Xdenova
New Member
Hello fellas!
To sum up the story short, I had pursued this particular woman for a very long time. She admitted her feelings towards me and asked me to be her boyfriend. I freaked out because I've never had a parental role model and have no idea in how to maintain a solid relationship. I took a day and told her i was willing to go for it but by this time she had put up her walls up. At the site of my mistake I hate to admit it but i caught the ONEITIS virus, and so my mood and my whole emotional well being was tangled with how she reacted. Thus, in no way in hell was i going to get laid.
She had finished her final years and was transferring to the East Coast (i'm in the west) for college. She left, didn't give me her # and eventually just cut me off. I was destroyed.
I did what a man should do, got up. Started doing things for myself. 2 months into it. She called me telling me that she misses me. I cut the conversations short, or take long to get back to her as i am busy with my life.
She has been wanting to put me back in the emasculated corner that i was in, a very dark scary corner.
Example:
Her :"X, i care about you"
me: " huh..? you care about me"
Her: "yeah but not like that...."
Me: (in my mind) WTF...?
This is when I went on and told her that i was no longer interested in her
because of all of the things that she had done, and that i could not believe that she was still having such a big ego. I told her "get it that i am no longer interested in you anymore. so when you say these sort of things you sound very self centered, i hate that. I just don't feel anything for you":box:
Of course, i was very in love with her, so that statement had 20% of a lie in it. But i understand that being with her is pointless. How would you guys approach this?
Today is her Birthday as well.
Thank you all for your consideration in helping me out.
- X
To sum up the story short, I had pursued this particular woman for a very long time. She admitted her feelings towards me and asked me to be her boyfriend. I freaked out because I've never had a parental role model and have no idea in how to maintain a solid relationship. I took a day and told her i was willing to go for it but by this time she had put up her walls up. At the site of my mistake I hate to admit it but i caught the ONEITIS virus, and so my mood and my whole emotional well being was tangled with how she reacted. Thus, in no way in hell was i going to get laid.
She had finished her final years and was transferring to the East Coast (i'm in the west) for college. She left, didn't give me her # and eventually just cut me off. I was destroyed.
I did what a man should do, got up. Started doing things for myself. 2 months into it. She called me telling me that she misses me. I cut the conversations short, or take long to get back to her as i am busy with my life.
She has been wanting to put me back in the emasculated corner that i was in, a very dark scary corner.
Example:
Her :"X, i care about you"
me: " huh..? you care about me"
Her: "yeah but not like that...."
Me: (in my mind) WTF...?
This is when I went on and told her that i was no longer interested in her
because of all of the things that she had done, and that i could not believe that she was still having such a big ego. I told her "get it that i am no longer interested in you anymore. so when you say these sort of things you sound very self centered, i hate that. I just don't feel anything for you":box:
Of course, i was very in love with her, so that statement had 20% of a lie in it. But i understand that being with her is pointless. How would you guys approach this?
Today is her Birthday as well.
Thank you all for your consideration in helping me out.
- X