Dating two girls need help

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Hey everyone,

Long story short I'm dating two girls that I am attracted to both of them almost equivalently. Both women are keepers. Great personalities for me, beautiful yer nerdy, and they both have their degrees. I don't wanna be an ******* and date both at once. I have to choose and here is why.

Alias, Claire, is a virgin and she's keeping it until she gets married. To be a "nice guy" I don't want to mess with her brain. In my opinion it's a good thing to be a virgin, because she's still "pure", and I'm sure shes worked hard to keep it. However, I fear that I would get bored years from now because, what if, I'm still play the field, meeting new girls, f-closing, and flirting a bit.

Alias, Jennifer, is much more out going, definitely prettier and ready to f-close. My only concern is:

Meeting virgins are a dime a dozen these days, would I be stupid to pass this up? or should I stay away from her to avoid breaking hearts?

To the mature men community... Would it be a mistake to not progress and develop with a virgin? Would abstinence be the way to go for a perfect Marriage or would I be just plain stupid to fall for that?

I'm almost certain that if "Jennifer" follows through that I would just give "Claire" the news.

Or am I just flat out stupid for considering relationships?

 

[Slickster]

Wow you've got a long way to go and you're already in way over your head. I love it.

Continue to see them both for as long as you can. Don't commit to any relationships. Have as much fun as you can.

If Claire really is a virgin don't make a big deal out of it. If you are getting some action from Jenny it might not matter. Chances are Claire will break her vow eventually.

You are in a great position. Why mess it up with a "relationship".

Keep playing the field and having fun.

Remember this line: "I love spending time with you. We have so much fun. I'm just not looking for anything serious."

Keep us updated.

 

[DMSR76]

Don't waste your time committing to a virgin unless you're absolutely sure you're ready for the final step. You'll only end up frustrated in the end.

Not trying to rain on your parade, but sometimes a woman being a virgin well into her 20s is a red flag. It could very well allude to a sexual hang-up that may not necessarily resolve after marriage.

 

[squirrels]

You're going to base "which one you marry" solely on sex?

I'm gonna get a lot of use out of this link today:

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[countermart]

“Alias, Claire, is a virgin and she's keeping it until she gets married. To be a "nice guy" I don't want to mess with her brain.”

Ok you are going to hate me for telling you this, but guess what, one day you are going to wake up and find that sweet, innocent Claire has just f***** the bad boy biker or local player down the road, and you the self-confessed “nice guy” is going to be left disillusioned about women for the next +20 years.

This happens to so many guys it isn’t funny. In fact it happened to the famous Casanova himself and it was one of the things that changed him from a “nice guy” to the “bad boy” supreme. It was his epiphany.

Protect your heart my friend and repeat slowly after me...what a woman says means nothing, what a woman does is the only truth.

....and to answer your question, no you are just flat out stupid for considering marriage.

....your objective at this stage is to have fun. Good luck.

Countermart

 

[cordoncordon]

Date the non virgin. You yourself said she is prettier, more outgoing, and oh yeah, she likes to Fvck. END OF STORY.

If you date the virgin, you are just going to be miserable wondering about all the sex you are missing out on. Let her be with someone who is willing to go sexless, because you are not.

 

[bmp2cpm]

To be a "nice guy" I don't want to mess with her brain.

She's a woman, her brain has already been messed with. Have as much sex as you can with both of them. Virgin will have sex with a guy soon, it mine as well be you. Don't pressure her to have sex. Tease her until she begs you for it. If you don't another guy will and soon.

 

[backbreaker]

until you **** one of them yu aren't dating either one so the point is moot

 

[runner83]

Ahhh, the old "virgin", waiting until marriage ploy, used to scare away/disqualify chumps and betas...

“Alias, Claire, is a virgin and she's keeping it until she gets married. To be a "nice guy" I don't want to mess with her brain.”

Ok you are going to hate me for telling you this, but guess what, one day you are going to wake up and find that sweet, innocent Claire has just f***** the bad boy biker or local player down the road, and you the self-confessed “nice guy” is going to be left disillusioned about women for the next +20 years.

