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Dealing with intimidation - Problem

Rave18

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I have to walk a certain path, coming to and going out from my house and there is always a group of guys hanging around. They hurl abuses whenever I am close by. I don't bother them in any way and mind my own business, still it goes on.

I honestly feel helpless.

Can't get into a fight and can't change my route. Any advice on how to deal with it would be appreciated.
 

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Welcome to my childhood. Only white dude in West Kensington Philadelphia was no fun. That old advice of fighting one to intimidate the others was no good. They would've just shot me.

Ignore them. Eventually they will go away or you will. My guys were all arrested or killed. And when I turned 18 I lit out for the Navy.
 

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I agree with MidnightCity actually.

Thugs,women and dog behave all the same, they can smell fear and insecurity and act accordingly, the more fear you show and the more courage they feel.

Of course your body has a role, not only your shape and size but also your body language, the same guy walking with a closed posture gives totally different vibes than a guy walking with his chest open and jaw high.

Anyway take that self defence course, it will give you a genuine confidence that doesnt force you to fake it plus you can protect yourself...and given the chance get rid of that scum, lets make the world a better place.
 

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First of all, go learn to fight. It's just like Mr Miagi said in The Karate Kid - you learn to fight so that you don't have to. When you carry yourself with an aura of confidence, peoples' self-protection instinct will kick in, and they will be afraid to start sh!t with you. Right now, it's the opposite - for every insult that passes, you get weaker and easier to pick on, which is just what bullies want, easy prey.

A former training partner of mine is a prison guard. He was getting heckled and challenged by a certain racial minority group of inmates, but always while they were on the other side of the bars. They were telling him they were going to shank him, gouge out his eyes, and gang rape him. One day he decided he'd had enough. While all the inmates were out in the yard, he took off his uniform and walked out to the corner of the yard where the 35 or so of them were standing and screamed, "HEY! Any y'all got a problem with me, we can settle it right now! Otherwise, you're going to shut the fvck up before I beat all your asses."

Suddenly all of them were like "who? us? problems? we don't got no problems :whistle: " Now if all 35 rushed him at once, they could have killed him, but no one wants to be the guy or two whose head he breaks before that happens. Because bullies are pvssies.

And yeah, he did get in a little bit of trouble for that at work, but everyone in the prison respected him so much that it was worth it.
 

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I was homeschooled till 8th grade. There was always this one mother fvcker who would fvck with me, and I let it go because I didn't have the balls. Even my science teacher pulled me aside and said "son you have to stick up for yourself." It's hard being a new kid in school though, I knew no one.

Fast forward to high-school, he tried doing it. Were in the stair well. I booked him, and smacked his hat off of his head and said"fvck you man" He basically told me something to the extent that all I had to do was stick up for myslef.

That was freshman year. Another time this other kid I knew from 8th grade ran his mouth at me in class like my junior year, Idk what he all said, but it was real disrespectful, something like how he beat me up in 8th grade, he never did. But I waited outside the class room for him. He was the last one out. I get in his face said something to him, then I head butted him (not to hard) and the back of his head hit the locker. he says "I'm not afraid of you." and ran off.

Like every one says learn how to fight. If you live in the U.S. and conceal carry is legal where you are, I would do that if you feel the need to protect yourself. I mean if its a group of guys, im not risking my life to prove I can fight. I'd rather put rounds down range.

Or, just go fight them, get your as$ beat. Go back again, let it happen again, and again. Eventually your going to freak them out, because they will think your crazy, people fear crazy.

If you come at some one hard and aggressive enough the first time, just the pure shock and awe will fvck them up.
 

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Thank You for your input everyone. Am planning to take up Krav Maga and I guess I will just have to tough it out in the meantime.
 

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For the time being, do what the other guys said - talk the talk. Don't start sh*t with them, but definitely don't visibly fear them. Hold your head high and go on about your business. Maybe even say, "What's up guys" as you pass them, to disarm them verbally. Don't sweat 'em, chances are they won't do anything anyway, unless you are wearing a bunch of jewelry or something flagrant like that.

Getting bullied sucks, mainly because there's no easy way out of it. There's nothing your parents or teachers or police or anybody else can do for you. But once you break through, you'll probably lick it for life. Gaining your confidence is key. But don't be stupid - you can't go kick a group of guys' asses, even if you're a UFC fighter. You really just have to 'portray' that you're not an easy target - and there are various ways to do that.

I wouldn't get a gun unless you REALLY believe your safety is in jeopardy. Don't be a coward.
 

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Like dude said just ignore them, the good Lord will handle them in due time.
 

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Rave18 said:
Thank You for your input everyone. Am planning to take up Krav Maga and I guess I will just have to tough it out in the meantime.
In the meantime, start doing some HIIT at home, pushups, hindu squats, etc.

This will increase your testosterone, which will give you more subtle confidence, and also improve your posture, which also gives you more of a confident aura.

Also, when walking past those dudes, make sure you pick a point off in the distance, and stare at is as you walk past, face up, head back.

Try not to move your eyes one bit as long as you're in their field of vision.
 

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Rave, guys over the internet telling you to fight it out aren't looking out for your best interest.

I don't know what kind of guys these are but a group is more than one and if you look to fight a group you will lose.

I say avoid the whole thing until they go away OR get a couple friends to fight with you. Krav Maga isn't going to do a thing if you are by yourself. This isn't a movie.
 

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FairShake said:
Rave, guys over the internet telling you to fight it out aren't looking out for your best interest.

I don't know what kind of guys these are but a group is more than one and if you look to fight a group you will lose.

I say avoid the whole thing until they go away OR get a couple friends to fight with you. Krav Maga isn't going to do a thing if you are by yourself. This isn't a movie.
Am either going to ignore these guys or deal with them in a different manner, as suggested by others. Some of these guys carry guns = No use fighting.

Going for Krav Maga cause it may prove useful in some other situation :)

Appreciate your concern everyone.
 

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Rave18 said:
Am either going to ignore these guys or deal with them in a different manner, as suggested by others. Some of these guys carry guns = No use fighting.

Going for Krav Maga cause it may prove useful in some other situation :)

Appreciate your concern everyone.
Good for you dude. If they are living that way it's only a matter of time.

Meanwhile work your plan and you will be out of there in no time!
 
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