Dealing with crazy girls.

[mtbbkr111]

Guys, I'm not sure what to do.. I'm 28. I met this girl 2 months ago(also 28). She lives in a big city near by where I work. She would come up on the weekends (so 7 our of 8 weeks) and once or so during the week. Last weekend we were at my good friends wedding, and she started an arguement with me. It lasted 2 hrs then she slapped me in the face and left the wedding (I won't go into details about the drama).. I stayed and had a good time.. The next morning I told her it was over and to leave my house. It took me 12 hrs to get her to leave (this was Sun)..
Monday she called me and threatened to "end it all".. I resisted my helping instinct and said that I wasn't the person to help her.. She has been calling, emailing and won't leave me alone. Last night I blocked her number/email after I got a voicemail saying that she may come up to my house to talk to me... I've said all I've needed to say, and told her flat out it's over..

This is my first time dealing with something like this.. Any opinions??


Thanks!

 

[decades]

you're doing everything exactly right. the problem for you will be staying strong and resisting the "hoover". What she is trying to do is make you agree to "try" to work things out, and after you agree, one day out of the blue when you "believe" everything is perfect, she will drop you like a HOT ROCK and you won't know what hit you. If it were me, I would not give her ANYTHING, nothing, nada, zip, squat, nil, no contact whatsoever. If she comes to your door, have it locked and pretend you aren't home. The surest way to get rid of them is not even give them a breath of air to breathe. But most so called DJs don't have the fortitude to do this and may not know themselves well enough to make this approach stick. They waver, They cave, they give in to the promise of great sex. You can be rid of them but it takes Perfect execution of the very plan I laid out. If you falter, you will run the risk of getting sucked back in, suffer tons more drama, only to have the rug pulled out from under you when you least expect it. Good luck.

 

[mtbbkr111]

Thanks, I have absolutly no intention of even being friends with her.. I was planning in ending it anyway as she is a high stress person, and I'm laid back.. This outburst actuall came at a good time because it gave me a reason.. I just don't know what to do if she shows up at my door (I'm having a long weekend BBQ and think she will show up.. Oh well, that's her embarassement!

 

[Omen]

I'll tell you what problem I have with a crazy girl. I'd say not as crazy as yours, but here is my first thread...

http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?t=149997

It's about why women get so defensive.

So last night I get this random call from a # I didnt know. I guessed it was who I thought it was, and sure enough. She called from another phone, left a voicemail, and goes...

Under the circumstances that has happened between us (let me remind you all I did was tell her I DONT want to be friends, and we wont be) I dont want you to ever text me or call me again. If you do, i'll probably have to take it to management for harassment. And if you still do it, put a restraining order on you.

Ok, first off, I dont harass her at work. Second, i've never once called the girl. But if you look at my phone log, you'll see she has called me. In fact last week my phone went off at 2:49am, I didnt get it, and when I saw her she was like... I couldn't sleep and wanted to talk.

As far as texts... I had a few last week, the week before, and then a the last one was like a month ago.

Third, I never even talk to her at work that much. In fact I haven't said much to her recently. The times I did, I was trying to be nice to her. I am never around her outside work, etc etc.

So I had to laugh at that voicemail cause a text outside work is not work related. She just wants drama. Then the restraining order..... Uh....for NOT calling her? lol.

She wants to win, she's mad I told her I never wanted to talk to her again, so she's going to play it like i'm the bad guy. This is how women work.

But you see... THEY ARE CRAZY. She wont say anything about how she's called me, cause she blocks that out. She wont say how she's called me every cuss word under the sun, cause she blocked that out as well.

So last night I was like... Got your message, i'll delete your #, and be out of your life.

Hey, if it makes her feel good to feel like she won, then what ever. I decided not to mention the fact i've never called her, and how she has, and how she's harassed me at work, but it should be over.

I have to see her tonight, but I am sure it will be a quiet night.

So this crazy girl is trying to make me the bad guy and put all the blame on me because I told her I didnt want to be friends. So if she starts in, i'll be like... didn't I tell you not to talk to me again? I made myself clear, and I mean it.

I'm sure she knows this after last night.

I've never had to deal with what I am dealing with now either, just like your scenario. Though different, we both are dealing with crazy women in one way or another.

No contact whatsoever just like persistent said. This is the only way to move forward.

Good luck man, I know how you feel right now