Concentrating only on the virgin and going along with her "waiting until marriage" will be a HUGE mistake:

Iron Rule of Tomassi #3

Any woman who makes you wait for sex, or by her actions implies she is making you wait for sex; the sex is NEVER worth the wait.

When a woman makes you wait for sex you are not her highest priority. Sexuality is spontaneous chemical reaction between two parties, not a process of negotiation. It's sex first, then relationship, not the other way around. A woman who wants to ƒuck you will find a way to ƒuck you. She will fly across the country, crawl under barbwire, climb in through your second story bedroom window, ƒuck the sh!t out of you and wait patiently inside your closet if your wife comes home early from work - women who want to ƒuck will find a way to ƒuck. The girl who tells you she wants a relationship first is the same girl who ƒucked the hot guy in the foam cannon party in Cancun on spring break half an hour after meeting him.

If a girl is that into you she'll ƒuck regardless of ASD or having her friends in the room videotaping it at a frat party. All women can be sluts, you just have to be the right guy to bring it out in them, and this happens before you go back to her place. If you have to plead your case cuddling and spooning on the bed or getting the occasional peck on the cheek, you need to go back to square one and start fresh.

So in answer to your questions:

Meeting virgins are a dime a dozen these days, would I be stupid to pass this up? or should I stay away from her to avoid breaking hearts?

Regardless of what she says, chances are she will give it when the right d8ck comes along. Might as well be you (this of course, assumes that she still is a virgin...)

Forget the feminine b/s about having to be in a relationship with a girl once you bang her. If you do it, there is no obligation and you can move on if you feel like it.

To the mature men community... Would it be a mistake to not progress and develop with a virgin? Would abstinence be the way to go for a perfect Marriage or would I be just plain stupid to fall for that?

Yes, keep her in your list of "potentials" and see how the situation unfolds. But in time, if she does not give it up, time to move on.

Do not fall for the "waiting for marriage" line. See RT's iron rule above and tattoo it into your brain.

Do not fall for this b/s when there are many girls just as good out there who will give it up.

I'm almost certain that if "Jennifer" follows through that I would just give "Claire" the news.

No, you woudn't. You would keep them both in your rotation. Just because you bang one, no need to give up on the other.

If you are not in an exclusive realationship, you should always be working on multiple girls.

Or am I just flat out stupid for considering relationships?

There is nothing wrong with forming a relationship with a girl you have known for some time who meets your criteria.

But in this situation, where you haven't even banged either of them, thinking about a relationship at this stage is a huge mistake.

Get the feminine b/s about having to be in a relationship once you bang a girl out of your head.

 

[KarmaSutra]

"If you're not fvcking her, you're her girlfriend."

'nuff said.

 

[Warrior74]

It's called "dating" for a reason. I think you are thinking to far ahead with all of this relationship talk. I would "date" both. If things with the virgin girl naturally progress and you choose her in the end so be it, but its nothing wrong with dating more than one girl at a time. Sounds like you are jumping the gun. Take time to get to know them and enjoy them both. If you enjoy sex with only one, so be it. Remain uncommitted until you are sure. That's what I'd do.

 

[scrouds]

date them both. Bang them both. Have fun.

On the topic: deflowering a virgin. The sex really isn't that good, but you can stick that notch on your belt.

Life is made out of the things you went for and did. Regrets are made out of the things you didn't go for and didn't try.

 

[TomSwift]

To the mature men community... Would it be a mistake to not progress and develop with a virgin? Would abstinence be the way to go for a perfect Marriage or would I be just plain stupid to fall for that?

To paraphrase a good friend of mine: Do you really want to have to train her?

I'm assuming you've been with experienced women before? Now imagine having to instruct and dictate every damn move she makes. Been there, not that exciting. A lot of guys will tell you that it's ideal, being able to mold her to your whim, but it's really not. You'll get bored, and after you've been married a few years so will she, considering you're the only guy she's ever fvcked.