw in men even if they are in a relationship

its because these environments are "common ground" and they tend to allow women a lot of plausible deniability whilst making the guy look like a fvcking idiot once he makes his move

You see its kind of fun for them dangling string toying with men seeing if they "still got it"

If you find yourself dealing with a mixed signals chick ( and there are plenty out there ) my advice is DO NOT BE DIRECT , DO NOT SHOW YOUR TRUE INTEREST

Play her game faint interest ask really in depth questions and then don't reply when she answers, don't like her social media posts , don't watch her stories
Tell her about other dates you've been on

When you successfully flip the script she will start wondering why you aren't playing ball , the goal is to be on her mind constantly which is the only way to raise interest in a woman and get clear intention



 

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Oke i like your view on this.

Personally I like to "get shyte over with" when I get a feeling she's sending me mixed signals. Imo its a sign of her straying, and you got nothing left to lose. By being straight forward (mode 1!!) You at least cut the bs AND perhaps even gain that little bit of respect that will act as lubricant to make her change her mind.

My approach is more generally focused, than specifically in places like work/ the gym.
 

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This isn't something I often deal with as I tend to next very very quickly when I come across them , but I am aware a lot of girls do use them to try and see just how much a guy is going to chase her

As a rule of thumb if she's giving mixed signals it generally ISN'T a good idea to try and pursue her unless your very experienced and in control of your emotions because mixed signals is predominantly a female strategy

There are certain environments where mixed signals can become even more confusing for a guy and these are

1) workplace

2) the gym

these are the two most common places where you will find men asking questions like " I'm not sure if she likes me " , "shall I ask her out" , "she's giving me mixed signals" yada yada yada

Women use these types of environments to test their powers of attraction they will drop the most subtlest of hints and ques to try and draw in men even if they are in a relationship

its because these environments are "common ground" and they tend to allow women a lot of plausible deniability whilst making the guy look like a fvcking idiot once he makes his move

You see its kind of fun for them dangling string toying with men seeing if they "still got it"

If you find yourself dealing with a mixed signals chick ( and there are plenty out there ) my advice is DO NOT BE DIRECT , DO NOT SHOW YOUR TRUE INTEREST

Play her game faint interest ask really in depth questions and then don't reply when she answers, don't like her social media posts , don't watch her stories
Tell her about other dates you've been on

When you successfully flip the script she will start wondering why you aren't playing ball , the goal is to be on her mind constantly which is the only way to raise interest in a woman and get clear intention
Actually being disinterested is almost always better than pretending to be disinterested. If you find yourself attracted to someone that doesn't respect your time or attention then it follows that you don't respect yourself.

You can certainly win women over by doing 90% of the work, but unless you're prepared to maintain that level of commitment the relationship will usually be pretty fragile.
 

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This isn't something I often deal with as I tend to next very very quickly when I come across them , but I am aware a lot of girls do use them to try and see just how much a guy is going to chase her

As a rule of thumb if she's giving mixed signals it generally ISN'T a good idea to try and pursue her unless your very experienced and in control of your emotions because mixed signals is predominantly a female strategy

There are certain environments where mixed signals can become even more confusing for a guy and these are

1) workplace

2) the gym

these are the two most common places where you will find men asking questions like " I'm not sure if she likes me " , "shall I ask her out" , "she's giving me mixed signals" yada yada yada

Women use these types of environments to test their powers of attraction they will drop the most subtlest of hints and ques to try and draw in men even if they are in a relationship

its because these environments are "common ground" and they tend to allow women a lot of plausible deniability whilst making the guy look like a fvcking idiot once he makes his move

You see its kind of fun for them dangling string toying with men seeing if they "still got it"

If you find yourself dealing with a mixed signals chick ( and there are plenty out there ) my advice is DO NOT BE DIRECT , DO NOT SHOW YOUR TRUE INTEREST

Play her game faint interest ask really in depth questions and then don't reply when she answers, don't like her social media posts , don't watch her stories
Tell her about other dates you've been on

When you successfully flip the script she will start wondering why you aren't playing ball , the goal is to be on her mind constantly which is the only way to raise interest in a woman and get clear intention
You my friend get the patience badge haha. I think crusty street seducers like myself have no more patience. We just "next" girls very rapidly when they dont play ball.
 

