Day 1 with her went well...How to follow up & close?

[SpartanWarrior77]

Hey fellas,

I picked up a girl in NYC about 2 weeks ago and we went on our first date 2 days ago (Sunday.)

The date went pretty great. We went for a drink and had a really engaging conversation. She was laughing at my stupid jokes, said she hated feminism, great eye contact, she was asking me a lot of questions and I kiss-closed her at the end.

My end game is: Keep her for a non-exclusive mid-term relationship where she is submissive to me and completely in my frame.

It's been about 2 days since our first date, and I haven't texted her nor received a text since. (Although, after the date; she sent me a text saying "It was nice meeting you" to which I responded "Likewise "

My question is: How do I follow up with her and set up the day 2? Also, how do I do it in a way that isn't needy and makes her more attracted/invested in me. (Remember the endgame here lol)

Ps. I don't really have a solid place to f-close but she has a room in the city. (just a heads-up for guys who are going to tell me to bring her to my place. I live in another state and only visit NYC on weekends). The only way I would bring her up to where I live is if she's a solid and submissive prospect and I know I've got her in the bag.

Thanks a lot for any advice!

 

[SpartanWarrior77]

I like the insight at the end there: "If it's too close she could be a regular of sorts, meaning she may often run into people she knows, which will keep breaking your frame." That's pretty cool that you would think ahead like that.

And also, I agree with your general response: Wait another day or so and text about a new location. It's a good way to get her out again because I'm offering value by suggesting a new spot. Making her ask first so that she invests and I'm not putting everything on the table at all times.

So course of action: Text tonight, suggest new spot (adding value/keeping things interesting), make her ask "what spot?" (making her invest), and make sure the spot is somewhere she probably doesn't go to (stay in control/minimize people breaking your frame).

Would you suggest anything else as far as texting is concerned? Like, should I just text her about this new place and ask for day 2 or should I text-flirt with her a bit?

 

[AttackFormation]

Jesus christ dude:

My end game is: Keep her for a non-exclusive mid-term relationship where she is submissive to me and completely in my frame.

because I'm offering value by suggesting a new spot.

so that she invests and I'm not putting everything on the table at all times.

So course of action: Text tonight, suggest new spot (adding value/keeping things interesting), make her ask "what spot?" (making her invest), and make sure the spot is somewhere she probably doesn't go to (stay in control/minimize people breaking your frame)

??? I hope this is not how your mind goes in real life. You sound like an android. Relax for fvck sake and talk/think like a human, I've been where you're going mentally and it's not gonna help you enjoy life.

Now... do what Silvestre said and as for where to have sex with her, you've got somewhere to stay over the weekend right? so bring her there or go to her place after, whatever is closer to the spot you guys go to. If you want to go to her place then make a joke that where you're staying is haunted when you/she brings it up, she'll get the idea. As for texting, I would send a flirty text that also tells her where you wanna take her next time.

 

[SpartanWarrior77]

Jesus christ dude: ??? I hope this is not how your mind goes in real life. You sound like an android. Relax for fvck sake and talk/think like a human, I've been where you're going mentally and it's not gonna help you enjoy life.

Now... do what Silvestre said and as for where to have sex with her, you've got somewhere to stay over the weekend right? so bring her there or go to her place after, whatever is closer to the spot you guys go to. If you want to go to her place then make a joke that where you're staying is haunted when you/she brings it up, she'll get the idea. As for texting, I would send a flirty text that also tells her where you wanna take her next time.

Lmao, hey! This place is for deep analytical thinking too. That's why I'm here talking to you guys about it. As far as real life is concerned, I'm not really like that. I'm more in the moment!

But thanks man, I like the idea of the flirty text that also shows her that I want to take her on a day 2. Sweet & simple.

 

[SpartanWarrior77]

Just keep the first text simple. Put the ball in her court and see if she picks it up. If she does, get to the point and set up some specifics (suggest a night and time). Again, keep it all minimal. Don't get chatty with a lot of back and forth; make her commit before any more flirting, which you should also keep very minimal until you're with her in the flesh.

If her interest is high enough to set up a day 2 with you, there's nothing else you need to do. THe only thing you can do between now and then is ruin it with too much contact.

I don't get what you mean about the ball in her court thing but I think I get the overall concept: Don't get too chatty since she hasn't done anything to deserve it yet. Keep things simple and if she hooks for day 2, she's already invested. Just don't **** it up...

 

[SpartanWarrior77]

Wow, well what ended up happening is nothing. I texted her shortly after this forum and I received: No response. I texted her again 1-2 times but nothing. These are the more puzzling occurrences in game. I really don't know what went wrong...

 

[C00lAF]

Wow, well what ended up happening is nothing. I texted her shortly after this forum and I received: No response. I texted her again 1-2 times but nothing. These are the more puzzling occurrences in game. I really don't know what went wrong...

Welcome to women,next her

 

[Roober]

lots of first dates don't turn into anything. This can go both ways. Just learn from it and apply to the next woman.

 

[marmel75]

Wow, well what ended up happening is nothing. I texted her shortly after this forum and I received: No response. I texted her again 1-2 times but nothing. These are the more puzzling occurrences in game. I really don't know what went wrong...

Get used to it, but don't worry about it. Could be any number of reasons, or a reason you'd never even believe if she told you...

Just keep going on dates and your plate will be pretty full soon enough...