De-infatuation suggestions needed!

[randomshinichi]

I just caught myself falling head over heels in "love" with my current girlfriend (the one I last started a thread about), and it's only been like, what, 2 months old. My gut says that attraction is still there between us, so all is not lost, but I need to really start backing off because looking at the whole situation objectively, she's not made of pure 24K as I thought before. The Book of Pook has been especially instrumental in helping me realize this before it jeopardizes my relationship.

Any suggestions? I think the best course of action is to let the clock tick, see what happens. Spend more time on your own life, I know, goodness knows I've spent way too much time with her the past two weeks. But what else have you guys done when you've caught yourselves falling "in love" too soon? I'm not really comfortable with the idea of dating two chicks at once. Not in my first relationship at least. I know, I'm a hopeless romantic.

 

[Lexington]

Make a list of all her negative qualities and take a good long look at it. And you can't tell me she doesn't have things about her that you don't like. She is certainly less than perfect. That will knock her down a peg or two in your mind. Be brutally honest, even if it hurts a little bit. Make this list as extensive as you can. Then go over it multiple times. Do that for several days.

This doesn't only apply to women. You should from time to time make a brutally honest assessment of everything in your life including yourself. Exercises like this help to keep everything in perspective and it reminds us that we must constantly work to improve ourselves and our surroundings. It is always better to be overcritical than to be content.

 

[Scars]

Just back off and focus on you. Spinning plates doesn't always have to mean another girl. It could mean going to the gym, hanging out with friends, seeing a movie, or whatever. Just make sure you have your "ME" time, or you will quickly find yourself going crazy, or without a girlfriend.

-Scars

 

[randomshinichi]

I have 7 things on my list so far. The thing is that yes, a few things on the list do hurt... but the amazing part is that it hurts me to admit it!

 

[bigneil]

Congrats randomshinichi on finding a girl you like that much. You're half way to your goal (step 1 being finding her, step 2 being your ability to maintain composure).

She must be a great girl (especially with only 7 bad qualities).

Also, kudos on catching yourself falling after 2 months (exactly what happened to me during my last oneitis) and recognizing that it's a problem.

Sadly, the only cure for a woman is another woman.

My advice is to try periods of NC immediately while she still has high IL.

 

[Bible_Belt]

Love is real, but it only lasts about two years. Enjoy it while you can.