dating female colleague from work

[bluemanson]

what would you guys do if a female colleague whom you took out for lunch pulls away when you try to kiss her .
how would you react or what would you do when it happended and how would you react the next day when you saw her at work.

well this happened to me and yesterday and when i took her home i just made like nothing happened and still joked in the car. now im not sure how to react when i see her tomoorw at work.
do i apologise for making her uncomfortable

any suggestions guys

 

[Scaramouche]

Dear Blue Manson,
Don't worry about it,It happens every now and again to most Don Juans....she won't say anything be assured.....If you raise the topic everyone will be embarrassed....Assuming she did you just laugh it off ...."Oh Come on whats a little peck between friends?"or maybe"Someone as nice as you would make a plaster Saint want to kiss them"....Really Blue she led you on and you are the one worth an apology.

 

[bluemanson]

thanks Scaramouche. i just hope she wont start acting cold or avoid me tomorrow. we did have quite a good relationship at at work . always having lunch together and stuff. but anyway i shal post again tomorrow and see how it went..

im just going to speak to her aout stuff and act like it didnt happen...

should be funny i hope lol

 

[Warrior74]

You know the deal about women and work. Tread carefully, its not worth yoou job and if it goes horribly wrong you could be in a world of hurt. Especially if you in the states in this bad economy. you couldn't pay me to date a chic at work these days. I can't afford to loose my job over something the size of a quarter that only feels good for a couple of hours. Paychecks feel good every month all month.

 

[bluemanson]

lol but im in south africa and our company is actuall doing well and we beating past years performance in these bad times so but i agree with you, anything poosible in these days.

you know what i spoke to her today. i did not mention anything just spoke too her about normal stuff adn she seems much warmer to me and she replies to my mails and stuff.

now i know women are weird creatures so im not sure what she is up to cos i feel something is just missing or it could be my mind playing tricks on me lol

 

[jophil28]

lol but im in south africa and our company is actuall doing well and we beating past years performance in these bad times so but i agree with you, anything poosible in these days.

you know what i spoke to her today. i did not mention anything just spoke too her about normal stuff adn she seems much warmer to me and she replies to my mails and stuff.

now i know women are weird creatures so im not sure what she is up to cos i feel something is just missing or it could be my mind playing tricks on me lol

Yeah, never let her know for a moment that you feel uncomfortable with what happened. The idea is to never look as if you are retreating or backpedaling from something which did no harm. YOu acted like a guy, so no apology is ever required . In fact, you may have triggered off some attraction in her. EVERY woman loves male attention.. .its female cocaine.

 

[squirrels]

"Pulls away when you try to kiss her"? There's some back-story to this...and I'm sure it's a hoot.

How old are you, anyway?? Where's Rollo when you NEED him?

If you can't calibrate when girls are ready to be kissed, then maybe you should stop potentially f**king up your career by trying to kiss girls at work.

 

[Bass-Turd]

South africa?

Are you a black man?

Don't do it if you're a black man

 

[bluemanson]

i aint a black man lol
but what does that have to do with it.

here some update:

When i speak to her she replies easily and i still use the c&f but something still feels weird. not sure if she pulling away from me or what but anyway
im thinking of asking her for a drink or something,

do i do it

 

[TravisBickle]

rule #1: don't date co-workers

 

[bluemanson]

ag come on where the fun in that and what if she looks like a vanessa hudgens lookalike and then what

 

[bluemanson]

oh i have a date with her lunch time so any suggestions how i can escalate knowing that the last kiss i tried to give didnt go as planned

 

[Rollo Tomassi]

When coworkers hook up and it's going great they call it an "Office Romance".

When it goes bad or they break up they call it "Sexual Harassment".

 

[Igetit!]

When coworkers hook up and it's going great they call it an "Office Romance".

When it goes bad or they break up they call it "Sexual Harassment".

Good one Mr.Tomassi.

My personal belief is this:It's the woman herself who decides whether or not a crime was commited,NOT WHATEVER IT WAS the guy did.

In other words,two guys can say exactly the same thing,or touch a woman in exactly the same places,with the only difference being that the woman likes one guy,and doesn't like the other. Even though both guys did or said everything identical,with the guy she likes,it's called flirting,but with the guy she doesn't like,it's called sexual harrassment.

So imo,it's not what a guy does that's considered a crime,it's whether the woman likes it or not.

 

[stubbornlights]

To avoid the whole harassment thing, try to kiss her away from work, on your own time. Then, it's extra-curricular. Doing it while you're working is kindof effed.

I was in the exact same situation a few weeks ago. I went in for the kiss, she moved her head, and blew me off. How did I react? At work, I was even more physical, touching her when I went by her, flirting subtly. And she started investing more; she invited me out after work to parties and to other events. Cut to glory times.

Don't act uncomfortable with what happened. Don't be phased by it. Push through. You're a man, you're an indomitable force. Be emotionally unreactive to her pushoffs. Assuming she showed signs of interest prior to your kiss attempt, you should be golden, you should be snogging in no time.

 

[bluemanson]

im doing exactly that stubbornlights
THanks

will update later after lunch.
gona ask her to join me.
will let yourl know how it went

 

[bluemanson]

ok so lunch didnt go as planned and she doesnt think of me in that way. and that im not her type.
wtf that suppose to mean but anyway i told her it cool and she can be just one of my friends.
dont think i am getting anywhere with this one

I guess you win some and you lose some and when you lose you pick yourself up and carry on.
ok whos next LOKL

 

[Alle_Gory]

rule #1: don't date co-workers

Depends how important the job is. If its something not serious or part-time who cares.

 

[Vice]

What I would do is make her just a friend, and then date her friends.