Matt Rogers
Master Don Juan
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- Jan 18, 2003
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There seems to be a consesus amongst some people on this site that every time a woman plays games, acts flaky or disrespects you, you should call her up on it, next her or similarly punish her.
I have done this in the past and it works horrendeously badly. Here is why I think it does:
1. It shows her that she has the power to offend you and upset you, which immediately reveals you care about her. It is far better to smile and seem indifferent.
2. She will think you are a controlling jerk, especially when her excuses may be valid and she did have a reason for her behaviour
3. She has valid reasons for her flakiness and game playing. She does not have sky high interest level and doesn't trust you yet and feels the need to test you.
Here is a much better way to react.
1. Smile and don't let her know you are annoyed.
2. In some way distance yourself by not calling for a week. Don't be overly hasty to reschedule or supplicate to her. Also don't try and persuade her to change her mind or apply pressure on her.
3. Try again a week later and don't mention her behaviour again.
4. Always have back plans and back up girls.
Realise that if a girl tests you or is flaky it is most likely because you haven't yet raised her interest level high enough. Once her interest level is higher she will be more consistent and less difficult. Until then just be charming, don't let her get to you and don't make her your priority until she deserves it.
I have done this in the past and it works horrendeously badly. Here is why I think it does:
1. It shows her that she has the power to offend you and upset you, which immediately reveals you care about her. It is far better to smile and seem indifferent.
2. She will think you are a controlling jerk, especially when her excuses may be valid and she did have a reason for her behaviour
3. She has valid reasons for her flakiness and game playing. She does not have sky high interest level and doesn't trust you yet and feels the need to test you.
Here is a much better way to react.
1. Smile and don't let her know you are annoyed.
2. In some way distance yourself by not calling for a week. Don't be overly hasty to reschedule or supplicate to her. Also don't try and persuade her to change her mind or apply pressure on her.
3. Try again a week later and don't mention her behaviour again.
4. Always have back plans and back up girls.
Realise that if a girl tests you or is flaky it is most likely because you haven't yet raised her interest level high enough. Once her interest level is higher she will be more consistent and less difficult. Until then just be charming, don't let her get to you and don't make her your priority until she deserves it.