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Play the game like they do and you will beat them every time.

Always keep them wondering.

Yes this requires patience.
 

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There are no mixed signals. Only you interpreting an uninterested woman who is being nice as someone who is interested.

Or at least not interested ENOUGH to be worth your time and effort. Interested women make it easy for you.
Wrong women like social games they enjoy manipulating and they enjoy attention

This is where the strategy of mixed signals stems from , its this female ideology of " how obsessed can I make this guy about me"

Its a female fantasy to have men at a physiological point whereby they would literally die or kill for them

Its VERY rare a man will come across a woman whom is red hot for him and him alone straight off the bat

In fact I would argue its far more likely a man will come across women whom will give him mixed signals and blow hot and cold so its important to think about
 

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Wrong women like social games they enjoy manipulating and they enjoy attention

This is where the strategy of mixed signals stems from , its this female ideology of " how obsessed can I make this guy about me"

Its a female fantasy to have men at a physiological point whereby they would literally die or kill for them

Its VERY rare a man will come across a woman whom is red hot for him and him alone straight off the bat

In fact I would argue its far more likely a man will come across women whom will give him mixed signals and blow hot and cold so its important to think about
Yes...they enjoy that with men they don't care if they lose. Hence they aren't interested ENOUGH.

Women will never play games or give mixed signals to a man they are afraid of losing.
 
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Fine but in 2023 the vast majority of young women are not afraid of losing a man :rofl:
 

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This is a good strategy for a wide variety of men but I think its important to mention that you can't get wet without taking the plunge. Thinking and wondering instead of approaching and starting a dialogue is not going to get you anywhere.

As a mature man, I don't care to show or give interest to a chick just because she exists and is pretty. When I interact with women these days, theres no thought about sex or dating.. it's just conversation based on socializing, having fun in the moment, topics surrounding common ground.. The idea is to get to know if the girl is ideal for you in the first place instead of wasting time and energy.. If she gives you mixed signals after you do make a move or show interest, dont even give any more energy or thought, just move on. If she does show interest, escalate and have fun and do your thing..

When you live an interesting and balanced enough life, interactions and situations with women just fall into a very minor place.. where if a girl is down, cool, if shes not, nothing changes in your life.

Waiting for a girl to make the move just isn't it.
 

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This isn't something I often deal with as I tend to next very very quickly when I come across them , but I am aware a lot of girls do use them to try and see just how much a guy is going to chase her

As a rule of thumb if she's giving mixed signals it generally ISN'T a good idea to try and pursue her unless your very experienced and in control of your emotions because mixed signals is predominantly a female strategy

There are certain environments where mixed signals can become even more confusing for a guy and these are

1) workplace

2) the gym

these are the two most common places where you will find men asking questions like " I'm not sure if she likes me " , "shall I ask her out" , "she's giving me mixed signals" yada yada yada

Women use these types of environments to test their powers of attraction they will drop the most subtlest of hints and ques to try and draw in men even if they are in a relationship

its because these environments are "common ground" and they tend to allow women a lot of plausible deniability whilst making the guy look like a fvcking idiot once he makes his move

You see its kind of fun for them dangling string toying with men seeing if they "still got it"

If you find yourself dealing with a mixed signals chick ( and there are plenty out there ) my advice is DO NOT BE DIRECT , DO NOT SHOW YOUR TRUE INTEREST

Play her game faint interest ask really in depth questions and then don't reply when she answers, don't like her social media posts , don't watch her stories
Tell her about other dates you've been on

When you successfully flip the script she will start wondering why you aren't playing ball , the goal is to be on her mind constantly which is the only way to raise interest in a woman and get clear intention
What are ‘mixed signals’?
 

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Fine but in 2023 the vast majority of young women are not afraid of losing a man :rofl:
They're not afraid of losing 'some guy', but you can bet your life they are afraid of losing 'their man'.
 

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While totally understading where the OP is coming from, I have to say that, at least from my own experience, the term "Mixed Signals" only equals "Uninterest."

When a female shows you the so-called "mixed signals" it only means that she's not interested (sexually and romantically) in you. At least in that moment.

So, the best way to "deal" with mixed signals is to ask them out a maximum of two times. If they reject your advance twice (aka showing "mixed signals"), leave them the fvck alone and move on to other women.
 

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Casting my vote:

If a woman is interested she will make things flow easily, PERIOD.

Next.
That's what we all have learned THE HARD WAY.

A woman giving you "mixed signals" means she's making it DIFFICULT for you to make any move on her, aka signs of low interest.

On the contrary: A woman who's interested in you will not make it EASY for you to make a move by not giving you any so-called "mixed signals."

To sum it up: "Mixed signals" = "Low Interest"
 

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I fully disagree. The amount of investment a woman has to put up and risk to find a high value man is extremely high.
Women are afraid to lose Chad and Tyrone, and could care less if Bob and John flake off sans their attention, money, pic liking, and Onlyfans subscription.

OP, signals are only mixed when she doesn't like you barring beta roles.

Everyone say it with me. Women who are interested will make it easy. If it's this difficult now, the difficulty will go up to eleven if you did get with her. She'd be settling at that point. And if I talk to her on a day I don't feel like playing Mario 3, she'll be learning first hand about cajun pipe, I garontee!

If it's pulling teeth, it ain't for you chief.

Because you're not a Kansas City Chief. To her you're Kansas shïtty. Point is, stop chasing. Stop overanalyzing. Mixed signals means eject. There's only a message you don't want to hear, let alone accept. So let me say it again. She's just not that into you. Move on and level up. Maybe she'll circle back, maybe not. If so, she better blow you and bring you a pepperoni pizza.

Next her (well, she fundamentally showed disinterest first). Raise your value. Court's orders.

Case closed.
 

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While totally understading where the OP is coming from, I have to say that, at least from my own experience, the term "Mixed Signals" only equals "Uninterest."

When a female shows you the so-called "mixed signals" it only means that she's not interested (sexually and romantically) in you. At least in that moment.

So, the best way to "deal" with mixed signals is to ask them out a maximum of two times. If they reject your advance twice (aka showing "mixed signals"), leave them the fvck alone and move on to other women.
I notice ‘yes’ & ‘no’. anything else (mixed?) is to ambiguous for me.
 

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OP, signals are only mixed when she doesn't like you barring beta roles.

Everyone say it with me. Women who are interested will make it easy. If it's this difficult now, the difficulty will go up to eleven if you did get with her. She'd be settling at that point. And if I talk to her on a day I don't feel like playing Mario 3, she'll be learning first hand about cajun pipe, I garontee!

Case closed.
We wouldn't have this forum if women "made it easy"

Generally women whom "make it easy" are usually well below a mans own SMV

Yea sure a HB6 is going to "make it easy" for you if your a 7 or an 8 whoop de doo you've gone and bagged yourself a 6 here's a medal

Once you start dealing with the higher echelons of woman and im talking about actual HB8 + im sorry to break it they aint gonna make it easy for you

Yea they may make it easy for a rapper or a movie star or a football player sure but we are then talking about the top 10% of males on the planet how many guys do you know that fall into that category :rofl:

in 2023 is VERY rare a normal guy is going to run into an attractive girl that is 100% into him from the word go , they just have Too many options

Might be hard to swallow but that is how it is out there

Your going to deal with sh1t tests ,your going to deal with mixed signals and if you allow it your going to deal with disrespect

These problems are the entire foundation of this forum
 
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